My Husband Has Refused To Help My Family After Paying ₦580K For My Bride Price - Nigerian Wife

Date: 23-06-2021 6:22 am (1 month ago) | Author: kacy lee
- at 23-06-2021 06:22 AM (1 month ago)
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A Nigerian Lady Identified as Elohor Okudu narrates how her husband has refused to help her own family members after paying almost N580k bride Price.

The story was shared by a twitter user identified as @SmartAtuadi, the lady is seeking professional advice as the issue bothers her.

She Wrote: “I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the traditional wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.”

“He was able to raise the money as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parents as he does send to his parents too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parents anything that they have collected all they are entitled to fromHelpNigerianally I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which amounted to 400k.”

“My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance, this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible.”

“Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2 years of courting.

“Please our mummies and daddies, kindly advise me on what to do to save the situation, I am in between my husband and my family”.


Posted: at 23-06-2021 06:22 AM (1 month ago) | Addicted Hero
- angelzizi at 23-06-2021 08:17 AM (1 month ago)
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I don't get why your husband would contribute to your brother's marriage ceremony? Are you really listening to yourself woman? A man earning just 70k monthly managed to cough out over half a million naira to please your greedy parents and you guys are still shamelessly imposing another bill on him for "YOUR brother's marriage"  Angry Huh? See girl your mumu don do abeg, stop feeling unnecessarily entitled and go get a job to help your own family while you focus on creating a happy home with your husband or be ready to go back to your greedy parents I'm sure they wouldn't mind at least that might give them another chance of extorting money from another unlucky man that's if you're lucky enough to find another suitor.
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- manager1603 at 23-06-2021 08:43 AM (1 month ago)
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Thank you so much!!!
Posted: at 23-06-2021 08:43 AM (1 month ago) | Newbie
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- Henrybobo at 23-06-2021 08:58 AM (1 month ago)
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Quote from: angelzizi on 23-06-2021 08:17 AM
I don't get why your husband would contribute to your brother's marriage ceremony? Are you really listening to yourself woman? A man earning just 70k monthly managed to cough out over half a million naira to please your greedy parents and you guys are still shamelessly imposing another bill on him for "YOUR brother's marriage"  Angry Huh? See girl your mumu don do abeg, stop feeling unnecessarily entitled and go get a job to help your own family while you focus on creating a happy home with your husband or be ready to go back to your greedy parents I'm sure they wouldn't mind at least that might give them another chance of extorting money from another unlucky man that's if you're lucky enough to find another suitor.
exactly
Posted: at 23-06-2021 08:58 AM (1 month ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Winchester052 at 23-06-2021 11:37 AM (1 month ago)
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This is a false story
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- HSEMAN1 at 23-06-2021 11:54 AM (1 month ago)
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Your family is not a responsible family not your husband. How can your husband be sending money monthly or even give your parent money when he has paid a heavy bride price. You dont need to feel bad to your husband, feel bad to your greedy parents. your husband do not owe your family a penny .

Get yourself a job and stop complaining ok. That is the result of foolish heavy bride price.

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- SweetDaddy1 at 23-06-2021 12:00 PM (1 month ago)
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Quote from: angelzizi on 23-06-2021 08:17 AM
I don't get why your husband would contribute to your brother's marriage ceremony? Are you really listening to yourself woman? A man earning just 70k monthly managed to cough out over half a million naira to please your greedy parents and you guys are still shamelessly imposing another bill on him for "YOUR brother's marriage"  Angry Huh? See girl your mumu don do abeg, stop feeling unnecessarily entitled and go get a job to help your own family while you focus on creating a happy home with your husband or be ready to go back to your greedy parents I'm sure they wouldn't mind at least that might give them another chance of extorting money from another unlucky man that's if you're lucky enough to find another suitor.
Good comment.

My advice; Apologise to your husband for telling him to send money to your greedy parents. I like your honesty in telling the story, you sound like a good woman. Do everything possible to keep your marriage and make it a happy home. Only a foolish father will give a list and not accept what the man can afford. Did your brother contributed money to help your husband when you got married ? When you start working you are free to send money to your family. I support your husband refusal to help your family because of the way he was treated during your traditional marriage.
Posted: at 23-06-2021 12:00 PM (1 month ago) | Gistmaniac
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- constigoldo at 23-06-2021 12:02 PM (1 month ago)
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This is an old story.  Why would your husband contribute to your brother's trad. marriage?  It is not compulsory.  Moreover, the list can be adjusted and your dad stands a better chance to help your husband manage the list  especially after you have spoken and pleaded with him.  Everything lies in his (your dad) hands because he can address his kinsmen in order to shield your husband who happens to be his in-law, considering what he can still gain from him in future not for him to expose him to his kinsmen to be tossed to and fro.  Your husband is angry with your dad over what he did to him, you really need to apologize to your husband for being rude to him, talk and persuade him to change his mind.
Posted: at 23-06-2021 12:02 PM (1 month ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ask-yourself-y at 23-06-2021 02:32 PM (1 month ago)
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Quote from: angelzizi on 23-06-2021 08:17 AM
I don't get why your husband would contribute to your brother's marriage ceremony? Are you really listening to yourself woman? A man earning just 70k monthly managed to cough out over half a million naira to please your greedy parents and you guys are still shamelessly imposing another bill on him for "YOUR brother's marriage"  Angry Huh? See girl your mumu don do abeg, stop feeling unnecessarily entitled and go get a job to help your own family while you focus on creating a happy home with your husband or be ready to go back to your greedy parents I'm sure they wouldn't mind at least that might give them another chance of extorting money from another unlucky man that's if you're lucky enough to find another suitor.
 
Well said !!!  greedy family, if her brother is not man enough or capable to get married or even take care of his wife and unborn babys, let him join the monck in the monastery
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- ask-yourself-y at 23-06-2021 02:41 PM (1 month ago)
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greedy family, if your brother is not man enough or capable to get married or even take care of his wife and unborn babys, let him join the monck in the monastery, for sure your husband didn't borrow money from his in-laws to get married to you,
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- SWORDMAN at 23-06-2021 02:58 PM (1 month ago)
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Wahala be like catholic church project he no dey finish
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- Noah147 at 23-06-2021 06:35 PM (1 month ago)
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You being sold lady
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