I met my guy at the University. We are deeply in love now and have been dating for 3 years. For some weeks now we have discovered that we are cousins, he is the son of one of my dad's sisters. Unfortunately for me and my siblings we grew up without knowing who my dad's family was. This is because they were against my parents marriage, just because my mum wasn't Nigerian. We've always lived in my mum's country till 7 years ago when my dad decided to come back to Nigeria and took us along. His father died few months ago and surprisingly my name was mentioned in his will though he had never seen me. I think this is because i was named after him and probably he knew that. On the day that his will was read, the world dropped on me. I came to know my guy was my cousin. His mum is my dad's elder sister. I knew her, but as my boyfriend's mum, never did i think she was my auntie. My guy hadn't met any of my parents yet, so he too he couldn't know that we are related. Now my parents and his are asking us to break up. I am trying to be reasonable but he is not. He thinks we can build a family for ourselves without our parent's blessings. That's not acceptable for me. I grew up not knowing my grandparents, aunties and uncles. I don't want my kids to experience what i went through. I'm ready to give up our love, as painful and difficult as it might seem but i don't know if i'm taking the right decision. I don't want to regret in the future. I need your advice.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 06:58 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
bittersweet at 18-11-2010 07:03 PM (14 years ago) (f)
I'm sorry, but I don't see other way than to give up on him! It's just abnormal!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:03 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
I met my guy at the University. We are deeply in love now and have been dating for 3 years. For some weeks now we have discovered that we are cousins, he is the son of one of my dad's sisters. Unfortunately for me and my siblings we grew up without knowing who my dad's family was. This is because they were against my parents marriage, just because my mum wasn't Nigerian. We've always lived in my mum's country till 7 years ago when my dad decided to come back to Nigeria and took us along. His father died few months ago and surprisingly my name was mentioned in his will though he had never seen me. I think this is because i was named after him and probably he knew that. On the day that his will was read, the world dropped on me. I came to know my guy was my cousin. His mum is my dad's elder sister. I knew her, but as my boyfriend's mum, never did i think she was my auntie. My guy hadn't met any of my parents yet, so he too he couldn't know that we are related. Now my parents and his are asking us to break up. I am trying to be reasonable but he is not. He thinks we can build a family for ourselves without our parent's blessings. That's not acceptable for me. I grew up not knowing my grandparents, aunties and uncles. I don't want my kids to experience what i went through. I'm ready to give up our love, as painful and difficult as it might seem but i don't know if i'm taking the right decision. I don't want to regret in the future. I need your advice.
l think yu've made a Good Decision
He should try and Understand
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:11 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
I'm very sorry for the situation in front of u now, i think your decision is right cos it is abnormal and morally wrong for u guys to be one flesh. Your decision is right and i don't think you will regret the future.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:17 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
My dear there is nothing to regret about,you have taking the right step to dissolved the relationship.i understand how painful it is but, you see you can't marry your own blood is an abominable act if you do so..if you love your life and you want peace for the rest of your life just terminate the relationship whether he likes it or not...there is no compromise in this situation is a taboo to marry your own cousin.pls avoid cause in your life goodluck.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:31 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
This is very sad. The advise given to you by people so far is the correct advise. You need to work away from the relationship, but welcome each other as family members. Time to rebuilt the relationship as painful and as difficult as it may be.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 11:47 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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