When You Are Angry............. (Page 7)

I gat a very bad/hot temper and when angry i jst  try my best to leave the scene or else......huh...
bt in all it teks self control to do it .

Posted: at 17-12-2010 02:17 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

JUST IGNORE IT OK

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Posted: at 17-12-2010 03:40 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

wen eva am angry i will like to be left alone or if i listen to very gud music under two sec i will 4get everytin i dnt cary tins in mind

Posted: at 17-12-2010 06:16 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

u no dey

Posted: at 17-12-2010 07:09 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Yeah,yeah!I know what u're saying!

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Posted: at 17-12-2010 07:42 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Anger is an emotion that can be difficult to deal with. Sometimes it’s experienced as a fleeting annoyance while other times it consumes our bodies with a burning rage. Anger is a natural human emotion, and it happens to everybody, whether we openly express it or not. The problem is not that we have anger. How we process anger determines whether it becomes a tool for self healing or a weapon of destruction.

Anger is a wave of energy. It is not who we are (as in “I am an angry person”). Instead it is an emotion that is visiting for a short while — unless we decide to hold onto it. If anger is acknowledged and released in healthy ways, it can lead to deeper feelings of love. If anger is welcomed as it occurs and seen for what it really is, it will pass. However, not dealing directly with anger can lead to subtle forms of anger that can last for days or even years. These subtle forms of anger may include resentment, impatience, chronic irritability, withdrawal, isolation, etc. Consistent prolonged levels of anger can affect health producing migraines, arthritis, and head, neck and shoulder problems. As with any suppressed emotion, unresolved anger can lead to self-soothing with comfort eating or other addictions.

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Posted: at 17-12-2010 08:52 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

1. Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t allow connection with your feeling, and won’t allow movement to occur. Acknowledge that you have anger and take some time to feel it within your body. Decide not to run away from it. Thank the anger for being present. Allow for the ideas that even if you don’t understand your anger completely, somehow you felt threatened. Your anger is attempting to fight for you. Gratitude will melt resistance you have towards your own anger.

2. Give anger your unconditional acceptance. Commit to yourself that you will not judge, ignore, shame, reject, criticize, or punish yourself for having anger. It is allowable for you to have anger. Your experience is meaningful.

3. Share your desire to get to know your anger, why it is here, and what it wants for you. Anger is not your enemy. Anger indicates you are in pain, hurt, or fear. It’s very presence allows an opportunity to heal or open the doorway to greater love. Express your desire to know what experiences might be connected with this anger. Communicate with your anger in a way that you allow yourself to be its friend, and that your desire is to have it express itself to you.

4. Allow your anger, words, or memories to have a safe space to come out. As you listen to your anger, go beyond the surface and ask what you are feeling threatened by. Ask what you would need from yourself to feel even a little better. Notice the energy in your body, breathe into that energy, and allow it to expand until you feel a physical shift. Continue to remember anger is an experience, not who you are.

5. Recognize that beneath your anger, you felt threatened in some manner. Listen and be willing to understand what lives inside of you. Offer love to your anger and the tender place beneath your anger. This is the process of transformation. You don’t need to solve anything, rather you need to bring a loving presence to the hurt that lives beneath anger. Your job is to realize exactly what caused you to feel threatened, and now allow for new assertive, loving, and adult ways of dealing with that threat.

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Posted: at 17-12-2010 08:56 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Brains aren't designed to get results; they go in directions. If you know how the brain works you can set your own directions. If you don't, then someone else will.

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Posted: at 17-12-2010 09:19 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

OK

Posted: at 17-12-2010 09:23 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

passed with anger

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Posted: at 17-12-2010 09:52 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero