romantic relationship between siblings,is it ok?

So here is the story... yesterday one of my african friends called me literally bawling her eyes out over the heartache she was about to explain to me.  my friend told me that for 5years she has been dating this guy and finally he asked her to marry him, after all she was 4 months pregnant by him. and of course she loved him too,so she accepted.  Anyways  my friend's father  studied medicine  in the usa in the 80s and after schooling he went back to the congo to practice medicine, but while he was in the usa, he had multiple girlfriends whom he had segxwal relations with, and i guess some of that relationship produced a children, but the woman never told him, especially since after his residency he  went back to his country leaving her no contact information. The woman had triplets 1981, two boys and one girl. Since the mother of the children couldnt remember her boyfriend's lastname  she gave her children hers. so my friend's fiancee is one of the male children of the triplets. Now my friend's mother  married  her high school sweet heart,who had returned home after years of study abroad, and in 1985 my friend and her twin brother was born. My friend's father sent her abroad to study and as faith had it she ended up in the same school as her fiancee,where he was a grad student and she an undergrad. anyways from there on my friend says her fiancee's mom and her mom became good friends. So  sunday was her engagement party and for the first time her father met the fiancee's mom, at least my friend thought,and thats when she learned that she was carrying her brother's baby.... at this moment she is 7months gone and  too late to abort,and also the two couple have been inlove ever since they met eachother in college, and she refuses to let him go,so now she asked me what she should do. Am both their friend,am also torn inside for her and him,and their whole family in general. After she told me the story last night i didnt and still dont know what to say, all i can do is pray God gives them the wisdom to make the right decision.What do you guys think, any advice on what they should do?

Posted: at 29-12-2010 07:32 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

this is wat happens when you decide to get pregnant befor getting to to the right thing.well,its a taboo.if i were in her shoes,i will have the baby but i wont marry him.and pray to God for forgiveness.there are so many men out there.

Posted: at 29-12-2010 07:45 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

Is it Ok yu ask ?

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Posted: at 29-12-2010 07:52 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

sorry madam.you just said its a taboo and abomination.so why not tell her the same thing.its not a matter of how they knew or how long they got to know .its a matter of doing the right thing.

Posted: at 29-12-2010 08:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

bad time

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Posted: at 29-12-2010 09:18 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Let her go ahead and give birth to the child but dont marry her brother. if she gives birth to the child and she doesnt want to keep, she can give it out.

Posted: at 29-12-2010 10:14 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

So, what do you expect her to do huh?

Posted: at 29-12-2010 10:17 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Yep! It's a Matter of Doing What is Right

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Posted: at 29-12-2010 11:52 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Anyone whom might want to adopt the child.

Posted: at 30-12-2010 02:24 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

this situation is quite unfortunate and I feel for the couple. We all know what they have to do, the poster knows it so does the couple. Having said that, it wont be automatic, human emotions deeper, they have been together for seven years now and will have a child together. They will try and rationalise things n find justification for what they av done just so that the past seven years is not a sham. But deep down they know what they have to do but might need a push in the right direction

poster- they r going to need your support n that of everyone else especially your friend; she is at a delicate stage, I hope she doesnt go crazy. I cant imagine being her....b there for her n try to keep her away from her brother/ fiancee.

Posted: at 14-11-2011 04:34 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac