I met this former schoolmate of mine on facebook and we started chatting and now we are dating. He lives flamboyant, parties and he is more understanding and fun person than most of the guys i've dated before.so we hit it off quickly. i visited my boyfriend in his city only to find out that the boy actually has all th nice clothes, nice car, a house and all that but he is heavily in debt.Now that was scary for me. i like him because he understands me a lot better than most guys i date, and i never have to pretend with him.but abeg, i am an ordinary college student i don't want to start my life on someone's huge debt.the boy can't pay his own bills.i try to tell him to cut down on his unnecessary spending like on parties,drinks and sponsoring friends and family members when he knows that kobo no dey for am pocket.unfortunately,this boy tells me that oh i will work and make money then spend it. ahh,what a fool! i am not getting any younger.i am 26yrs old and my mother won't let me sleep without bothering me about marriage but my boyfriend can't afford to take care of himself well talking about starting a family.if there's any bigger liar in this world than him, i will vote him for a priest. he will lie about anything.I care about him but I can't take up his responsibilities with my own. This boy has never bought a pin for me not even on my birthday so on his birthday i bought a shirt i was going to post to him but instead i gave it away to someone.because i think this boy is taking me for granted.he is not a lazy person,he works every single day but he can't keep the money he makes.What do i do? I want to be engaged by the end of this year if i am still with or move on because i don't want to waste my time. please advice me...i am open to any opinion.Thanks to everyone of you here!
Hmmmm !! You're already thinking about marriage with him, is he thinking about that now ? thats my first question, 2ndly: Have you ever tried to have discussions with him about his future plans and so on? what was his responses about it, how do you see future with him? Do you think he is the type that can listen to your candid advices and make a change ?
If all is positive with the answers you get from him!! Then i will suggest you stick with him, Both of you are not too old or young to live a better life, as you mentioned on your post, He's hardworking guy, Right?? then teach him how to make savings for future and to invest in things that will yield better fruits for future, not drinks, friends and parties etc.
BELIEVE IN A CHANGE, Just like Obama did
Goodluck !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 7-01-2011 09:25 PM (13 years ago) | Hero |
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