what are things a man needed to do before marriage

a good friend of my called his father he is  coming back to get married at home , but his father told him ,he  is not a man yet  to get married because he never done some things that will make him have a good home after marry, pals and married onces here, what are the things a man needs to put in place before get married? girls here what did you think your husband to be needs to put in place before coming for u?

Posted: at 10-01-2011 06:41 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

A man must be established,he must have his own house and business,if he is working in the corporate world
he needs to save some money to establish his own business and build his house,or better still he can be building a house while he is working in the corporate world.he has to plan for marriage,this way his wife and children wont suffer...his wife and children must have
 financial and social security.

Posted: at 10-01-2011 06:52 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Aside Financial security, you need to STABILIZE yourself in matters of the heart.

Many homes are wrecked even in the presence of money and security.
Children are wayward and crime inventors in the presence of power, security, and money

A man needs to properly understand what he is venturing into.
He has to clearly define marriage outside the book definition
Ask himself, How he is going to make the institution work even when its heading towards to rock
He has to study the Female specie with kin interest.... because what you see does not appear that way.

Learn from people's mistakes.

Finally ask yourself where you want to be in the next 30yrs?

Posted: at 10-01-2011 09:36 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

@Patience i thumb up for you.

@Poster, A man need to build a house and most not depend on family for anything.  He most stand as a man to be able to control his wife/house.

Posted: at 10-01-2011 09:52 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

I am seeing a Nigerian man and he has gone back to organise papers etc and for us to get married he mentioned he has to build house to a level. What does this mean and how much does this cost. He did mention that there is materials for foundation and labor for men can someone please elaborate on this more and what other customs are there to be done? I am still learning all this and this is the first site that I had found with answers that had been given by him and his friend. He is a tradionalist of the Nigerian customs as a white lady I would like to know more on the customs as I have done search after search and still a little lost.

Thank you in advance

Posted: at 26-07-2011 08:12 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

If u are a man and u have all the well with all to marry (total package), u should ask yourself some questions like; are u really ready for this cross? can u really change your single life style to that of married life? Can u tolerate some certain things u couldn't tolerate when u were single? Can u still cherish your wife for many years to come even if her beauty and some of her qualities degenerate? Can u respect and keep to your marriage vow? Can u think and  forsee your family future in the next triple decades to come? Is a tough task that u need to consider before the commencement of the marriage journey that has no end till the close of age.

Posted: at 26-07-2011 08:56 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

He needs to be really ready for "commitment"

Posted: at 26-07-2011 09:13 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

just commitment?

Posted: at 26-07-2011 09:40 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

onyin sweetie i need u 

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Posted: at 26-07-2011 09:49 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

no,cos i want a happy life.we go work together to get that swimming pool.

Posted: at 26-07-2011 09:57 AM (13 years ago) | Hero