What will you do if your partner can't have a baby? (Page 4)

Date: 13-01-2011 9:50 am (14 years ago) | Author: Groove Rocker
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- bittersweet at 13-01-2011 11:19 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:49 PM
What can one do? if both of them had great understanding and good relationship filled with Love, the wife should be the one to advise the man to get someone that can bear him a child. is all about Understanding between the couples. Any reasonable woman that finds herself in such medical problem and still the man stood by her all the time, shouldn't allow the man spend all his lifetime without having a child. encourage him to get another woman that could bear him children, thats the way out.

You must be kidding!

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:19 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Kennee at 13-01-2011 11:21 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin

They'll Steal One  Cool
Grin Grin Grin na thief be that na!

Ok, what if Dem See one Pick?  Smiley

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:21 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 13-01-2011 11:21 PM (14 years ago)
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if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin
if we are that poor,then we stick to ourselves.but if he brings up the idea of having another woman pregnant,then i will start packing my bags.i'm not needed anymore.
oh jeh!so u can't suggest for second wife?(as an example..not ur potion ok!)
nop,a second wife is not an option for me.i dont think marriage is all about making babies.babies are blessings ,if you are blessed to have them then thank God.but if your story is the other way round,still thank your God.aslong as the love and understanding is there between the both of you.there are kids all over the world.its life
hmmm onyin it's easy..i mean very easy to say..trust me! in reality, things will go wrong for sure..why? the pressure from the parents & family members can cause great havoc.only few percentage of couples can stand such psychological,mental & emotional pressure..

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:21 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 13-01-2011 11:23 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:18 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:03 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:57 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:52 PM
another woman to bear children as what? @dk


As second wife.
Or Will a healthy man stay all his life time without having someone to replace him or call his child because of some medical problem from the wife ? Personally I don't think is normal that way.
i just want u to clarify it & u did..from men(most) point of view, your suggestion is good. but it will be very difficult for most women to agree on that..coz they will feel isolated after the second wife starting having children..


Of course most women will always feel like that, But remember like i said, It takes allot of understanding and encouragement from the Lady to suggest that to the man. The man shouldn't be the one pressuring to get another woman to bear him children, despite some Men will be the one to do this if such case be.

But if any Man, that the wife will bring such idea to because of her condition not to bear him child, will ever isolate that woman, is not good, that new lady coming in, should know everything and why she came along, and the man and the new lady should always respect and regard that first lady, no matter how many children the new wife will bear for the man. I know is very difficult task, but this is where Love should be applied and reign !! the question is, how many people will have such understanding and love to live together without having problems.


And what if you would be the one where the problem is,huh?
You'll send her to sleep with another guy or what?

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:23 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- coolandrea at 13-01-2011 11:23 PM (14 years ago)
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4 reala, sumtin nids 2 b done...person no need 2 tel u na except say d man no get mama again...
Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:23 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ILOVEIT at 13-01-2011 11:25 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:09 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin

They'll Steal One  Cool
Grin Grin Grin na thief be that na!

Ok, what if Dem See one Pick?  Smiley
pick where?pikin dey for garbage?

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:25 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- dirtykid at 13-01-2011 11:27 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 13-01-2011 11:23 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:18 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:03 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:57 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:52 PM
another woman to bear children as what? @dk


As second wife.
Or Will a healthy man stay all his life time without having someone to replace him or call his child because of some medical problem from the wife ? Personally I don't think is normal that way.
i just want u to clarify it & u did..from men(most) point of view, your suggestion is good. but it will be very difficult for most women to agree on that..coz they will feel isolated after the second wife starting having children..


Of course most women will always feel like that, But remember like i said, It takes allot of understanding and encouragement from the Lady to suggest that to the man. The man shouldn't be the one pressuring to get another woman to bear him children, despite some Men will be the one to do this if such case be.

But if any Man, that the wife will bring such idea to because of her condition not to bear him child, will ever isolate that woman, is not good, that new lady coming in, should know everything and why she came along, and the man and the new lady should always respect and regard that first lady, no matter how many children the new wife will bear for the man. I know is very difficult task, but this is where Love should be applied and reign !! the question is, how many people will have such understanding and love to live together without having problems.


And what if you would be the one where the problem is,huh?
You'll send her to sleep with another guy or what?



This is a matter of understanding and so on, Listen what do you peeps call Love or think Love is ?? Do to others what you wish/want them to do to you !! thats my simple way of understanding what Love is all about.

If i happen to be the one with such medical problem and is well known to be and her, I will not want to waste her single year sticking by me without given her a child to call her own son/daughter, I will suggest to her to re-marry and let me be. no two ways about that. Like i said, is all about great understanding between the couples.

Why dragging water kept for the swines , will you drink from it ?? thats the question someone in this position should first ask him/herself.

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:27 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 13-01-2011 11:30 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:27 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 13-01-2011 11:23 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:18 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:03 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:57 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:52 PM
another woman to bear children as what? @dk


As second wife.
Or Will a healthy man stay all his life time without having someone to replace him or call his child because of some medical problem from the wife ? Personally I don't think is normal that way.
i just want u to clarify it & u did..from men(most) point of view, your suggestion is good. but it will be very difficult for most women to agree on that..coz they will feel isolated after the second wife starting having children..


Of course most women will always feel like that, But remember like i said, It takes allot of understanding and encouragement from the Lady to suggest that to the man. The man shouldn't be the one pressuring to get another woman to bear him children, despite some Men will be the one to do this if such case be.

But if any Man, that the wife will bring such idea to because of her condition not to bear him child, will ever isolate that woman, is not good, that new lady coming in, should know everything and why she came along, and the man and the new lady should always respect and regard that first lady, no matter how many children the new wife will bear for the man. I know is very difficult task, but this is where Love should be applied and reign !! the question is, how many people will have such understanding and love to live together without having problems.


And what if you would be the one where the problem is,huh?
You'll send her to sleep with another guy or what?



This is a matter of understanding and so on, Listen what do you peeps call Love or think Love is ?? Do to others what you wish/want them to do to you !! thats my simple way of understanding what Love is all about.

If i happen to be the one with such medical problem and is well known to be and her, I will not want to waste her single year sticking by me without given her a child to call her own son/daughter, I will suggest to her to re-marry and let me be. no two ways about that. Like i said, is all about great understanding between the couples.

Why dragging water kept for the swines , will you drink from it ?? thats the question someone in this position should first ask him/herself.


Hmmmm!
And what if she doesn't care if she has kids or not?


Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:30 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Kennee at 13-01-2011 11:31 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:25 PM
Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:09 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin

They'll Steal One  Cool
Grin Grin Grin na thief be that na!

Ok, what if Dem See one Pick?  Smiley
pick where?pikin dey for garbage?

 Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy It's Funny Sha, but dis Happens a lot... In my Street, we Found One Baby in the Bushes last year or 2

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:31 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 13-01-2011 11:35 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:18 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:03 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:57 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:52 PM
another woman to bear children as what? @dk

As second wife.
Or Will a healthy man stay all his life time without having someone to replace him or call his child because of some medical problem from the wife ? Personally I don't think is normal that way.
i just want u to clarify it & u did..from men(most) point of view, your suggestion is good. but it will be very difficult for most women to agree on that..coz they will feel isolated after the second wife starting having children..

Of course most women will always feel like that, But remember like i said, It takes allot of understanding and encouragement from the Lady to suggest that to the man. The man shouldn't be the one pressuring to get another woman to bear him children, despite some Men will be the one to do this if such case be.

But if any Man, that the wife will bring such idea to because of her condition not to bear him child, will ever isolate that woman, is not good, that new lady coming in, should know everything and why she came along, and the man and the new lady should always respect and regard that first lady, no matter how many children the new wife will bear for the man. I know is very difficult task, but this is where Love should be applied and reign !! the question is, how many people will have such understanding and love to live together without having problems
now u are taking!"with the words in red"..the percentage currently are very slim..apparently i can see it, in "2%."in this present time..

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:35 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 13-01-2011 11:37 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:31 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:25 PM
Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: Kennee on 13-01-2011 11:09 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin

They'll Steal One  Cool
Grin Grin Grin na thief be that na!

Ok, what if Dem See one Pick?  Smiley
pick where?pikin dey for garbage?

 Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy It's Funny Sha, but dis Happens a lot... In my Street, we Found One Baby in the Bushes last year or 2
wow!! Shocked  really?hmm but you should know that,not every person will be that lucky to pick one as u said.

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:37 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- onyin at 13-01-2011 11:50 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:05 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 10:54 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin
if we are that poor,then we stick to ourselves.but if he brings up the idea of having another woman pregnant,then i will start packing my bags.i'm not needed anymore.
oh jeh!so u can't suggest for second wife?(as an example..not ur potion ok!)
nop,a second wife is not an option for me.i dont think marriage is all about making babies.babies are blessings ,if you are blessed to have them then thank God.but if your story is the other way round,still thank your God.aslong as the love and understanding is there between the both of you.there are kids all over the world.its life
hmmm onyin it's easy..i mean very easy to say..trust me! in reality, things will go wrong for sure..why? the pressure from the parents & family members can cause great havoc.only few percentage of couples can stand such psychological,mental & emotional pressure..
i'm no fan to polygamous family.i will rather divorce him and let him have his way.and i trust my family.no matter how crazy in love i am with him,they will definitely go fetch me out from that marriage.
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- dirtykid at 13-01-2011 11:52 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 13-01-2011 11:30 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:27 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 13-01-2011 11:23 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:18 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:03 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:57 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:52 PM
another woman to bear children as what? @dk


As second wife.
Or Will a healthy man stay all his life time without having someone to replace him or call his child because of some medical problem from the wife ? Personally I don't think is normal that way.
i just want u to clarify it & u did..from men(most) point of view, your suggestion is good. but it will be very difficult for most women to agree on that..coz they will feel isolated after the second wife starting having children..


Of course most women will always feel like that, But remember like i said, It takes allot of understanding and encouragement from the Lady to suggest that to the man. The man shouldn't be the one pressuring to get another woman to bear him children, despite some Men will be the one to do this if such case be.

But if any Man, that the wife will bring such idea to because of her condition not to bear him child, will ever isolate that woman, is not good, that new lady coming in, should know everything and why she came along, and the man and the new lady should always respect and regard that first lady, no matter how many children the new wife will bear for the man. I know is very difficult task, but this is where Love should be applied and reign !! the question is, how many people will have such understanding and love to live together without having problems.


And what if you would be the one where the problem is,huh?
You'll send her to sleep with another guy or what?



This is a matter of understanding and so on, Listen what do you peeps call Love or think Love is ?? Do to others what you wish/want them to do to you !! thats my simple way of understanding what Love is all about.

If i happen to be the one with such medical problem and is well known to be and her, I will not want to waste her single year sticking by me without given her a child to call her own son/daughter, I will suggest to her to re-marry and let me be. no two ways about that. Like i said, is all about great understanding between the couples.

Why dragging water kept for the swines , will you drink from it ?? thats the question someone in this position should first ask him/herself.


Hmmmm!
And what if she doesn't care if she has kids or not?




In such case, is not the man's fault, if she refuse to look for another man. But i suggest the man should say it out and do what he has to do regarding his situation, if she insist to stick with the man, so be it....... It shows also real Love from her side, You can never chase her away from her home. But the question is, How many women out there are ready to stay like that, with impotent man without trying to cheat on him secretly or making problems with him because he can't pregnant them. Some women will use that as a gateway to cheat on the man often or abuse him most times if they will have some misunderstanding in the house, which happens in any relationship no matter how much honey and milk they claim to be in love together. that situation will always occur.

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:52 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 13-01-2011 11:53 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:50 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:05 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 10:54 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin
if we are that poor,then we stick to ourselves.but if he brings up the idea of having another woman pregnant,then i will start packing my bags.i'm not needed anymore.
oh jeh!so u can't suggest for second wife?(as an example..not ur potion ok!)
nop,a second wife is not an option for me.i dont think marriage is all about making babies.babies are blessings ,if you are blessed to have them then thank God.but if your story is the other way round,still thank your God.aslong as the love and understanding is there between the both of you.there are kids all over the world.its life
hmmm onyin it's easy..i mean very easy to say..trust me! in reality, things will go wrong for sure..why? the pressure from the parents & family members can cause great havoc.only few percentage of couples can stand such psychological,mental & emotional pressure..
i'm no fan to polygamous family.i will rather divorce him and let him have his way.and i trust my family.no matter how crazy in love i am with him,they will definitely go fetch me out from that marriage.
ok,nice to get your view..now if the reverse is the case,what will you do?

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:53 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 13-01-2011 11:57 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:52 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 13-01-2011 11:30 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:27 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 13-01-2011 11:23 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 11:18 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:03 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 13-01-2011 10:57 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:52 PM
another woman to bear children as what? @dk


As second wife.
Or Will a healthy man stay all his life time without having someone to replace him or call his child because of some medical problem from the wife ? Personally I don't think is normal that way.
i just want u to clarify it & u did..from men(most) point of view, your suggestion is good. but it will be very difficult for most women to agree on that..coz they will feel isolated after the second wife starting having children..


Of course most women will always feel like that, But remember like i said, It takes allot of understanding and encouragement from the Lady to suggest that to the man. The man shouldn't be the one pressuring to get another woman to bear him children, despite some Men will be the one to do this if such case be.

But if any Man, that the wife will bring such idea to because of her condition not to bear him child, will ever isolate that woman, is not good, that new lady coming in, should know everything and why she came along, and the man and the new lady should always respect and regard that first lady, no matter how many children the new wife will bear for the man. I know is very difficult task, but this is where Love should be applied and reign !! the question is, how many people will have such understanding and love to live together without having problems.


And what if you would be the one where the problem is,huh?
You'll send her to sleep with another guy or what?



This is a matter of understanding and so on, Listen what do you peeps call Love or think Love is ?? Do to others what you wish/want them to do to you !! thats my simple way of understanding what Love is all about.

If i happen to be the one with such medical problem and is well known to be and her, I will not want to waste her single year sticking by me without given her a child to call her own son/daughter, I will suggest to her to re-marry and let me be. no two ways about that. Like i said, is all about great understanding between the couples.

Why dragging water kept for the swines , will you drink from it ?? thats the question someone in this position should first ask him/herself.


Hmmmm!
And what if she doesn't care if she has kids or not?




In such case, is not the man's fault, if she refuse to look for another man. But i suggest the man should say it out and do what he has to do regarding his situation, if she insist to stick with the man, so be it....... It shows also real Love from her side, You can never chase her away from her home. But the question is, How many women out there are ready to stay like that, with impotent man without trying to cheat on him secretly or making problems with him because he can't pregnant them. Some women will use that as a gateway to cheat on the man often or abuse him most times if they will have some misunderstanding in the house, which happens in any relationship no matter how much honey and milk they claim to be in love together. that situation will always occur.


Sterility and impotence are 2 different things, so no reasons for her to go outside!
And there are women who don't make a big deal from having kids!They are or they are not(the kids)!

Posted: at 13-01-2011 11:57 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- SNYPER at 14-01-2011 12:01 AM (14 years ago)
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interesting lessons
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- onyin at 14-01-2011 12:01 AM (14 years ago)
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.and suggest adoption
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:53 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:50 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:05 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 10:54 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin
if we are that poor,then we stick to ourselves.but if he brings up the idea of having another woman pregnant,then i will start packing my bags.i'm not needed anymore.
oh jeh!so u can't suggest for second wife?(as an example..not ur potion ok!)
nop,a second wife is not an option for me.i dont think marriage is all about making babies.babies are blessings ,if you are blessed to have them then thank God.but if your story is the other way round,still thank your God.aslong as the love and understanding is there between the both of you.there are kids all over the world.its life
hmmm onyin it's easy..i mean very easy to say..trust me! in reality, things will go wrong for sure..why? the pressure from the parents & family members can cause great havoc.only few percentage of couples can stand such psychological,mental & emotional pressure..
i'm no fan to polygamous family.i will rather divorce him and let him have his way.and i trust my family.no matter how crazy in love i am with him,they will definitely go fetch me out from that marriage.
ok,nice to get your view..now if the reverse is the case,what will you do?
keep praying to God for strength,wisdom and for a child.  stand by him and suggest adoption.i know its no easy thing to do.
Posted: at 14-01-2011 12:01 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 14-01-2011 12:04 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 14-01-2011 12:01 AM
.and suggest adoption
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Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:50 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:21 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 11:16 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 11:05 PM
Quote from: onyin on 13-01-2011 10:54 PM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 13-01-2011 10:40 PM
if those couple get no money for adoption nko@onyin
if we are that poor,then we stick to ourselves.but if he brings up the idea of having another woman pregnant,then i will start packing my bags.i'm not needed anymore.
oh jeh!so u can't suggest for second wife?(as an example..not ur potion ok!)
nop,a second wife is not an option for me.i dont think marriage is all about making babies.babies are blessings ,if you are blessed to have them then thank God.but if your story is the other way round,still thank your God.aslong as the love and understanding is there between the both of you.there are kids all over the world.its life
hmmm onyin it's easy..i mean very easy to say..trust me! in reality, things will go wrong for sure..why? the pressure from the parents & family members can cause great havoc.only few percentage of couples can stand such psychological,mental & emotional pressure..
i'm no fan to polygamous family.i will rather divorce him and let him have his way.and i trust my family.no matter how crazy in love i am with him,they will definitely go fetch me out from that marriage.
ok,nice to get your view..now if the reverse is the case,what will you do?
keep praying to God for strength,wisdom and for a child.  stand by him and suggest adoption.i know its no easy thing to do.
no money for adoption remember! Cheesy Cheesy

Posted: at 14-01-2011 12:04 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- diplomatik at 14-01-2011 12:04 AM (14 years ago)
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i'm reading  good points Cheesy

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- ILOVEIT at 14-01-2011 12:04 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: diplomatik on 14-01-2011 12:04 AM
i'm reading  good points Cheesy
Cheesy Cheesy from who and who?

Posted: at 14-01-2011 12:04 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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