"Why I Was Divorced Twice" –Soundtrack Composer, Stanley Okorie Opens Up About Marital Struggle

Date: 23-06-2024 1:53 pm (3 weeks ago) | Author: Mister Jay Wonder
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Veteran Nollywood soundtrack composer and singer Stanley Okorie has candidly shared the reasons behind the failures of his first two marriages. In a heartfelt conversation with popular media personality Chude Jideonwo, Okorie revealed the challenges he faced and the personal growth he experienced through these tumultuous times.

Okorie disclosed that his first marriage ended in divorce because his wife considered his songs "stupid," while also acknowledging his own shortcomings as an "insensitive" husband.

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“My first divorce was the most painful. You know, the first cut is always the deepest. I have my own share of blame. Most people, when they talk about their problems in a marriage or a relationship, are quick to highlight the other person’s faults. I’m not saying I was entirely at fault, but I was a very insensitive husband. I blame myself for that one,”
Okorie admitted.

Reflecting on his behavior during his first marriage, Okorie confessed,
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“I wasn’t a caring husband. Sometimes, if my wife did her hair, I’d say, ‘I’m going to the studio, come ooo.’ No, that’s not nice. I wouldn’t remember her birthday because there was a time I was doing all the job [Nollywood soundtracks], and people would call me from London, pay for my ticket, and I would go and do the music. I thought providing for the family was enough. But sometimes, the first rule of love is presence. You can give all the money, but the first rule of love is presence.”

Okorie’s wife wasn’t interested in financial support alone.
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“My first wife wasn’t after money. Sometimes, when I gave her money, I’d return to find the money on the table. I was very busy with music, going from studio to studio. So when I look back, I see that’s the cost. Everything comes at a cost. Economists call it opportunity cost. In my first marriage, I was very, very insensitive. If I had been more mature—of course, I married very young—I wondered why she wasn’t seeing all the work I was doing. I failed on that score.”

The composer described the moment his first wife decided to leave. “The first day she looked at me and said, ‘I can’t take this anymore,’ I knew she was telling the truth, so I didn’t want to argue. Instead of going to beg her, I was singing stupid songs to console myself.”

Okorie’s second marriage also ended in tragedy, compounded by personal loss.
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“After that, I went through a second divorce. At some point, my wife died. My son died. Some of the songs I sing were my escape from my sad reality, and they helped me deal with it to some level. But I tell you, there’s no method of dealing with a problem better than confronting the problem. So music wasn’t fair to me on that score. I was using it as an escape instead of confronting my problems. Some things that delight you today will, at some point, hurt. So that’s how it’s been a blessing and a curse.”

Despite the hardships, Okorie has found happiness and stability in his current life. “But I’m happy now where I am. I’m happily married with kids, doing well, and still recording music.”

Okorie’s revelations have sparked discussions about the personal sacrifices and emotional toll faced by artists in the Nollywood industry, shedding light on the balance between professional success and personal well-being.


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