![-]( "Pepesy") Pepesy at 15-04-2011 12:59 PM (13 years ago)  (f) abi miracle children
How is that suppose to be Miracle ? She's a cheat  And what do u suggest he should do? is a very tough situation here, I still don't get it, why she is in a hurry to make babies if the hubby is not worried about that? some answers are required here, what is she saving, for who ? if she truly love the man, she should stay with him like they're not sleeping outside making the man to look as if he's the real father of those kids, na waooo.. this is not acceptable  She's in a hurry 2 make babies cos she's a woman. She's saving her marriage for her hubby coz she doesnt wnt 2 loose him. Let me ask u,,, are there no issue like situations whereby a man could nt preg... a woman and they arrange for a friend or anybody frm his family 2 get d woman preg for him??? "she's hurry to make babies cuz she's a woman",oh really? hmm.in my own view is not enough reason to engaged in such immorality.if there's any decision whether to involve a third party.the decision should be mutual(both parties most agree on it).that's what i called real love,than taken such selfish decision in the name of saving her marriage or in the hurry of having kids...people should try to think beyond present stage.no matter how confidential the secret maybe.one day i repeat only one day the truth must surely manifest and the real father will still claim his kids. U knw our 9ja men can be irrational especially when it coms 2 issues concerning women. Consider if d reverse is d case? They will expect d woman to remain in that marriage. Unlike my prevous post ''she married 2 her boss'' Buh, all d same,,,, lets watch hw d event unfolds lol,u r d one to watch the event unfolds.  cuz none of us knows the couple involve naa.yeah! i understand how irrational some 9ja men can be.if reverse is the case,i'll still uttered the same opinion. we are living in a modern age,we all should view and treat issues equal irrespective of the person/gender involved.enough said.
No kwams! l'll sure keep u updated. Watch out 4 part 2  | Posted: at 15-04-2011 12:59 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "Pepesy") Pepesy at 15-04-2011 01:02 PM (13 years ago) (f) well from the comments i have read so far....wat i must say is
Since d wife found out first that her hubby couldnt father a child....she would have discussed it with him before any further actions from her
Gud 2 hv ur comment finally Ble... Buh, as it is now,,,, what advice do u hv for him? he's only seeking for advice 2 guide him take decision | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:02 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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There is this 38yrs old man who has been married for 9yrs now with 2kids. 2months ago, he got to realised he’s impotent. Out of curiosity he took his children for GNA test only to discover they were not his. Damn! He confronted the wifey about it and she did not deny it rather confessed that she knew he’s impotent and those children belong to her boss which her boss knew nothing about. According to her, she had to do what she did in order to save her marriage and keep the family going bcos she luvs her hubby so much. She pleaded for forgiveness and promised to keep it secret all her life. Note; this is a secret btw the couple alone.
Right now this man is confused as to what to do bcos, he luvs his wifey and she was there for him during the tough days.
If you were in this man’s shoes what will you do or what will you advice him to do?
First and foremost is no more a secret because you know about it and we all know about it now. despite we don't know the people involve, thats if this is a true life story. Secondly: I have couple of questions for the wife: who is curious or worried about babies/kids ? because i don't think the man is, knowing fully well that he's impotent, i don't think he will be pressuring the woman over having babies, Why did she choose to sleep with her boss secretly to conceive ? Did she discuss this with the hubby in the first place ? why saving the marriage, if the man didn't request for kids or pressure her over that? Personally i think that woman is simply a cheat and deceiver, tricked both men (Husband and Boss) with unreasonable excuses of saving marriage.. Thnx swtheart. But what is your suggestion about this issue. i know you got something more to say. drop it dead blunt, no matter what, i always count on your comments esp when issue like this occur 
Now,how on earth she knew that he's impotent if he found out only 2 months ago? 
That doesn't make any sense, it and makes the woman more than guilty for all this mess!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:02 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 15-04-2011 01:07 PM (13 years ago) (m) There is this 38yrs old man who has been married for 9yrs now with 2kids. 2months ago, he got to realised he’s impotent. Out of curiosity he took his children for GNA test only to discover they were not his. Damn! He confronted the wifey about it and she did not deny it rather confessed that she knew he’s impotent and those children belong to her boss which her boss knew nothing about. According to her, she had to do what she did in order to save her marriage and keep the family going bcos she luvs her hubby so much. She pleaded for forgiveness and promised to keep it secret all her life. Note; this is a secret btw the couple alone.
Right now this man is confused as to what to do bcos, he luvs his wifey and she was there for him during the tough days.
If you were in this man’s shoes what will you do or what will you advice him to do?
First and foremost is no more a secret because you know about it and we all know about it now. despite we don't know the people involve, thats if this is a true life story. Secondly: I have couple of questions for the wife: who is curious or worried about babies/kids ? because i don't think the man is, knowing fully well that he's impotent, i don't think he will be pressuring the woman over having babies, Why did she choose to sleep with her boss secretly to conceive ? Did she discuss this with the hubby in the first place ? why saving the marriage, if the man didn't request for kids or pressure her over that? Personally i think that woman is simply a cheat and deceiver, tricked both men (Husband and Boss) with unreasonable excuses of saving marriage.. 1. It remains a secret bcos u dont even knw d part of d world its happening and its a true story 2. In African culture, U dont need a soothsayer 2 tell u dat a woman can only gain her ground in a man's house only when she hv babe(s). Any marriage without children u knw dat a woman suffers it most considering d presure from family and friends of d man to get another wifey. remember,,, 9yrs of marriage.. 3. She chose 2 do that out of luv 4 her hubby. She wnts 2 save him frm dat shame of childlessness at d same time save their marriage. 4. D man wz unaware of it untill last 2months he got 2 released dat. Note; d main owner of dese children doesnt knw about it I understand all this, but i don't agree with that number 2, what pressure? when is not the woman's problem but the man, I think the pressure and shame should be on the man side, The family suggesting of new wife for him, the same thing will happen to the next woman and so on. And also is very wrong or should i say impossible for the woman to know that the man is Impotent while the man will not know, only discovering that 2months ago, common ... how possible is that for over 9yrs of marriage? how did the woman know, without the man knowing? already those kids came in btw the 9yrs of marriage, it means she's been cheating on the man right from the day they got married. If i will judge as human and as a man with feelings, I will pretend nothing has happened, take care of those kids and remain in that pretending and lie marriage, but i will always ignore that lady ( Wify ) for lie and cheating. She will mean nothing again to me, there's nothing like saving a man from shame here, because if is the woman who got such problem and the man sleeps outside to get kids, she will cry foul and feel he broke her heart and so on.... But now she got million reasons to confuse the man in her cheating attitude. The man is in deep shyt already, thats his married destiny, I don't believe in divorce, Divorce is not a good omen ! In ur 1st paragraph, u sounded like non african man... In africa especially in 9ja, how many men will harbor a woman who could nt bear children for them for many yrs especially when d fault is nt frm d man??? (Men cheat alot when all is well wit his family not to talk of when his wifey could nt bear children) Pls lets be logical here Going by ur 2nd paragraph,,, It is possible for a woman to knw dat if she really wnts to. Yes, everyting happened witing 9yrs infact d last kid is about 4yrs old now Lastly, isnt, marriage suppose 2 be for better for worse huh? Note; am not supporting dis woman buh as it stands now,,,, l tink she took d wisest decision Well i got African blood running in my veins, maybe i will say i wasn't so lucky to stick around, so i could know more about so many cultures or the view of men over the women counterpart, But lets treat this like human, Lets be fair, regardless of tribe,continents, color or whatever. What is Marriage all about ? If we could be sincere with the answer and understand the meaning, i don't think there will be problems here and there. Be it Man or Woman, the worst thing one could do is to adopt a baby not start cheating behind close on someone you claim to Love. How is it possible for her to know that the man can't pregnant her, is she a medical doctor ? or she got special meter in her honeypot that dictates the level of man's impotent ? what happened that both of them cant go for proper checkup ? does it mean no family doctors or something ? Ok.. fine when she discovered via one of her numerous meters, did she inform the man ? Marriage is for Better and for worse,... I'm so glad you pointed this out, why can't she stick to the worse ? She took the wrong step and the worst step a woman could think of in this situation !! thats my own opinion !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:07 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 15-04-2011 01:07 PM (13 years ago) (m) There is this 38yrs old man who has been married for 9yrs now with 2kids. 2months ago, he got to realised he’s impotent. Out of curiosity he took his children for GNA test only to discover they were not his. Damn! He confronted the wifey about it and she did not deny it rather confessed that she knew he’s impotent and those children belong to her boss which her boss knew nothing about. According to her, she had to do what she did in order to save her marriage and keep the family going bcos she luvs her hubby so much. She pleaded for forgiveness and promised to keep it secret all her life. Note; this is a secret btw the couple alone.
Right now this man is confused as to what to do bcos, he luvs his wifey and she was there for him during the tough days.
If you were in this man’s shoes what will you do or what will you advice him to do?
First and foremost is no more a secret because you know about it and we all know about it now. despite we don't know the people involve, thats if this is a true life story. Secondly: I have couple of questions for the wife: who is curious or worried about babies/kids ? because i don't think the man is, knowing fully well that he's impotent, i don't think he will be pressuring the woman over having babies, Why did she choose to sleep with her boss secretly to conceive ? Did she discuss this with the hubby in the first place ? why saving the marriage, if the man didn't request for kids or pressure her over that? Personally i think that woman is simply a cheat and deceiver, tricked both men (Husband and Boss) with unreasonable excuses of saving marriage.. 1. It remains a secret bcos u dont even knw d part of d world its happening and its a true story 2. In African culture, U dont need a soothsayer 2 tell u dat a woman can only gain her ground in a man's house only when she hv babe(s). Any marriage without children u knw dat a woman suffers it most considering d presure from family and friends of d man to get another wifey. remember,,, 9yrs of marriage.. 3. She chose 2 do that out of luv 4 her hubby. She wnts 2 save him frm dat shame of childlessness at d same time save their marriage. 4. D man wz unaware of it untill last 2months he got 2 released dat. Note; d main owner of dese children doesnt knw about it I understand all this, but i don't agree with that number 2, what pressure? when is not the woman's problem but the man, I think the pressure and shame should be on the man side, The family suggesting of new wife for him, the same thing will happen to the next woman and so on. And also is very wrong or should i say impossible for the woman to know that the man is Impotent while the man will not know, only discovering that 2months ago, common ... how possible is that for over 9yrs of marriage? how did the woman know, without the man knowing? already those kids came in btw the 9yrs of marriage, it means she's been cheating on the man right from the day they got married. If i will judge as human and as a man with feelings, I will pretend nothing has happened, take care of those kids and remain in that pretending and lie marriage, but i will always ignore that lady ( Wify ) for lie and cheating. She will mean nothing again to me, there's nothing like saving a man from shame here, because if is the woman who got such problem and the man sleeps outside to get kids, she will cry foul and feel he broke her heart and so on.... But now she got million reasons to confuse the man in her cheating attitude. The man is in deep shyt already, thats his married destiny, I don't believe in divorce, Divorce is not a good omen ! did i hear you said you don't believe in divorce?well no reasonable man in his right senses would like divorce,but some kind of mess need divorce my brother,unless you are ready to die in such pathetic marriage,which i personally will never accept. So where will u run to huh??? where u will pregnant woman??? Isnt marriage for berra for worse huh??? l beg no offence o lolz! oh come on! i see no offence. my own interpretation of "marriage being for better for worst" .is having a common bond,love each other unconditional,when things get though we stick together and look for a solution to our problems(not unilateral decision),treat each other equal and above all keeping no secret.so don't expect me to swallow poison in the name of marriage being for better for worst.i jump and pass cuz it's not my portion. | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:07 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "pholake") pholake at 15-04-2011 01:09 PM (13 years ago) (f) Pepesy, if it's a secret between the couple alone, how come u know about it?Or is this nollywood?
And what is it with women and their bosses?
Well, the man has known; let him do the needful.........
l knw abt it coz am a close source... no matter hw secretive u may be,,, there re situations u may find urself that u need some1 2 confide on maybe a reliable pax... It doesnt matter who's involved here whether boss or non boss d issue is dat, dis is d situation on ground and he needs ur contribution if u can I see..... I think the first thing to do is to find out if his sterility has a cure; who knows, his problem might just be that of a low sperm count which could be treated.....If he can get a cure, he should get it and start a new life with another woman.....if he can't get a cure, he could adopt....keeping another man's children as his is very delicate and dangerous.....the real father can always turn up in the near future.......... l get ur point. buh remember, dis woman took dis drastic action out of luv she has 4 her hubby. She doesnt wnt 2 lose him for any reason. 2ndly, d boss is completely unaware of dis? My dear, the husband was not told by the wife; he only got to know by chance. The same way, the real father could get to know he fathered 2 kids with the wife by chance! What if the kids need blood transfusion and the husband's blood does not suffice? To me, it's better he gets a new life with another woman and get a cure or adopt! Keeping another man's kids as urs is like sitting on a time bomb which is bound to explode! More so, the woman did not take that ugly decision out of love but out of selfishness/self centered-ness.....for crying out loud, she's put the hubby in a deep shit! I knew a man who had a cardiac arrest and lost his life when the true paternity of his grown up "children" was revealed to him.....it's w wound that CAN NEVER heal........... | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:09 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 15-04-2011 01:11 PM (13 years ago) (m) There is this 38yrs old man who has been married for 9yrs now with 2kids. 2months ago, he got to realised he’s impotent. Out of curiosity he took his children for GNA test only to discover they were not his. Damn! He confronted the wifey about it and she did not deny it rather confessed that she knew he’s impotent and those children belong to her boss which her boss knew nothing about. According to her, she had to do what she did in order to save her marriage and keep the family going bcos she luvs her hubby so much. She pleaded for forgiveness and promised to keep it secret all her life. Note; this is a secret btw the couple alone.
Right now this man is confused as to what to do bcos, he luvs his wifey and she was there for him during the tough days.
If you were in this man’s shoes what will you do or what will you advice him to do?
First and foremost is no more a secret because you know about it and we all know about it now. despite we don't know the people involve, thats if this is a true life story. Secondly: I have couple of questions for the wife: who is curious or worried about babies/kids ? because i don't think the man is, knowing fully well that he's impotent, i don't think he will be pressuring the woman over having babies, Why did she choose to sleep with her boss secretly to conceive ? Did she discuss this with the hubby in the first place ? why saving the marriage, if the man didn't request for kids or pressure her over that? Personally i think that woman is simply a cheat and deceiver, tricked both men (Husband and Boss) with unreasonable excuses of saving marriage.. Thnx swtheart. But what is your suggestion about this issue. i know you got something more to say. drop it dead blunt, no matter what, i always count on your comments esp when issue like this occur
Now,how on earth she knew that he's impotent if he found out only 2 months ago?
That doesn't make any sense, it and makes the woman more than guilty for all this mess!I agree with you, because of those kids involve. That was my question, how did she know ? and she started from early stage of the marriage to cheat on this man, eeewwww
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:11 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 15-04-2011 01:13 PM (13 years ago) (f) well from the comments i have read so far....wat i must say is
Since d wife found out first that her hubby couldnt father a child....she would have discussed it with him before any further actions from her
Gud 2 hv ur comment finally Ble... Buh, as it is now,,,, what advice do u hv for him? he's only seeking for advice 2 guide him take decision anyway d did has been done already....buh i tell u d gospel truth even if they continue living as husband and wife.....that marriage can never be d way it was from d onset Well if I was the man..i will go for check up....try and see if ma problem can be fix..... secondly, i will accept ma wife back and try continue to be d good father & a hubby i used to be buh it cannever be d same once d tot flash through ma mind....buh i will try to keep ma home Note: I will always have one thing in my mind...."THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS UNVEIL ONE DAY IN D FUTURE" | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:13 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 15-04-2011 01:14 PM (13 years ago) (m) well from the comments i have read so far....wat i must say is
Since d wife found out first that her hubby couldnt father a child....she would have discussed it with him before any further actions from her
gbam! that's how it suppose to be.mutual decision. @dk..i heard ur above explanation.one man's food is another man's poison,that's why we are all different. | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:14 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "pholake") pholake at 15-04-2011 01:15 PM (13 years ago) (f) SBI & DK, divorce is undesirable but it's part of our existence....U can't continue to remain in a deep shit, sadness or confusion all in the name of not wanting a divorce! Personally, I believe in making sacrifices but only for something that's worth it. Why should I continue to displease myself? But like DK said, it's a matter of choice.... | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:15 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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@DK: You know what? I think she used that as an excuse for her cheating!
Because I think she was cheating him all the time,and not only for "kids purpose "!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:15 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 15-04-2011 01:17 PM (13 years ago) (f) well from the comments i have read so far....wat i must say is
Since d wife found out first that her hubby couldnt father a child....she would have discussed it with him before any further actions from her
gbam! that's how it suppose to be.mutual decision. @dk..i heard ur above explanation.one man's food is another man's poison,that's why we are all different. That is where i feel she went wrong | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:17 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 15-04-2011 01:17 PM (13 years ago) (m) Pepesy, if it's a secret between the couple alone, how come u know about it?Or is this nollywood?
And what is it with women and their bosses?
Well, the man has known; let him do the needful.........
l knw abt it coz am a close source... no matter hw secretive u may be,,, there re situations u may find urself that u need some1 2 confide on maybe a reliable pax... It doesnt matter who's involved here whether boss or non boss d issue is dat, dis is d situation on ground and he needs ur contribution if u can I see..... I think the first thing to do is to find out if his sterility has a cure; who knows, his problem might just be that of a low sperm count which could be treated.....If he can get a cure, he should get it and start a new life with another woman.....if he can't get a cure, he could adopt....keeping another man's children as his is very delicate and dangerous.....the real father can always turn up in the near future.......... l get ur point. buh remember, dis woman took dis drastic action out of luv she has 4 her hubby. She doesnt wnt 2 lose him for any reason. 2ndly, d boss is completely unaware of dis? My dear, the husband was not told by the wife; he only got to know by chance. The same way, the real father could get to know he fathered 2 kids with the wife by chance! What if the kids need blood transfusion and the husband's blood does not suffice? To me, it's better he gets a new life with another woman and get a cure or adopt! Keeping another man's kids as urs is like sitting on a time bomb which is bound to explode! More so, the woman did not take that ugly decision out of love but out of selfishness/self centered-ness.....for crying out loud, she's put the hubby in a deep shit! I knew a man who had a cardiac arrest and lost his life when the true paternity of his grown up "children" was revealed to him.....it's w wound that CAN NEVER heal........... Those words are perfectly right !! is like message in a bottle !! throw it in deep blue sea, it will rise for the world to see it !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:17 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 15-04-2011 01:20 PM (13 years ago) (m) Pepesy, if it's a secret between the couple alone, how come u know about it?Or is this nollywood?
And what is it with women and their bosses?
Well, the man has known; let him do the needful.........
l knw abt it coz am a close source... no matter hw secretive u may be,,, there re situations u may find urself that u need some1 2 confide on maybe a reliable pax... It doesnt matter who's involved here whether boss or non boss d issue is dat, dis is d situation on ground and he needs ur contribution if u can I see..... I think the first thing to do is to find out if his sterility has a cure; who knows, his problem might just be that of a low sperm count which could be treated.....If he can get a cure, he should get it and start a new life with another woman.....if he can't get a cure, he could adopt....keeping another man's children as his is very delicate and dangerous.....the real father can always turn up in the near future.......... l get ur point. buh remember, dis woman took dis drastic action out of luv she has 4 her hubby. She doesnt wnt 2 lose him for any reason. 2ndly, d boss is completely unaware of dis? My dear, the husband was not told by the wife; he only got to know by chance. The same way, the real father could get to know he fathered 2 kids with the wife by chance! What if the kids need blood transfusion and the husband's blood does not suffice? To me, it's better he gets a new life with another woman and get a cure or adopt! Keeping another man's kids as urs is like sitting on a time bomb which is bound to explode! More so, the woman did not take that ugly decision out of love but out of selfishness/self centered-ness.....for crying out loud, she's put the hubby in a deep shit! I knew a man who had a cardiac arrest and lost his life when the true paternity of his grown up "children" was revealed to him.....it's w wound that CAN NEVER heal........... God bless you for this kind and wonderful comment.there is no reason beating about the bush here,the sooner they take the best decision the better for them both and that of their kids. @pepesy..i go dey wait for part 2 any time | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:20 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "pholake") pholake at 15-04-2011 01:21 PM (13 years ago) (f) There is this 38yrs old man who has been married for 9yrs now with 2kids. 2months ago, he got to realised he’s impotent. Out of curiosity he took his children for GNA test only to discover they were not his. Damn! He confronted the wifey about it and she did not deny it rather confessed that she knew he’s impotent and those children belong to her boss which her boss knew nothing about. According to her, she had to do what she did in order to save her marriage and keep the family going bcos she luvs her hubby so much. She pleaded for forgiveness and promised to keep it secret all her life. Note; this is a secret btw the couple alone.
Right now this man is confused as to what to do bcos, he luvs his wifey and she was there for him during the tough days.
If you were in this man’s shoes what will you do or what will you advice him to do?
First and foremost is no more a secret because you know about it and we all know about it now. despite we don't know the people involve, thats if this is a true life story. Secondly: I have couple of questions for the wife: who is curious or worried about babies/kids ? because i don't think the man is, knowing fully well that he's impotent, i don't think he will be pressuring the woman over having babies, Why did she choose to sleep with her boss secretly to conceive ? Did she discuss this with the hubby in the first place ? why saving the marriage, if the man didn't request for kids or pressure her over that? Personally i think that woman is simply a cheat and deceiver, tricked both men (Husband and Boss) with unreasonable excuses of saving marriage.. 1. It remains a secret bcos u dont even knw d part of d world its happening and its a true story 2. In African culture, U dont need a soothsayer 2 tell u dat a woman can only gain her ground in a man's house only when she hv babe(s). Any marriage without children u knw dat a woman suffers it most considering d presure from family and friends of d man to get another wifey. remember,,, 9yrs of marriage.. 3. She chose 2 do that out of luv 4 her hubby. She wnts 2 save him frm dat shame of childlessness at d same time save their marriage. 4. D man wz unaware of it untill last 2months he got 2 released dat. Note; d main owner of dese children doesnt knw about it I understand all this, but i don't agree with that number 2, what pressure? when is not the woman's problem but the man, I think the pressure and shame should be on the man side, The family suggesting of new wife for him, the same thing will happen to the next woman and so on. And also is very wrong or should i say impossible for the woman to know that the man is Impotent while the man will not know, only discovering that 2months ago, common ... how possible is that for over 9yrs of marriage? how did the woman know, without the man knowing? already those kids came in btw the 9yrs of marriage, it means she's been cheating on the man right from the day they got married. If i will judge as human and as a man with feelings, I will pretend nothing has happened, take care of those kids and remain in that pretending and lie marriage, but i will always ignore that lady ( Wify ) for lie and cheating. She will mean nothing again to me, there's nothing like saving a man from shame here, because if is the woman who got such problem and the man sleeps outside to get kids, she will cry foul and feel he broke her heart and so on.... But now she got million reasons to confuse the man in her cheating attitude. The man is in deep shyt already, thats his married destiny, I don't believe in divorce, Divorce is not a good omen ! did i hear you said you don't believe in divorce?well no reasonable man in his right senses would like divorce,but some kind of mess need divorce my brother,unless you are ready to die in such pathetic marriage,which i personally will never accept. So where will u run to huh??? where u will pregnant woman??? Isnt marriage for berra for worse huh??? l beg no offence o lolz! oh come on! i see no offence. my own interpretation of "marriage being for better for worst" .is having a common bond,love each other unconditional,when things get though we stick together and look for a solution to our problems(not unilateral decision),treat each other equal and above all keeping no secret.so don't expect me to swallow poison in the name of marriage being for better for worst.i jump and pass cuz it's not my portion. EXACTLY! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:21 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 15-04-2011 01:22 PM (13 years ago) (f) SBI & DK, divorce is undesirable but it's part of our existence....U can't continue to remain in a deep shit, sadness or confusion all in the name of not wanting a divorce! Personally, I believe in making sacrifices but only for something that's worth it. Why should I continue to displease myself? But like DK said, it's a matter of choice....
u got it right If d husband cannot cope....He is free to file for a divorce abeg but if he can cope then let him keep his wife and d kids | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:22 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Pepesy") Pepesy at 15-04-2011 01:23 PM (13 years ago) (f) There is this 38yrs old man who has been married for 9yrs now with 2kids. 2months ago, he got to realised he’s impotent. Out of curiosity he took his children for GNA test only to discover they were not his. Damn! He confronted the wifey about it and she did not deny it rather confessed that she knew he’s impotent and those children belong to her boss which her boss knew nothing about. According to her, she had to do what she did in order to save her marriage and keep the family going bcos she luvs her hubby so much. She pleaded for forgiveness and promised to keep it secret all her life. Note; this is a secret btw the couple alone.
Right now this man is confused as to what to do bcos, he luvs his wifey and she was there for him during the tough days.
If you were in this man’s shoes what will you do or what will you advice him to do?
First and foremost is no more a secret because you know about it and we all know about it now. despite we don't know the people involve, thats if this is a true life story. Secondly: I have couple of questions for the wife: who is curious or worried about babies/kids ? because i don't think the man is, knowing fully well that he's impotent, i don't think he will be pressuring the woman over having babies, Why did she choose to sleep with her boss secretly to conceive ? Did she discuss this with the hubby in the first place ? why saving the marriage, if the man didn't request for kids or pressure her over that? Personally i think that woman is simply a cheat and deceiver, tricked both men (Husband and Boss) with unreasonable excuses of saving marriage.. 1. It remains a secret bcos u dont even knw d part of d world its happening and its a true story 2. In African culture, U dont need a soothsayer 2 tell u dat a woman can only gain her ground in a man's house only when she hv babe(s). Any marriage without children u knw dat a woman suffers it most considering d presure from family and friends of d man to get another wifey. remember,,, 9yrs of marriage.. 3. She chose 2 do that out of luv 4 her hubby. She wnts 2 save him frm dat shame of childlessness at d same time save their marriage. 4. D man wz unaware of it untill last 2months he got 2 released dat. Note; d main owner of dese children doesnt knw about it I understand all this, but i don't agree with that number 2, what pressure? when is not the woman's problem but the man, I think the pressure and shame should be on the man side, The family suggesting of new wife for him, the same thing will happen to the next woman and so on. And also is very wrong or should i say impossible for the woman to know that the man is Impotent while the man will not know, only discovering that 2months ago, common ... how possible is that for over 9yrs of marriage? how did the woman know, without the man knowing? already those kids came in btw the 9yrs of marriage, it means she's been cheating on the man right from the day they got married. If i will judge as human and as a man with feelings, I will pretend nothing has happened, take care of those kids and remain in that pretending and lie marriage, but i will always ignore that lady ( Wify ) for lie and cheating. She will mean nothing again to me, there's nothing like saving a man from shame here, because if is the woman who got such problem and the man sleeps outside to get kids, she will cry foul and feel he broke her heart and so on.... But now she got million reasons to confuse the man in her cheating attitude. The man is in deep shyt already, thats his married destiny, I don't believe in divorce, Divorce is not a good omen ! In ur 1st paragraph, u sounded like non african man... In africa especially in 9ja, how many men will harbor a woman who could nt bear children for them for many yrs especially when d fault is nt frm d man??? (Men cheat alot when all is well wit his family not to talk of when his wifey could nt bear children) Pls lets be logical here Going by ur 2nd paragraph,,, It is possible for a woman to knw dat if she really wnts to. Yes, everyting happened witing 9yrs infact d last kid is about 4yrs old now Lastly, isnt, marriage suppose 2 be for better for worse huh? Note; am not supporting dis woman buh as it stands now,,,, l tink she took d wisest decision Well i got African blood running in my veins, maybe i will say i wasn't so lucky to stick around, so i could know more about so many cultures or the view of men over the women counterpart, But lets treat this like human, Lets be fair, regardless of tribe,continents, color or whatever. What is Marriage all about ? If we could be sincere with the answer and understand the meaning, i don't think there will be problems here and there. Be it Man or Woman, the worst thing one could do is to adopt a baby not start cheating behind close on someone you claim to Love. How is it possible for her to know that the man can't pregnant her, is she a medical doctor ? or she got special meter in her honeypot that dictates the level of man's impotent ? what happened that both of them cant go for proper checkup ? does it mean no family doctors or something ? Ok.. fine when she discovered via one of her numerous meters, did she inform the man ? Marriage is for Better and for worse,... I'm so glad you pointed this out, why can't she stick to the worse ? She took the wrong step and the worst step a woman could think of in this situation !! thats my own opinion !! How she got 2 knw about her hubby's conditn does nt really matters here buh, blv me,,, dis matter is heating right now. Really nobody would support what she did (both man and woman) buh, d issue now is should he divorce her? if yes,,, with the children??? if no, what happens to those children then? | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:23 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "pholake") pholake at 15-04-2011 01:25 PM (13 years ago) (f) @DK: You know what? I think she used that as an excuse for her cheating!
Because I think she was cheating him all the time,and not only for "kids purpose "!
It's highly probably! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:25 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 15-04-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) (f) If he wants a divorce definitely its will be wif d kids if he still wants to keep his wife..then he should also keep d kids cos they are his wifey's | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "pholake") pholake at 15-04-2011 01:29 PM (13 years ago) (f) Pepesy, the cheating wife should take the kids to the real owner and save the hubby from impending disaster. What is the use of "covering up the hubby's shame" now when the truth when it eventually comes to the open, would lead to something more disastrous? Hopefully, the real father of her kids can marry her and if not, that's her bloody funeral! Infact, as it is now, the man would not be so much disgraced but pitied and sided by all who's concerned! | Posted: at 15-04-2011 01:29 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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