Would You Confess?

Date: 20-07-2011 4:46 pm (12 years ago) | Author: Darky
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- at 20-07-2011 04:46 PM (12 years ago)
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Cheating is something that always causes a lot of emotions amongst men and women. Men accuse women of cheating, and women just assume all men cheat. Often times people in relationships go about their business in relationships until someone is caught cheating. What happens if someone confesses though? Is it the same? Should the guilty party feel less guilty?
I’ve been married to my husband now for about 6 years, and just like any marriage after such an amount of time, the honey moon phase is over. Things have settled into reality and all those stars and sparks have pretty much died down. We don’t have any kids yet but we plan on having children as soon as he’s done with his post graduate studies.
I love my husband very much, and I couldn’t ask for a better man, but the only issue is that he’s off in the UK completing his studies, and I’m based in Port-Harcourt working for a contracting company. I would have left my job to move to the UK with him, but since we both decided it was a temporary thing, I decided to stay back in PH and keep home. It’s a bit difficult because I only get to see him once every 3-4 months, and it’s usually not for long. Sometimes a week or two, and sometimes it’s for an extended weekend.
Recently I met a guy at a work conference, let’s call him Sam. Sam is tall, handsome, built like a football player, and by any woman’s standards is very attractive. We became good friends (plutonic) and started having lunch together randomly during the week. I felt comfortable with Sam because I knew he was married and he never tried to hide that from me. His wife too was never around as she is a diplomat and travels a lot. For the most part I just really enjoyed his company.
A few months passed and Sam and I have gotten pretty close. We started going out for drinks in the evening, and talking on the phone at night and before we knew how we had come that far, we had gotten attached to each other. Initially my husband was aware of our lunch dates, but I stopped telling him when Sam and I would go for drinks or talk on the phone at night. I felt like he would get jealous, or maybe a part of me felt a bit guilty.
One evening after having drinks, we decided to go see a movie since none of us were rushing to go home for the night, and it was Friday. After the movie while we walked to our cars he held my hand, and I didn’t remove because I found it comforting. When we got to my car, he leaned over and kissed me, and it felt really good, but bad at the same time. All my hormones started raging and so I invited him over to my place, and we had sex that night.
I felt bad right afterwards, but as the days went by we continued to have sex, and it almost became a routine. Every 3-4 days, we hang out, we have sex, and that it. I’m getting very attached to him emotionally now, and I beginning to feel like I might get jealous whenever I do see him with his wife, But who am I to even get jealous? I’m married, and my husband has no clue what is happening.
I want to confess to my husband, but I’m not sure if our marriage will survive it. I love my husband and don’t want to lose him. On one occasion I has having sex with Sam, and I saw my wedding picture on the night table and had to stop because I felt so bad. At that point I knew I still had a conscience but somehow cant get myself to stop or to come forward and tell my husband.
My husband will be back in 2 weeks, and I’ve been battling over this decision for quite sometime and don’t know what to do. I know what I’m doing is bad, and I’m willing to stop.

If you were in his/her situation, what would you do? Would you confess? How do you even go about confessing this? That you are fcuking someones wife or husband


Posted: at 20-07-2011 04:46 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
- Emmandazie at 20-07-2011 04:56 PM (12 years ago)
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You know it is bad so stop it!!!
You do not need his presence to stop it. Imagine if Sam happens to travel also then you hang with another and what will you become?  'ashawo'
As for confessing, let sleeping dogs lie but assure yourself you're pregnant for Sam nor carrying any STD before meeting your husband!
Posted: at 20-07-2011 04:56 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- divineproject at 20-07-2011 05:05 PM (12 years ago)
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May I never find myself in this situation..........Amen

Posted: at 20-07-2011 05:05 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- 50scent at 20-07-2011 05:09 PM (12 years ago)
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May I never find myself in this situation..........Amen AND ME TOO

Posted: at 20-07-2011 05:09 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- katung44 at 20-07-2011 05:31 PM (12 years ago)
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It's really a devil and deep blue sea situation. Not confessing would still complicate things as when the other party finds out your coming clean would not mean anything. On the other hand, your confessing would only give you a clean conscience not a guarantee that your partner will forgive you. It's chance that you have to take (that is confession) in the interest of the health of things between you two.
Posted: at 20-07-2011 05:31 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- drnoel at 20-07-2011 09:23 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: katung44 on 20-07-2011 05:31 PM
It's really a devil and deep blue sea situation. Not confessing would still complicate things as when the other party finds out your coming clean would not mean anything. On the other hand, your confessing would only give you a clean conscience not a guarantee that your partner will forgive you. It's chance that you have to take (that is confession) in the interest of the health of things between you two.

Well said, I agree

Posted: at 20-07-2011 09:23 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- drnoel at 21-07-2011 02:59 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 05:05 PM
May I never find myself in this situation..........Amen
bros amen

Posted: at 21-07-2011 02:59 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- adams933 at 21-07-2011 03:01 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: 50scent on 20-07-2011 05:09 PM
May I never find myself in this situation..........Amen AND ME TOO

May we never find ourself in dis situation!
Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:01 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- conakry at 21-07-2011 03:16 PM (12 years ago)
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........it takes a lot of discpline and prayer to survive.
Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:16 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- trolling at 21-07-2011 03:25 PM (12 years ago)
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yu screwd up in yr head, if u love or loved him yu wouldnt have slept wth him, secondly yu made provision for yr flesh,yu could have avoided it but as a woman yu fell for what was pleasant to yr eyes as Eve did, I have told yu women that yu are emotional creatures, this is why yu gat to give women laws in marriage to abide by, one of them is yu dont go out on dates wth any man.
Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:25 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Pepesy at 21-07-2011 03:26 PM (12 years ago)
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l suggest u let the sleeping dog lie like the first comment stated buh make sure u put an end to it b4 ur hubby/wifey gets to knw it
Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:26 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bittersweet at 21-07-2011 03:40 PM (12 years ago)
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Me,in that situation? NEVER!
Big mess she got herself in,which could cost her everything!
If she has some conscience left,she should tell him everything, while she's handling him the divorce papers!


Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:40 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Pepesy at 21-07-2011 03:42 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 21-07-2011 03:40 PM
Me,in that situation? NEVER!
Big mess she got herself in,which could cost her everything!
If she has some conscience left,she should tell him everything, while she's handling him the divorce papers!



  Cheesy Cheesy
Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:42 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- macgreat at 21-07-2011 03:57 PM (12 years ago)
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Things like dis cant happen to people like me. . .

Posted: at 21-07-2011 03:57 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- do4sure at 21-07-2011 04:01 PM (12 years ago)
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Like play,like play butterfly will enter bush.Sleeping around starts with one and then two etc.
Posted: at 21-07-2011 04:01 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- xena15 at 21-07-2011 06:13 PM (12 years ago)
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Dilemma!

Posted: at 21-07-2011 06:13 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- harold634 at 21-07-2011 06:16 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: xena15 on 21-07-2011 06:13 PM
Dilemma!
Not dilemma because she is contious of what she did.
Posted: at 21-07-2011 06:16 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- 50scent at 21-07-2011 06:28 PM (12 years ago)
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 Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool

Posted: at 21-07-2011 06:28 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- shaoyang at 21-07-2011 06:47 PM (12 years ago)
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Its really very tight condtion, U also realised u r wrong and willing to stop and the only strong thing that will make you totally turn ur back from such act completely is CONFESSING bcz if u hide this one u will aswell hide other things frm him which while definitely come to light one day and cost you everything & put u in endless shame... u have to confess but u must know the kind of man u r married to u won't be surprised whatever action he has to take.....  A broken and contrite heart God never overlook.
Posted: at 21-07-2011 06:47 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kebella at 21-07-2011 08:37 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: adams933 on 21-07-2011 03:01 PM
Quote from: 50scent on 20-07-2011 05:09 PM
May I never find myself in this situation..........Amen AND ME TOO

May we never find ourself in dis situation!
AMEN

Posted: at 21-07-2011 08:37 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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