He cheated on my cousin and I; yet I am blamed for his infidelity!

Hey guys I came across this write up and wanted to hear you input on it.

I feel I am in the midst of a movie; either watching or as a key player. If I call myself a key player, I will be very correct. What is happening between my cousin and I is what one would watch on television and I pray that I will turn round and discover that it is only a drama or a dream.

We have a close knitted family that I don’t want this incident to destabilise. Already, camps and supports are building up, but I love the peace and love that we used to share.

My cousin, Mopelola (not her real name please) and I are very close and we love ourselves; our mothers are sisters, my mother is the eldest and of course more comfortable in all ramification than my auntie. What I hate most in the whole situation is the fact that people and the different camps are now insinuating that we; (I mean my family and I) are trying to flaunt our wealth and deny Mopelola of her right. Honestly, that was not what happened and the Lord is my witness.

It all started when I went to Port Harcourt for my youth service. I met a man, (I would like to keep his name) who I agreed to date when he asked me out because I liked him. I never knew he has or had anything to do with my cousin.

I learnt one of the times I came home during my service year that Mopelola’s boyfriend also resides in Port Harcourt, but we really did not get round to speak much about him before I left. We spoke on phone several times, but we did not really speak about him.

I never even related the fact that every time my boyfriend travelled to Lagos to see his sister was when Mopelola told me that her boyfriend was around. It never occurred to me that my cousin’s boyfriend could be the man I was dating too.

When I finished my service, I came back to Lagos and you wouldn’t believe that my boyfriend was coming to Lagos to see me almost every weekends Whenever  he caouldn’t make it, he would send money for my ticket and I would go instead. I really do not know or can’t really say when or how he had enough time to date my cousin.

Two weeks ago, I had a cause to visit my auntie because I learnt from my mother that Mopelola was planning her wedding. She was on her annual leave and she went to spend some time with her boyfriend in Port Harcourt, she just came back and told her mother that her host proposed marriage to her.

I went to their house after church service, with the intention of having fun, but my fun ended when  she showed me her boyfriend’s photograph on her phone. I initially thought she was trying to pull my legs or play pranks on me, but I quickly remembered that they have not met each other before,

The first question that came to my mind was; did you get to meet my boyfriend in Port Harcourt? “Your boyfriend?”,  She asked. Yes my boyfriend, I replied. “No you can’t be serious,” she replied. Do you know who this man here is? This is my husband to be, the man who proposed marriage to me and I am going to get married to him in less than six months.

I was in shock and I tried to get across to my boyfriend, but I was not successful because Mopelola was equally trying to call him too. Our conversation however  attracted Mope’s mother and she wanted to know what was going on.

Mopelola told her and the next thing she did was that she started shouting, cursing and swearing. Before I could say jack, she had called my mother and  started calling her names. As if on cue, her cousin who is also my mother’s cousin came in and the whole situation became messy.

I quickly took my leave. I was however able to speak with my supposed boyfriend later on in the day. I asked if he knew and proposed to my cousin, lo and behold he confirmed it. But he however, said he had no apologies because he did not know that we were related.

I raised the issue of double dating and the fact that he was actually cheating on both my cousin and I. Apart from the fact that this issue had caused a lot of bad blood in my family, I am also hurt,  because this man cheated on me. I have slept with him several times; he had also slept with my cousin. What does that mean? Men are bad and no one can change my impression about this.

My mother also felt bad  although she had not met him physically, but they had spoken several times on phone. He also fooled my mother. Can you imagine? When my cousin’s daddy  heard all these, he refused to give his consent to the marriage. This led to more trouble and this is why my auntie and others who are on their side call me a kill joy. They accused me of blocking the only way my auntie and her family could make it in life.

Please, auntie Taiwo, what do I do? Where lies my fault? Nobody cares about the fact that I am hurting. My boyfriend after learning that we were related backed out . I told my parents that I wanted to travel out of the country, but they would not hear of it. Daddy’s words every time I raised it is “he who fights and runs away, lives to fight another day” what do I do

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Posted: at 22-11-2011 05:29 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Is this a dream or a drama??? There is no fault of yours but this man in question is really what i don't knw what to call him.  He should be called KILL JOY.  Don't run away but stand and see where it will end.

Posted: at 31-05-2012 01:56 PM (12 years ago) | Hero