sophiebaby at 13-02-2012 10:34 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: 50scent on 13-02-2012 09:50 AM
Not that you should be out here cheating anyway; but if you slip up, should you clear your conscious and confess or should you take it to the grave?
What would you do in this situation?
Normally when someone is committed to an affair, the spouse will have a slight idea on what's happening. However, unless it is out in the open, certain discussions will only be avoided for fears of 'wrong accusation'. The longer you keep it, the more you feel guilty of it. This also puts more and more dishonesty into the relationship. When there is dishonesty presents, you will find yourself easier to get irritated by the smallest thing. The way you look at your partner is different, causing more strain in your marriage/relationship. And even if you do not get divorced, your marriage will start becoming empty/meaningless because of the secret you are trying to keep to death. You will start thinking over words before you say things, you might even suspect your spouse is cheating on you due to the guilty feeling.This is exactly why although some relationship fall apart because of the extramarital affair confession, more relationship breaks due to attempt to hide a past extramarital affair.Yes it is a hard decision. But if you commit an affair, there is no doubt you have to take responsibility of what happened.You cannot escape from the truth and you either have to face telling your spouse the truth - or keep things hidden and be 'emotionally burdened' for the rest of your life. ODODI AMAMA!!!
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Posted: at 13-02-2012 10:34 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
bittersweet at 13-02-2012 10:51 AM (13 years ago) (f)
This kind of s*it will be found out anyway eventually, so you better confess before she/he finds out from other person... but....you better don't screw it up and have a clean conscience
Live and let live!
Posted: at 13-02-2012 10:51 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 13-02-2012 10:56 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: bittersweet on 13-02-2012 10:51 AM
This kind of s*it will be found out anyway eventually, so you better confess before she/he finds out from other person... but....you better don't screw it up and have a clean conscience
yeah.. cos Hardly anyone can keep this secret until death anyway, and so it is a matter of time before things get discovered or you cannot handle the burden anymore. Not to mention some chances of the affair being discovered through some other party... finding out about an extramarital affair committed by your spouse is sh*t, but to find out about the affair from someone else is actually worse. Also, when you volunteer the information about your affair, at the very least you can choose the time and prepare yourself for the possible outcomes.
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 13-02-2012 10:56 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
This kind of s*it will be found out anyway eventually, so you better confess before she/he finds out from other person... but....you better don't screw it up and have a clean conscience
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Posted: at 13-02-2012 11:26 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Not that you should be out here cheating anyway; but if you slip up, should you clear your conscious and confess or should you take it to the grave?
What would you do in this situation?
am not sure the best way to this cos most pple cnt handle the truth. if u confess, it might lead to the end and if u dnt, ur conscience will eat u raw. on a personal tot, i think if both couple shud confess their cheating (if any) after 50yrs of marriage. in tht way, experience, life might have tot them hw to endure.
Posted: at 13-02-2012 11:42 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
sophiebaby at 13-02-2012 12:28 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Thomax on 13-02-2012 11:42 AM
am not sure the best way to this cos most pple cnt handle the truth. if u confess, it might lead to the end and if u dnt, ur conscience will eat u raw. on a personal tot, i think if both couple shud confess their cheating (if any) after 50yrs of marriage. in tht way, experience, life might have tot them hw to endure.
P.S>>>if you really want to save your marriage, you have to make sure that desire is known to your spouse as you tell her/him about your affair. You have to also be prepared to your spouse' reaction and ready to deal with it no matter what happens. Be also prepared to your spouse distrusting you for at least a while - until you rebuild the trust in your relationship/
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 13-02-2012 12:28 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
bittersweet at 13-02-2012 01:27 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 13-02-2012 10:56 AM
yeah.. cos Hardly anyone can keep this secret until death anyway, and so it is a matter of time before things get discovered or you cannot handle the burden anymore. Not to mention some chances of the affair being discovered through some other party... finding out about an extramarital affair committed by your spouse is sh*t, but to find out about the affair from someone else is actually worse. Also, when you volunteer the information about your affair, at the very least you can choose the time and prepare yourself for the possible outcomes.
Live and let live!
Posted: at 13-02-2012 01:27 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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