6 Habits You Should Learn and Develop Before You Get Married

Date: 23-04-2013 12:57 pm (11 years ago) | Author: franel
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- at 23-04-2013 12:57 PM (11 years ago)
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«§» 23 April 2013

Marriage is a very big step for any couple. Just like any serious undertaking, you must prepare for marriage before you go into it. Below are a few attributes that you must have if you’re to succeed in marriage:



   Patience

One of the key qualities that every partner in a marriage must have is patience. No two human beings can have a productive relationship without disagreements. It will not always be rosy and your patience with each other will keep you from hurting each other and going to the extreme when you’re angry. Also, children are bound to rub you the wrong way so you have to prepare yourself for provocation and figure out how to handle it when it comes.

    Proper Communication Skills

To succeed in a marriage, you must learn the art of communication.  You must be diplomatic and cautious and learn to pass your message across without being aggressive and aggravating your partner unnecessarily. You must be able to read between the lines of your partner’s words and know when they want to talk and when they just want to be left alone.

    Selflessness

The act of marriage requires you to be selfless. You must learn to put your partner and the family you build together above your own desires. It means that sometimes you’ll want to buy a new gold watch but you’ll decide to buy your child a toy instead. It means that you’ll buy a cheaper car just so your husband can indulge his designer suit fantasies. Being married requires you to be selfless.

    Cooking

This is not just for the woman. It is very necessary for both partners to know how to cook. A family must be fed and the wife may not always be available. What happens if the wife goes on a business trip or if she just had a baby and daddy is left with the older children? Nobody is saying you should enrol in culinary school but basic cooking skills are necessary.

    Self-control

A person who will make a good spouse must have a lot of self-control. Sometimes you will get so angry that you want to shout and slap somebody but you have to be able to keep yourself in check. Your husband will annoy you, your wife will upset you and your kids might decide to be little terrors now and then. You have to be able to stay calm and handle the matter with maturity.

    Resilience

The journey of marriage is not for the faint hearted. It requires a lot of work and determination. Sometimes as a woman, you might be in pain for one reason or the other, yet you have to find the strength to cook for your family, prepare your children for school etc. As a man, you might have had a hard day at work and you just want to lie on your bed and go to sleep, yet you have to fix things when you get home and do some work here and there. Being successful in marriage requires resilience and strength.


Posted: at 23-04-2013 12:57 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
- Idbabe at 23-04-2013 01:07 PM (11 years ago)
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Good write-up.  Poster do you know how to cook?  A lot men like you can't even boil water to make eba talk-less of cooking real soup.  I see it as laziness or wickedness.
Posted: at 23-04-2013 01:07 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- franel at 23-04-2013 02:16 PM (11 years ago)
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Thanks, not precise but I can try. I do that once in a blue moon.
My younger one does that much better than me.

Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:16 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- Idbabe at 23-04-2013 02:19 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: franel on 23-04-2013 02:16 PM
Thanks, not precise but I can try. I do that once in a blue moon.
My younger one does that much better than me.

And u come here to give us advice that u cannot do.  U try ooo.  When ur hungry and ur wife is not around, u go waka go find ur younger ones to come and cook for you.  Lazy boi
Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:19 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- franel at 23-04-2013 02:22 PM (11 years ago)
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Mind you I can cook but I can't rate myself so high knowing fully that there are others that does that better than I myself Grin

Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:22 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- tanglefree at 23-04-2013 02:27 PM (11 years ago)
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Nice One!
Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:27 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- vicklove at 23-04-2013 02:28 PM (11 years ago)
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nice one
Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:28 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- deboalabi262 at 23-04-2013 02:31 PM (11 years ago)
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Seen, Read and Noted..... Huh?

Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:31 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- lanudja at 23-04-2013 02:36 PM (11 years ago)
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 Cool
Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:36 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- HOPEA23 at 23-04-2013 02:44 PM (11 years ago)
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Hmmmm ok .....

Posted: at 23-04-2013 02:44 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- etibaba at 23-04-2013 03:20 PM (11 years ago)
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Am not yet ready.

Posted: at 23-04-2013 03:20 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- etibaba at 23-04-2013 03:21 PM (11 years ago)
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Am not yet ready.

Posted: at 23-04-2013 03:21 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- naturalqueen at 23-04-2013 03:30 PM (11 years ago)
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Inspiring.............
Posted: at 23-04-2013 03:30 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 23-04-2013 03:35 PM (11 years ago)
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Just 6?  Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked e plenty na.. wot of Too Much Demand from the woman side.. and Sticking to one woman _MEN  Huh? if dos once nor join den u be learner

Posted: at 23-04-2013 03:35 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- bestbuky at 23-04-2013 03:41 PM (11 years ago)
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good
Posted: at 23-04-2013 03:41 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dickman2 at 23-04-2013 04:31 PM (11 years ago)
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cooking zero..
Posted: at 23-04-2013 04:31 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Solidstonez at 23-04-2013 04:54 PM (11 years ago)
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Well done

Posted: at 23-04-2013 04:54 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ejiroudonwa at 23-04-2013 05:14 PM (11 years ago)
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Good one
Posted: at 23-04-2013 05:14 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- osamabinladin at 23-04-2013 05:33 PM (11 years ago)
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Noted !
Posted: at 23-04-2013 05:33 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- tashfemi at 23-04-2013 05:39 PM (11 years ago)
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If you want to use someone else's article, the right thing to do is to write your source not claim it as your own. You can even change some of the sentences to make it your own idea. Instead you just copied and pasted completely and you're here receiving thanks for something you didn't use your brain to write. I suggest you change your ways. The original writer of this article is my friend Jola Sotubo and she definitely didnt write it for Naija pals.
Posted: at 23-04-2013 05:39 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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