How to Refuse a Date to Ensure Another Request

Date: 15-05-2009 1:15 pm (14 years ago) | Author: Pastor Edward Freedom
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- at 15-05-2009 01:15 PM (14 years ago)
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Sometimes circumstances are beyond your control. Here's how to refuse a date when you truly wish you could accept.

Step
1

Smile and make eye contact if the invitation is made in person.
Step
2

Communicate your complete attention if the request is made by phone. Consider saying something like 'Excuse me while I close the door' or 'I was hoping you'd call.'
Step
3

Express your thanks in whatever style is genuine and comfortable for you - a joke, a simple thanks, a great big 'Wow!'
Step
4

Communicate your regret at having to refuse, and explain why you need to decline the invitation.
Step
5

Suggest another specific day, or express your general wish to find another time that works for both of you. A straightforward 'I can't this time because I have to go to Chicago, but I would love to make it another time. How's next Friday?' has candor to recommend it.

Tips & Warnings
People look for acceptance, so be open and enthusiastic.

If you simply say that you can't make it, the person may interpret that as a brush-off. Always provide an explanation.

Be clear, candid and gracious.

Asking someone out can be difficult, so make it as easy as possible for the other person.

Posted: at 15-05-2009 01:15 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
- d_man at 15-05-2009 01:41 PM (14 years ago)
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must we read text books for everthing?
Some things just come by Reflex!..keep ur rules!

Posted: at 15-05-2009 01:41 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- onchedu at 15-05-2009 01:42 PM (14 years ago)
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Noted!
Posted: at 15-05-2009 01:42 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- myragonza at 18-05-2009 09:19 AM (14 years ago)
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refusing and requesting by

Posted: at 18-05-2009 09:19 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- osaomo at 18-05-2009 09:40 AM (14 years ago)
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"Suggest another specific day, or express your general wish to find another time that works for both of you. A straightforward 'I can't this time because I have to go to Chicago, but I would love to make it another time. How's next Friday?' has candor to recommend it."

What if u don't wanna go at all? Undecided...whether next friday or next year. or 20 years to come.. Huh? Huh?...

Posted: at 18-05-2009 09:40 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- diplomatik at 18-05-2009 06:04 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: JobPortng on 15-05-2009 01:15 PM
Sometimes circumstances are beyond your control. Here's how to refuse a date when you truly wish you could accept.

Step
1

Smile and make eye contact if the invitation is made in person.
Step
2

Communicate your complete attention if the request is made by phone. Consider saying something like 'Excuse me while I close the door' or 'I was hoping you'd call.'
Step
3

Express your thanks in whatever style is genuine and comfortable for you - a joke, a simple thanks, a great big 'Wow!'
Step
4

Communicate your regret at having to refuse, and explain why you need to decline the invitation.
Step
5

Suggest another specific day, or express your general wish to find another time that works for both of you. A straightforward 'I can't this time because I have to go to Chicago, but I would love to make it another time. How's next Friday?' has candor to recommend it.

Tips & Warnings
People look for acceptance, so be open and enthusiastic.

If you simply say that you can't make it, the person may interpret that as a brush-off. Always provide an explanation.

Be clear, candid and gracious.

Asking someone out can be difficult, so make it as easy as possible for the other person.


HUA.... Cheesy Cheesy Cool

Posted: at 18-05-2009 06:04 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Beauti4 at 18-05-2009 06:36 PM (14 years ago)
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Diplo u didnt use double u Tee helch on this one....lolz
Posted: at 18-05-2009 06:36 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- shanique at 19-05-2009 03:28 AM (14 years ago)
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approved and stamped

Posted: at 19-05-2009 03:28 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- fjoeaug at 21-05-2009 10:27 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: osaomo on 18-05-2009 09:40 AM
"Suggest another specific day, or express your general wish to find another time that works for both of you. A straightforward 'I can't this time because I have to go to Chicago, but I would love to make it another time. How's next Friday?' has candor to recommend it."

What if u don't wanna go at all? Undecided...whether next friday or next year. or 20 years to come.. Huh? Huh?...
u must to meet d plan B
Posted: at 21-05-2009 10:27 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- shanique at 21-05-2009 10:59 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: shanique on 19-05-2009 03:28 AM
approved and stamped

Posted: at 21-05-2009 10:59 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- vivian07 at 21-05-2009 11:02 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: rashyjones on 15-05-2009 03:25 PM
jst strollin by...
do u ever have some thing good to say  Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 21-05-2009 11:02 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Maffuz at 22-05-2009 08:32 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: osaomo on 18-05-2009 09:40 AM
"Suggest another specific day, or express your general wish to find another time that works for both of you. A straightforward 'I can't this time because I have to go to Chicago, but I would love to make it another time. How's next Friday' has candor to recommend it."

What if u don't wanna go at all? Undecided...whether next friday or next year. or 20 years to come.. Huh? Huh?...

i love that movie  Wink
Posted: at 22-05-2009 08:32 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- myragonza at 22-05-2009 08:45 AM (14 years ago)
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rebuking by

Posted: at 22-05-2009 08:45 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- biamblinks at 22-05-2009 08:58 AM (14 years ago)
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Passin
Posted: at 22-05-2009 08:58 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Rambukar at 22-05-2009 09:19 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: JobPortng on 15-05-2009 01:15 PM
Sometimes circumstances are beyond your control. Here's how to refuse a date when you truly wish you could accept.

Step
1

Smile and make eye contact if the invitation is made in person.
Step
2

Communicate your complete attention if the request is made by phone. Consider saying something like 'Excuse me while I close the door' or 'I was hoping you'd call.'
Step
3

Express your thanks in whatever style is genuine and comfortable for you - a joke, a simple thanks, a great big 'Wow!'
Step
4

Communicate your regret at having to refuse, and explain why you need to decline the invitation.
Step
5

Suggest another specific day, or express your general wish to find another time that works for both of you. A straightforward 'I can't this time because I have to go to Chicago, but I would love to make it another time. How's next Friday?' has candor to recommend it.

Tips & Warnings
People look for acceptance, so be open and enthusiastic.

If you simply say that you can't make it, the person may interpret that as a brush-off. Always provide an explanation.

Be clear, candid and gracious.

Asking someone out can be difficult, so make it as easy as possible for the other person.


Dr love! Grin
Posted: at 22-05-2009 09:19 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- myragonza at 22-05-2009 09:45 AM (14 years ago)
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Dr Kolo

Posted: at 22-05-2009 09:45 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- lovemar at 22-05-2009 09:48 AM (14 years ago)
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dis kind of love doctor, na better one so........
Posted: at 22-05-2009 09:48 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osaomo at 22-05-2009 09:50 AM (14 years ago)
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passing....nd ensurin new dates

Posted: at 22-05-2009 09:50 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- lovemar at 22-05-2009 09:56 AM (14 years ago)
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 Smiley Smiley Smiley Smiley
Posted: at 22-05-2009 09:56 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osaomo at 22-05-2009 09:57 AM (14 years ago)
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lol...

Posted: at 22-05-2009 09:57 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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