Is it wrong to marry for citizenship?? (Page 7)

@Bittersweet. it already doesnt pay of here, because they changed the laws for this guys to not marry anybody for the wrong reason and to protect the women here. Too many women ended here with their kids , kids that never met their own dads, because this guys divorced the minute they had their paper and ran to the next country. right now if they try to divorce they take their paper and send them on a no return flight back home.
Beside, how can all of them call themselves christians, if they already mess up an instution of God?Marriage is a connection by God to stay together forever, and to be blessed with kids if God thinks ur ready for it.
All the things this people did, made it now hard to get any visum , and sorry to say but if they only come to mess up other peoples countries they better be where they are.
I just finished court on a not paying dad of my son. I won and still he doesnt listen to the judge. Soon he finds himself in more trouble.If u dont care for ur own son for over 10 almost 11 years, what kind of person are u then.
Ur not worth any of Gods blessings.Next fight to come for my little girl, who didnt know her dad either.I tried, after the 'nice 'story that not all nigerians are the same to find out 80% is the same.
Poor kids to be so ashamed everywhere , to have dads they dont even know.

Posted: at 15-09-2010 03:11 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

I knew it that this post will bring along, many hidden people out to comment on it...

I got some to say about this to all the white ladies, no matter which country you came from in Europe, America and so on... I don't mean any disrespect to anyone at all, but the Major reason why this married thing is so common nowadays is been caused by your EU Govts, 2ndly your families... The EU rules make the foreigners look stupid in everything, no matter how skillful worker you are, they will still treat you unkind, with laws of papers, then when it comes to Parents, to be honest with you ladies, if you will tell yourself the truth, most of your parents doesn't like you meeting that black guy or foreigner, they will say all sorts of things to spoil your happiness been with him....thats Racist act !!!

So along the line with all this facing them foreigners, they seek the way out of it.. is so sad to do such things but this guys came loving you ladies for real, but still your laws and rules cripple them... if you will look at it well and treat them just like one of you, this fake marriage thing will not be in any vogue.

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Posted: at 15-09-2010 04:01 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

I know that there are some good naijas , but i see what goes on over here, so tell about that.thanks for ur reply anyway

Posted: at 15-09-2010 04:40 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

@dirtykid.
Thats not really thrue, especially in my family , we treat everybody same, we dont see anything like colour or whatever.Holland got many different colours, and we are very normal to all .My mother welcomed all my friends  i brought, feeded them and even bought them cloths, so dont know what country u talk off but its not thrue.
The whole thing started on the ones coming here for bad reasons, and no intentions to live their life here, unlike many other Africans, who normally legalized, who work normal jobs and behave good here.
I got many African friends in Holland who even witnessed, how in some outdoor festival, the Nigerians tried to get me out of some stand, while both my kids are half nigerians.Even they abused me in all sorts of ways to get me away, that in my own country where i carry my own passport, while most of them are illegal doing crime, which i know for a fact.Who are the racists here. I try to make my kids get used to Nigerians, since their dads both dont care about them, somebody has to do that.Time after time i get abused trying that.First investigate before talking of racisme.

Posted: at 15-09-2010 04:48 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Thanks, also feel for the kids who are abandomned by their own dads, and still get to see how they hurt their mother, who fights so hard for them.
They feel so down most the time.Its hard to start ur life seeying this kind of people.God is with us, that keeps me going.

Posted: at 15-09-2010 04:53 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

It sure does!

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Posted: at 15-09-2010 04:58 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

I know more women who ended same as me, but also i see good guys who married their women and look after their kids.I dont come here to judge, just to tell my story and experiences.

Posted: at 15-09-2010 05:04 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

BS i didnt say u, or anybody does so, am sayin we shudn just go there....
d same way when u hear d word racism all eyes go to white, as if we r d only racist....

Posted: at 15-09-2010 05:15 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

I got u from beginning!
I just wanted us to not let that impression here, that's all!
I really never classified ppl as colors, and I'll never do!
How could I?

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Posted: at 15-09-2010 05:17 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

hehehe i know, i was in antwerpen some weeks ago, leuk dat belgische taaltje, lol. also went to Gent last year too.its a very relaxed place for everybody same as Holland.

Posted: at 15-09-2010 05:26 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie