As a lady, you should learn to take responsibility for your actions and don't chicken out. You cant eat your cake and have it. A marriage to be and a fling.You chose the fling first then take responsibility. Do not abort the pregnancy.Let the marriage wait.Nurse the child and be proud it is the fruition of your fling.When you are 28/29 then start chasing after marriage.There are men who will love you as a single mother.it is not a taboo except for old schools.So,my friend enjoy life while it lasts.Peace!!!

 ,when gbegen happen,will he accept u???

In the beginning,a man gets a wife by the intervention of his parents cos they do the talking and research unlike now that guys do it themselves or by the intervention of friends before he presents her to his parents.Things have changed. Nothing is wrong in a lady making her moves and expressing her feelings to a guy. she has to be smart about just like guys do it.This can make the guy to even love her more because of such heart.However,she must not brag about it or think she has done what has not been done before.it will kill the guy ego.This kind of wooing should be between them.In this case tradition holds no bar.
But if she/he has not witnessed civilization then it will be a bad idea.  Moreover,there are deep traditional issues that must be considered bfore sayin i do otherwise it is bondage  

Nothing is wrong in marryng a single mother. What about a single father?.If she is a wife material,Godly and has not been worn down by her status, she is ok.

If it is known, no but if it is not known,yes. Above all, there is a danger of old love/affection coming back. There will be infidelity.
so, it'll finally be known to all.that means breakup!!