brother i will only advice you to go to her house and tell about the truth, that you are confused. Cuz if you try any other tin you may end up messing up. You can go filling sad and tell her. After you have told her, any tin she says can turn out to be your own surprise for her . Note that am not perfect but try telling the whole truth

for sure this man is weak.  what can he say to clarify him self that he is not o poppet