IS THAT WHAT U THINK FLY??? FRIENDS WITH BENEFIT COUL LEAD TO SOMETHING THAT THE LADY WILL BE THE ONE TO FEEL THE PAIN AFTERWARDS....

A scenario might be that something's
"off" for him in the relationship.

   Perhaps he senses you Leaning Forward, and it
feels like pressure to him.

   Perhaps he gets a feeling that you're needy, or
desperate, or clingy, or are focusing your whole
life and attention and energy on HIM, and that
just makes him want to run.

   He may want to keep you around, because you're
so cool and because you love him so much - who
wouldn't want that? - but he wants to run from the
"relationship."

   And that means running away from "sex," too -
because he KNOWS what sex means to you.

   He knows that, for you, sex means relationship.

   Friends, though, is FINE.

   And if you tell him that "friends" is fine -
he'll start to think he can just add in some
"benefits" - and that it will STILL be fine.

   It will - for HIM. But not for YOU.

   If we go along with the hope that "being
friends" will turn him back on, turn us into an
object of desire, or at least make him feel safe
enough to work through his "issues," we usually
end up with an even WORSE scenario:

   The worst thing that can happen (and I've been
through this) - is where he turns off segxwally to
you for any reason - he's worried about
"performing," he's "not ready" for a relationship,
he feels pressured by you, he feels scared, or
you've been Leaning Forward and something is off
for him - he feels like running away, he feels
crowded - whatever reason - and THEN, almost on a
whim, he turns back on again (just enough to have
sex with you) and then he turns back off again.

   What can turn him back on in this case is how
EASY we are.

   If we suddenly get really easy, and we seem to
drop our wanting of a relationship and he feels
we've made "peace" with "Just being friends" -
that's when he'll turn back on again for quick,
easy, NO-STRINGS-ATTACHED SEX.

   And, guess what?

   It doesn't mean anything to him.

   There's no way on this planet (perhaps this
Universe) that a man can turn back on to a woman
he's turned off of JUST BECAUSE she has sex with
him.

   Once we've agreed to "sport sex" - that's the
way it is. We're like "one of the boys."

   We're a "sex buddy."

   And then we have to pretend it was all okay
(because we DID say it was okay to be "friends" -
so we have to stick with that story).

   And that feels worse than awful.

   That feels like being a disposable tissue.

   And from that we can never recover the romance.

   The only way to turn this around is to stop
being friends.

   Stop the relationship. And...

   ...Turn YOURSELF into an "Object of Desire."

   You may not want to do that.

   It may feel like too much work.

   Here's where my Modern Siren program, and the
whole idea of being a "Siren", comes in - becoming
an object of desire actually REMOVES all the
effort.

   It TAKES AWAY all the work.

   It turns you and your life into something
amazing and desirable that every MAN has to WORK
FOR!

   Can you see how this "Turn-around" is in your
own idea of yourself?

   That instead of YOU trying to get HIM to be
segxwal and romantic - you turn YOURSELF and your
own life into ROMANCE.

   That means you cut off all effort instantly,
you go IMMEDIATELY into Circular Dating and Dating
Yourself - and you let HIM take care of his OWN
problems.

   You let him take care of his segxwal issues and
his commitment issues, and his fear, and
everything else that could possibly be getting in
his way.

   You leave him alone to take care of himself.

   And when he figures his OWN self out, then
he'll look over at you having this AMAZING, FUN
life, and do everything in his power to get you
back again.

   You let HIM find YOU.

   And by then, you may have met another - way
BETTER - man.

   By then - you'll have a CHOICE. He won't be
the only game in town.

WAS OFF AND BACK.... MISSED ALL MY PALS AND FORUM FRIENDS...BACK TO LIGHT UP THE FIRE HERE....

Thank,You,All.

Who is ds Queen u tokin abt Mr Eddy?

Stil 4 ma Mazi nd Vivi

E neva finish?
Just passin 2 C ma votes na . I go cum back lata,got tins 2 take care of. Samy if ds tin finish i beg buzz me,how U doing?
Where is ma beauti4?
Sandie,God is ma strength gurl. Hope U dy fyn o? My name sake Myra,ow r U doing?
To d House Au revior

B.Chidon U dy naija U no ask of me.No lele nt 2 gud 2 C u sha.Be bless as usual. Missed ma naijapals, Mamagina,Ur babygurl misses U here so much.U always in ma hart my Cherry Mama.
My mommy Beauti4, missed hearing 4rm U.
My dear Sammy,Cbee,Shanique,Sandie,Rify nd d rest i trowey salute o. Have nt bin dat gud bt Jehovah is ma strength. One luv am out

Cbee easy o rmbr U told me al 4 fun.. How U doing? How Beyonce grit am too.
Sammy Thanks alot u remain ma dear senator lol. How 9ja delta? Guy hide o cos mmmmm no wori
Mommy Beauti4 am fine swite, my way na weather nw o just 2 dy show face
Shanique kip doin UR tin gurl i care

Lol serene child i cnt lauf,i no wan tok b4 o bt ds funny use condom 4 wetin? To kiss? Where now? How U dy sef?
Gritings 2 al ma friends o,to al ma voters one luv
2 my mommy beauti4 I love U gurl
2 my MamaGina U remain d best
2 Sammy nd Vivi i trowey salute O,U guys rocks
2 my Sandie and Shanique who av stop lyin lol i hail o.
To my Naijapals at large bt home nd abroad Mira send large respect o.
To my Husband Kaliba, love U die love U trowey sef lol,con kiss me dear even though U tal well well pass me lol.
Blackbeauty005 Representing Lagos 4 al my 9ja pimps out there. I remain d Cutiest lol

Am fine now Sandie. Thanks so much. Keep flying gurl.

Vivi,diplo,sammy,mazi,cbee i misd u all, heaven knows. Beauti4 thanks 4 being there tru al my tim out,ure a wondaful friend.thanks mommy.i love U 4m d deepest part of me

Hey My Naijapals.
Sammy ow far?bein silent on me bt i undastand. Misd ya though.mis my vivian & diplomatik,helo 2 them.d wise one Mazi mira greet o.
Myra ma name sake i hail u 2 o
Cbee,wats gud? How u doin?
Sandie,shanique ow u dy?
Greetings 2 evryone and remain bless.
My dear MamaGINA,U remain my world.
My Mommy Beauti4, ure my precious jewel. I am strong now dear,can type now.how are U? Was sleeping when U cald dear but thank U so much.
To all my voters tnx alot. Leave U al in peace. God bless U all. Am out

Hey My Naijapals.
Sammy ow far?bein silent on me bt i undastand. Misd ya though.mis my vivian & diplomatik,helo 2 them.d wise one Mazi mira greet o.
Myra ma name sake i hail u 2 o
Cbee,wats gud? How u doin?
Sandie,shanique ow u dy?
Greetings 2 evryone and remain bless.
My dear MamaGINA,U remain my world.
My Mommy Beauti4, ure my precious jewel. I am strong now dear,can type now.how are U? Was sleeping when U cald dear but thank U so much.
Leave U in peace. God bless U all. Am out

Let d site blow with bomb rather

Stil admire my Vivian nd beauti4

The best thing to lead U Kennee is 2 b silent on U cos all am seein is a losing angry guy dat i tot shud knw wot peace stands 4. If i Mira aka Blackbeauty reply 2 any of Ur tok then let ds site bomb.
 

Excuse me Cbee, u knew that i hav stoppd talkin abt al those tins since and just avin fun lyk i used to.neva creatd any tok 2disturb anyone bt U can see Kennee just came up 2 me. Even when i wrote my words,i said aint refering 2 anyone and noone shud agrue bt i still get knock out 4rm d gud attitude guy kennee. If i had suportd his act b4 wud he hav tokd abt my rising. Heaven know i did nt do anytin abt d votes ok and Let It be dat way if anyone feel its by rig lt d person go and do d rig nw nd let there be peace pls i beg U, i dont want wahala 4m anyone, i have a home 2 luk afta nd nt naijapals wahala pls pls pls HELP ME TELL KENNEE AND HIS SUPPORTERS TO LEAVE ME ALONE, I AM NOT HERE 4 TROUBLE BT 4 PEACE. He shud just stay out of my way. I knw i do nt deserve ds tin anymre so can i have some peace pls? Y Mazi who can talk and talk wisely talk about him out of it? Y is dat only Kenne shout nd tok abt rig,pretenders,nd bad people here.he shud mind his biz i beg him now. Thank U

Kenne u said if we 2 knw who wil vote 4 me witout campaign u knw what i got 500 request in a wk nd i brought them dwn do nt tink na 4 forum my world is settled nd luvd wat i hav achieve and gain on dis site U dnt av a blink at it. Take a tour 2 ma page nd feel ma world am a personality in 9ja already i wine and dine wit d tops in 9ja, i am d highest showbiz gurl 2 deal wit,i run tins nd only dat cud win me anytin anywhere evn on Naijapals. If U want to know me listen 2 ma song know me on naijapals music aint here 2 gt a personality tin am here 4 gurls cumin into d industry 2 learn. I have vowd nt 2 say anytin bd or negative bt U cn neva run me dwn on dis site cos  I RULE. Thank U

Irinsi ni isoni lojo? Ki lo n rinsi ni biyi?
Ow Wil u run an electn witout a campaign evn d pple wey bring am say copy nd paste badges 4 sites,pages nd friends comment so y wont there b a campaign... Kennee U av bin tokin and seein contestants dt rise cos u below d person u nd ur dupy sori cnt spel ya name gurl r just blabin nd u hurt nd feelin bd cos u knw u out of it ds tym. U can continue toking while i watch d votes count 2 our side Mamagina and blackbeauty005, bcos we make ourselvs free nd 2 enjoy d contest bt its lyk we in d middle of politics so LETS GO THERE..... U See rolling nd u watch me cos God knows ma mind is clean on dis thing cal personality