Let the dead bury the dead in peace

Only God knows

Not even when I had already overcome the hurdles. What else do I need her for. She is meant to be my help in good and bad but she only want the good part, it is never done. She is not the right person

On which basis is the question asked? Following the scripture that is beyond any human understanding tellin us to follow his commandment. According to Jesus in his teaching that if any man is divorced and marry another woman who is equally divorced with the husband still alive has committed adultery.
      Marrying a man who has children from another woman before is no big deal but the biggest deal lies in whether the man was divorced or his wife was deceased. You already know the answer if either case should happen. They are two extremes that cannot be mingled together at all.

From above. In a relationship of trust and understanding, nothing must be kept from each other not even when you are about to be together till eternity. If you ask for her phone and she never allow you to check it, then the love is diluted somewhere. The closest person she can be free to is you but mow that she is keeping part of her from you, she is no longer in pure relationship with you even if you marry each other, she is somewhere else. If minor issues are not taking into consideration now, they will cause major accident in the future that will be fatal. Above all Fast and Pray but you already know my answer if you are spiritually connected.