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Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: 7 Year Old Nigerian Girl In Secondary School. |
on: 29-10-2010 07:49 AM
| I am quite impressed that such an outstanding performer in academics has been discovered again within our beloved Nigerian shores, incredibly at a very tender age.--- Very impressive. However, as a practising Nigerian professional, Deputy Governor of an outstanding primary school and parent of children who attend outstanding Grammar schools here in UK, I am a bit worried about actions like this and crave everyone's indulgence to look at the bigger picture. This child will leave secondary school at about 13 years of age if she continues to excel at this rate (might even be younger if the 'Nigerian fad of double promotion' continues). The big question is --- After fantastic and excellent GCSE results have been attained at about 13yrs of age?-- what next? go on to University?—
Is anybody considering her personal development mentally and psychologically in relation to social skills and the exposure she would have to put up within the 'adult world'? Please do not get me wrong, I am no killjoy. What is the point of 'double promotion' in the first place?
The Education Curriculum used in Nigeria is still largely based on what was brought to us by the British in the first place. However the reason for ensuring secondary school students begin at age 11+ in the Western world is that they have realised that one needs maturity to help maintain proper balance of lifestyle in higher education, hence the requirement to be about 18yrs of age to get enrolled into tertiary institutions. Secondly, it has been discovered that the parents of such children revel and bask in the euphoria of such publicity, forgetting the child oftentimes get pressurised to retain the status thrust upon them by the wider society irrespective of the cost to him/her.
We have seen examples in the past of child geniuses who were not emotionally prepared for the responsibility that comes with excellence at such a level and extremely high parental expectations. If the 'push' to ensure she remains on the top is not properly handled by the right professionals, she can subsequently end up unfulfilled due to growing up too fast and never enjoying her childhood.
Does this child play at all? Is she encouraged to put her books aside and be a normal 7 year old as expected? We must remember that time lost (no matter the reason for such loss) can never be regained. When she grows up and starts to relive her youth missed out on, everyone condemns her - See Late Michael Jackson for e.g., One can now conclude that--- all work and no play makes ---- an unfulfilled, unhapppy and most times bitter man/woman, blaming everyone for not allowing them develop at the pace or in the direction they would have desired when they were growing up
Developed countries have introduced a special academic programme for Gifted and Talented children in the Education curriculum which ensures the child is well grounded in all aspects of life, ensuring there is a proper balance between play/work. I hope and pray Nigeria will not fail this child prodigy. I wish her all the best in life and pray she attains all her desired goals within the will of God, Amen.
10nks olajukachi for relating ur idea,i just saw the topic and i thaught exactlly the same before i came about ur comment.i also comment the little angel on her brillancy but then i also think that the parent should take it alittlebit easy with her,am a mother of two and my children were also doing very well but then i believe there is time for everything and every aspect of childrens life is very important and should not be missed.even the oyinbos that introduce education to us in africa has so much regulated their educa
tional system that there is no matter how brillant u are there is a particular age that u must finish ur schooling so that no area of ur youthful stage is being missed.well i pray that the girl will continue to grow in wisdom ,knowledge and understanding | | | | |
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Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: 7 Year Old Nigerian Girl In Secondary School. |
on: 29-10-2010 07:45 AM
| I am quite impressed that such an outstanding performer in academics has been discovered again within our beloved Nigerian shores, incredibly at a very tender age.--- Very impressive. However, as a practising Nigerian professional, Deputy Governor of an outstanding primary school and parent of children who attend outstanding Grammar schools here in UK, I am a bit worried about actions like this and crave everyone's indulgence to look at the bigger picture. This child will leave secondary school at about 13 years of age if she continues to excel at this rate (might even be younger if the 'Nigerian fad of double promotion' continues). The big question is --- After fantastic and excellent GCSE results have been attained at about 13yrs of age?-- what next? go on to University?—
Is anybody considering her personal development mentally and psychologically in relation to social skills and the exposure she would have to put up within the 'adult world'? Please do not get me wrong, I am no killjoy. What is the point of 'double promotion' in the first place?
The Education Curriculum used in Nigeria is still largely based on what was brought to us by the British in the first place. However the reason for ensuring secondary school students begin at age 11+ in the Western world is that they have realised that one needs maturity to help maintain proper balance of lifestyle in higher education, hence the requirement to be about 18yrs of age to get enrolled into tertiary institutions. Secondly, it has been discovered that the parents of such children revel and bask in the euphoria of such publicity, forgetting the child oftentimes get pressurised to retain the status thrust upon them by the wider society irrespective of the cost to him/her.
We have seen examples in the past of child geniuses who were not emotionally prepared for the responsibility that comes with excellence at such a level and extremely high parental expectations. If the 'push' to ensure she remains on the top is not properly handled by the right professionals, she can subsequently end up unfulfilled due to growing up too fast and never enjoying her childhood.
Does this child play at all? Is she encouraged to put her books aside and be a normal 7 year old as expected? We must remember that time lost (no matter the reason for such loss) can never be regained. When she grows up and starts to relive her youth missed out on, everyone condemns her - See Late Michael Jackson for e.g., One can now conclude that--- all work and no play makes ---- an unfulfilled, unhapppy and most times bitter man/woman, blaming everyone for not allowing them develop at the pace or in the direction they would have desired when they were growing up
Developed countries have introduced a special academic programme for Gifted and Talented children in the Education curriculum which ensures the child is well grounded in all aspects of life, ensuring there is a proper balance between play/work. I hope and pray Nigeria will not fail this child prodigy. I wish her all the best in life and pray she attains all her desired goals within the will of God, Amen.
10nks olajukachi for relating ur idea,i just saw the topic and i thaught exactlly the same before i came about ur comment.i also comment the little angel on her brillancy but then i also think that the parent should take it alittlebit easy with her,am a mother of two and my children were also doing very well but then i believe there is time for everything and every aspect of childrens life is very important and should not be missed.even the oyinbos that introduce education to us in africa has so much regulated their educa
tional system that there is no matter how brillant u are there is a particular age that u must finish ur schooling so that no area of ur youthful stage is being missed.well i pray that the girl will continue to grow in wisdom ,knowledge and understanding | | | | |
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Forum / The Buzz Central / Re: Best Dressed Women In Nollywood |
on: 26-10-2010 11:32 AM
| I wanna see how they can translate their beauty to peaceful home. Sisters, I wanna tell single ones among you the truth...Get a good man or if you are "G", declare.Remember, after 35, Naija men will only relate to you as instrumentum laboris for pleasure satisfaction. Jienu choronu di oooo. Ezigbo di bu ugwu nwanyi. O bu k'oham n'onu.
you are preaching. Where is your own wife? don't mind him,look at his bleached face, thanks sis for letting us take note of the colour of his face,real example of a street idiot. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: I beg u, 9ja girls and boys...HELP ME! i need some advices :((( |
on: 26-08-2010 12:57 PM
| | i know how u fell girl becos i can say that i have also been in this kind of situation once but thank God today i can laugh again,girl i will really tell u is not easy getting married to a young guy becos if u do then u have to be very patient,apply wisdom and pretend as if u dont see some things and at the same time dont say without him my life is not completed, if possible keep ur self busy with some things like facebook,giving comments on naija or any other enlightrning site on computer just to wipe away ur time if u are felling lonelly,fine time to go out with freinds and family just to avoid being alone,if possible involve ur self in church activities etc. infact u need to be very strong for urself now.if the guys here like it or not i am saying that unless with the grace of God and some really GOD fearing one africa men are really difficult some time when it comes to marrige becos most of them still belive in exrta maritals afair even after their marrige since africa culture permit it even though our bible those not.i dont say that u should not love ur man oh but i will advice not to show him too much again,second if u are the type that will not sleep untill he is back i beg stop that for now,thirdlly stop calling him every now and then again on the phone,i am saying this becos some men will change only when u buggle up a bit with them.just like some one said before if there is any special things that u always pamper him with thinking that u wants to satisfy him pls stop it then u will see the changes.i try some of this thing and it works for me. | | | | |
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Forum / Sports / Re: West African Footballer of The Year |
on: 22-07-2010 03:48 PM
| Both Mikel and Yakubu dont deserve to be there, but since they are already in the the list they should also include Sani Kiata.
well said jare sis,so that the award go just be (the worst footballers in west africa)  | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Would you marry a rich illiterate? |
on: 20-07-2010 05:26 PM
| sure, why not..  the next day i 'll just give rat poison to drink and die so i can claim her wealth and move on....  omo no time ooo Yu don Turn Murderer be dat bros is better u remain in that ur africa community,becos u cant leave in an advance country with that type of ur poisinous mind o.becos for every death body here in europe an optursy is being carried out before burial and if they suspected any fuel play then the c.i.d will start from the insiders people and be ready becos they will definatelly find out what went wrong.dont daught oyinbo by saying who see me or u go tell them. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: is it ryt 4 a woman 2 be single 4 life ??? |
on: 14-07-2010 03:07 PM
| she sabi what she wants...but we humans created to be together
i no undstand wetin u mean by "she sabi wot she wants"..  she knows what she wants.....but nobody can stay alone forever what did u mean that nobody can stay alone forever?if u mean becos of marriage then it is possible o,becos those catolic nunering sisters nko that just decide not to marry but to serve in Gods house.even bible times also it happens with women serving in the temple all their lifes and they are happy remaining single so it depends on individual choice.even in europe thousands and million of women are single and they are well respected in the society,unlike africa where people look down on women becos they are not married even dough the same people who are married are just surfering and smiling in the marriage | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Who Should Pay For The First Date, He Or She? |
on: 14-07-2010 02:52 PM
| | see me see question,i just come dey surprise why u guys come dey dotch this payment part of the outing now,becos i remember from the last post how most of u guys were saying that u cant leave in a woman house as africa culture dont permit,also a lady should not ask a man out or propose to a man becos africa culture dont permit this as well,but now that is paying culture don permit am ba?well as for me i wont ask a guy out let alone thinking of who is going to pay,thank God my husband pays during our time even dough that i am more than capable of doing so.so u guys africa culturally a man should pay so make una carry una responsibility jare. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: is it ryt 4 a man to live in is wife's house ? |
on: 4-07-2010 10:17 PM
| From African setting and experience.we have gathered that its not the best for the man 2 do so,it has been noticed that in time of slight misunderstanding with the woman,women has always told their spouses to pack.Besides,her family wont see the man in good light.he may be seen as a gold digger,which generally would make the man be disrespected by her family members and friends.If its me i cant bear such things in the name of love.
If she claim to love me let her put the house on rent if she's the owner of the building but if she's not the owner then she should pack in with me into my afforded accommodation if she truly loves me,this is b'cos a man should be looked up to by a woman no matter her wealth but if she cant then if am in the shoe of this guy i would rather marry her from my own humble abode instead of staying with her if i must marry her. otherwise ,i may call the union quit if she cant stay with me.
then my brother it will be better u remain in that ur africa oh,becos if u leave here in europe all that thing you are saying will not be all that possible,becos no body cares whos house it is,what is important is that we have a place to hide our head.infact in most cases here where i leave,most landlord or government prefer to give their houses out to women instead of men,so tell me what happen if u guys need accomodation urgentlly.what you dont know is that(eni to leru,lo leru)which means who owns the slave,owns the properties.-an adage in yoruba language.so my guy wake up.we are no more in the oldies | | | | |
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Forum / The Buzz Central / Re: GHANA AUTHORITY ARRESTS NIGERIAN, DEMANDS FOR WORK PERMIT |
on: 4-07-2010 08:11 PM
| For Christ's sake, can't Nigerian movie stars stay in Nigeria and act? The Ghananians have taken over the Nigerian movies.The embarassment has not started yet.
i wonder oh my sister what kind of location site has ghollywood that we dont have here in nigeria.God have mercy ghana sef dey make mouth(tufiakwua)no bi their fault,na nigeria government that didnot repair our electricity light cause the trouble if not watin go carry nollywood that thaught ghollywood how to act there.if not that there are mumu sef,what is the meaning of ghollywood in the first place?infact that name sef alone sound foolish.since america claim hollywood,india claim bollywood,nigeria claim nollywood,so dem sef think that they can claim ghollywood nonsence people for nonsence name film industry | | | | |
