Why would we need to

This happen to me once.....I cried for a yr and a half. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, had suicidal thoughts, needed pills to stay awake and function, needed pills to sleep at night…..depression was not even the word. I went through a lot. I’m over it now. Talking to God helped greatly. I still have no explanation as to why he left me the way he did (no goodbyes, no phone call, no letters….he just left), but right now it doesn’t matter. I learned a lot though especially the fact that no one can make you happy.

What I did: I picked up the pieces and moved on with life.

Tell us your experience and why you feel this way. Also tell us how many Nigerian girls you dealt with to label ALL Nigerians girls has such. Tell us if your mother is Nigerian and how she feels about you thinking this way about her. Tell us if you have sisters, aunts, cousins, nieces and are they place within this category. You can't make general statements like this without backing it up.

And I am not offended cause I know that this ain't got nothing to do with me. And given the fact that you don't know me, I don't care what you think about me cause I'm Nigerian.

LOL.....
Hello my name is Ihuoma and I'm a virgin....

They said that the jury told them that they believe that it was R.kelly but they could not confirm if it was her. It was noted that she never appeared in court during the trail which the jury said it would have made a difference.

I am watching Nancy grace now and it was noted that the jury didnot have enough evidence to prove it was the girl in the video. The question was not if it was him but if it was her. They saw the tape only once and used still photos of the tape and tried to compare photos of the victim when she was younger to the still photos but they could not say (for sure) say if it was her. Keep in mind that the girl and her parents testified in 2002 that is not her. They also talked about a mole on R. Kelly's back that was not present on the man in the video (but they never looked at R. Kelly back's). I'm so upset. He avoided this for 6yrs and now he is out. They also made a point that the trial was held in Chicago where R.Kelly is from.

I saw parents out there cheering R.Kelly on like this was nothing serious. It's sad. I did not see the tape (don't want to) but I was so sure they had him.

R. Kelly acquitted
By Stacy St. Clair | Tribune reporter
2:12 PM CDT, June 13, 2008

A Cook County jury on Friday acquitted R&B superstar R. Kelly of child pornography charges, marking the end of a high-profile trial rich in courtroom drama and celebrity intrigue.

The 41-year-old singer, whose real name is Robert Kelly, long denied charges that he videotaped himself engaging in a variety of sex acts with his then-underage goddaughter. Authorities said the female in the video could have been as young as 13 at the time.

The jury of nine men and three women deliberated for 7 ½ hours before finding Kelly not guilty on all 14 counts.

The verdict ends a bizarre case that had languished for nearly six years. During almost four weeks of testimony, the jury heard about three-person segxwal encounters and watched a sex tape in which the male participant is seen urinating on a female.

Neither the alleged victim, now 23, nor her parents testified during the trial. All three denied her involvement in the tape to a grand jury in 2002.

Without their cooperation, the prosecution used other witnesses to describe the relationship Kelly shared with his goddaughter--an aspiring rapper who witnesses said became a member of his entourage while in junior high school. She often visited him at his downtown recording studio or watched him play basketball at a West Side gym, they testified.

Only one witness testified to having direct knowledge of an inappropriate relationship between Kelly and the alleged victim. Lisa Van Allen told the jury she engaged in a series of segxwal encounters with the singer and his goddaughter when the girl was a minor.

The defense tried to undermine Van Allen's testimony by accusing her of concocting the story to extort money from Kelly. Van Allen, who lives in Georgia, called prosecutors with information about the case shortly after her fiance was arrested on guns and weapons charges.

Kelly's attorneys contended the young woman in the tape is not the alleged victim but a prostitute. They called three family members of the alleged victim who testified that they saw no resemblance between their relative and the female in the video.

Kelly also did not testify. Without testimony from him or his alleged victim, the singer's attorneys built their case around a caterpillar-shape mole along his spine. They argued that the man in the recording has an unblemished back, meaning Kelly couldn't be the man in the video.

If you don't see the mole, the defense told the jury, then Kelly cannot be convicted.

Kelly's attorneys also suggested the 27-minute tape had been doctored, going so far as to say someone could have edited the singer's head onto another man's body. A prosecution expert testified such editing trickery would take 44 years and still would be obvious to viewers.

The drawn-out legal battle has not slowed Kelly's music career. He has released five albums and a greatest-hits collection since he was indicted in 2002. He also has completed several concert tours.

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Ironically me aunt and uncle has dealt (is dealing with the same exact thing). My cousin, their daughter (now 17), was 15 when she got pregnant. When they heard she was about 3 months along but she had no clue she was pregnant herself. So she told her sister first then about a month later she told her parents. Of course they were shocked and hurt and disappointed. They threw her out of the house. Which I honestly couldn’t blame them.  So she move in with her sister. They went through a lot, trying to meet the boy’s (now 19) family and trying to figure out his plans for the future and baby. At around 6 months she moved in with the boyfriend and his mother. My aunt (her mother) decided the best thing was for her to come home but my uncle (her father) was not for it. She had the baby (both her mother and sister was there). Everything was as calm as it can be under that situation. Then she was kicked out the boyfriend’s house because all they did was fight and it was getting on the boyfriend’s mother’s nerve. She moved back home with her parents and it has been hard for her. Her parents let her know that the baby is her responsibility. She has to pay for daycare, find ways to pick up and drop off the child at day care. Her mother helps out at times but it’s her sole responsibility. I don’t blame them for the way they are dealing with this. If she was old enough and mature enough to have sex, she should have been just has mature to use a condom.  I will make her grow up. Let her know that her life is over; because what she does now not only affect her but affects her baby. No friends, going out, etc. It’s time for you to be an adult. 

It's sad; I can not give advice on whether or not she should get an abortion. That's between her and God. It's sad that she would make an adult decision to have sex but not be mature enough (financially, emotional and physically) to deal with the adult consequences. I feel so sorry for people in situations like this and thanked God that I knew that at 14,15, 16 even 17, I knew I was not mature enough to handle sex and all the repercussions that came with it. I was mature enough not to have sex.   

To me the writing is always on the wall. You can chose to see it or ignore it but when it's time, I think you'll know.

I agree with both of you.
I am 26yrs and very much ready for marriage....I do have my reasons. But I would also like to accomplish alot. But I am also scared that I would miss out on someone special because I am only focused on my dreams first. I guess that's not bad b/c then I can bring something into the marriage and have something to offer within the marriage but at the same time I am 26yrs: no I'm not rushing to get married but I have been seriously thinking about it.

When do you think is the right age to start thinking about marriage?
When do you think is the right age to get married??

That ain't nothing new....here in America, that's considered the norm.

How about not sleep with her best friend at all....

Would you do that is front of your boyfriend??
If so then that's not cheating. If you wouldn't wrestle with your guy friends in front of your boyfriend, then you are cheating.....so STOP it 

Doing anything you won’t do in front of your significant other to someone else. Whether it’s kissing, flirting, fondling, holding hands with someone else. If you can’t do this in front of your partner, you know you shouldn’t be doing it. Therefore it constitutes cheating.

I'm actually not understand her views. It seems like she is saying that sex (if you are married) is to be within a marriage....but that goes without saying.
But then it seems has if she's saying that sex is not that important in a marriage....which I do not agree with.

I guess the whole point is if you're married (or in a serious relationship) control your segxwal desire to have an affair.

Will you respect her after that?
Would you want to pursue a r/ship with her after that??

OMG...Girl you would not believe this!! I went on a date not too long ago (a few days ago actually) and I thought about what you said; but this man's mouth was so horrible it was not even funny....and I kept laughing think about you. His lips was so chapped it looked like it was infected. His gums were black and pink. I was so turned off by it.....it was funny because he kept  asking for a kiss and I bluntly told him NO. Then once he tried to kiss me, I have never jumped so high in my life. I didn't want to be rude to end the date (which I should have)...I mean this is a grown ass man (34 yrs old), walking around with his mouth like that. Then he called me and wanted to know if I liked him and why I wouldn't kiss him. I told him that his mouth was horrible and that I thought he had an infection; I told he needed petroleum vasaline and to visit a dentist twice a year. I also told him that because of that, there was no chemistry between us. I give him advice: If he knows that he has a date on Saturday, he should start applying vasaline on Sunday so by the date night his lips wouldn't be so bad....this is to help the next woman.

I wanted to share that with you but I thought i would share with everyone. Needless to say that the date lasted only 2hrs. And all I said was bye before I drive off after we ate. God I have never seen a man's mouth like that....he had other this wrong wit him but that was the worst.

I was really shocked when I heard he died of a colon illness. Sad.