Well... If that what she wants.. Good for her.. Let her go and see things for herself ... She will come back and tell the story ... So the rest ladies thinking to covert to Islam will learn from her experience..... Abi  na there money dey na

Those snakes really do not bite.In any community where they forbid killing snakes and there are many of such communities in Anambra and Imo States,snakes in such communities do not bite.They come around peoples houses from time to time,they stay for sometime and leave on their own without hurting anybody.Why should you kill a snake if it does not harm you???.Can the Pastor swear he does not know about that tradition since he has been staying there???.I think the Pastor should concentrate on his Church and stop trying to change the tradition of a people.The Pastor have a village and I am sure his own village have some traditions which the pastor have not changed,yet he went to another community and wants to change a tradition that has been there from time immemorial.The problem with us Africans is that we forget we have always been better than the people we are trying to copy.I mean any tradition that can stop snakes from biting and hurting people,to me such tradition is a very good tradition.Instead of us to study and identify the reason why this tradition is able to stop a snake from biting,and apply the same to other harmful animals,we are busy following white mans tradition which cannot stop a snake from biting.

I was a loving husband until I became a “born again” Christian. Then I discovered certain things written by Paul in the bible appointing me the head of my wife. I eagerly accepted the appointment. Jesus reveals that the worst kind of evil is the one which is presumed to have a religious sanction. I might be a murderer but in my heart-of-hearts I know it is wrong to kill. However, if the church convinces me that by killing men I am doing the work of God, then I can kill with gusto and without any conscience.



Paul say: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:22-24).

Even though this is addressed to wives and not to husbands, it was music to my ears. I thanked God that he deemed it fit to make me head and not tail. As far as I was concerned, it gave me the divine sanction to Lord it over my wife. Those who know my wife will immediately recognise that such presumed lordship would be fiercely contested. It took a few battle-scars and the tutelage of the Holy Spirit for me to recognise this scripture which gave me putative authority over my wife “in everything” is morally and spiritually bankrupt.

Pauline fallacy
In classically Pauline fashion, the scripture is full of inherent contradictions. Christian wives cannot say Jesus is Lord on the one hand (I Corinthians 8:6); and say husband is Lord on the other. Jesus says: “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other.” (Matthew 6:24). It is fundamentally irreverent for Paul to ascribe equal status to the husband “as to the Lord” in the life of the wife.

Paul says: “I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” (I Corinthians 11:3). This is preposterous. It is not only unscriptural, it is unworkable. In the Old Testament, Deborah was a judge in Israel. (Judges 4:4-7). This made her the head of all the men by divine sanction. Today, let a man go and work in Nigeria’s Ministry of Finance and tell the female Minister; Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, that “the head of woman is man.” He will not last on the job.

Jesus would never make the man the head of the woman. That would displace God; the one and only head Jesus prescribes for everybody. Indeed, Jesus does not give authority to a man over another human-being. He [Jesus] says to his disciples: “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and those who are great exercise authority over them. Yet it shall not be so among you.” (Matthew 20:25-26). The only authority Jesus gives his disciples is over demons: “I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you.” (Luke 10:19).

Matrimonial dictatorship
Paul is in error and he leads many Christian men into error. He has created a situation where, in Christian homes, the abuse of wives by husbands is rampant. The Christian husband asserts his “Paul-given” right to control his wife’s life. He uses Pauline scriptures and chauvinistic church doctrine to enforce his presumptive right to tell her what to do. He demands her unquestioning submission to his whims and caprices. There is often little or no mutuality or loving consideration here. It is either his way or the highway. When the man marries, he does not only marry a wife. He marries - a cook, a washer-woman, a sex-slave and a maid, - all in one Pauline package for the fee of a dowry. Every morning, he wakes up saying: “Thank you, Jesus!”

But it is all thanks to Paul that many a Christian husband believes his wife’s feelings and opinions are inconsequential. He may discredit them on principle or specifically because “Adam was not deceived, but the woman.” (1 Timothy 2:14). Or, he may give lip-service to respecting her views, but later disparage them as “emotional and not logical.”

Thereby, the Christian wife, who has been ransomed by Christ, is put back into bondage. She is constrained to dissociate from certain friends and family-members because of the need to keep “His Majesty” happy. She avoids some of her favourite activities for the sake of “keeping the peace.” If she objects to her Lord-husband’s heavy-handedness, she is castigated as “rebellio-us,” and “spiritually im-mature.” If she questions his opinions and decisions or disagrees with them, his lordship might just beat her up so that “the will of God” may be done in her life.

But it is not the will of God that the wife should play second-fiddle to her husband. It is the will of Paul. It is the will of God that all men and women should submit to God. Marriage is not about doing of the will of the husband. It is about the doing of the will of God. The Christian husband who operates on the premise of my will be done has set up himself for a cantankerous marriage.

Servant husbands
Let me speak directly to my power-drunk husband colleagues who would have me excommunicated for daring to love our female adversaries. No matter the forcefulness of your dictatorship at home, I assure you your wife resents you. She may be kneeling down for you on the outside, but she is standing up to you on the inside. If you would just take the time to study the words of Jesus, you would see that your house is built on sand. Sooner than later, it will fall.

Even if the husband were to be the head of his wife; that would still not be to his advantage. A Christian head is different from a secular head. Jesus says: “Whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:27-28). This means even Paul’s position ends up making the husband the servant of his wife.

When there was disagreement between Abraham and Sarah over Ishmael, God did not take sides with Abraham as some bogus head of his wife. God declared his own overriding will, which happened to agree with Sarah and not with Abraham. (Genesis 21:9-12). That is the role of God in the Christian home. Every decision is referred and deferred to him.

Because we fail to understand this, Christian men make lousy husbands. If you don’t agree with me, you don’t need to argue. Just prove me wrong in your home.

     It's quite obvious that every woman wants to love and be loved in return, but what is confusing me about it is that an average African woman (A case study of Nigeria) wants to love and be loved by a PRINCE CHARMING!
   
       By Prince Charming, I mean a complete package - Slim, Tall, Handsome, Educated (Intelligent), Wealthy, etc. What happens to the popular Maxim, "Love is Blind"?

In the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the dating journey toward happily-ever-after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.
So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that's keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship.

The following are some common bad dating beliefs:
• You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.
• You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.
• You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
• You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children.
If any of the above sound familiar, don't worry. You're not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared toward helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad dating habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad dating habit -- for good!

1. Identify the dating traps you're stuck in
Think you've got to miraculously solve all your problems before you'll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good "ones" left? Or do you believe that your perfect partner will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you're stuck in is the first step. Next, you've got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck. To find out how, keep reading.

2. Assess your excess baggage
Next, it's important to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, not your present or future. If you've got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage!

3. Dump your excess baggage
In order to have a happily ever after future, you have to first believe you deserve finding a mate. Gather those painful memories that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they've got to go. Thank them for the lessons you've learned and tell them that it's now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind's eye, give them the heave-ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.

4. Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness
So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like "I'll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job." The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute!
When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities.

When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until something external happens, today's the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.

5. Embrace a new dating vocabulary
Now that you're baggage light and dating-trap free, it's time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself "Love/dating/my ideal relationship is..." and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words (words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.). By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you'll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!
So there you have it -- five simple dating tips and techniques to help you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. May you learn them, love them, live them. In doing so, you just may fall in love with your life all over again, not to mention exponentially increase your chances of future relationship success.

Status:Super control juju activated

Like you all (most) know my story of how my boss got me a personal car in my name just like that as at then..all because he saw me as a humble woman and someone that was good in the job.  Just yesterday while I was marking my 25th Birthday in the office, like the good and nice boss he’s been to me all the years I’ve worked with him and the company, I kept some piece of cake for him and served him with a drink in his office like I did to other managers of the company. I wasn’t on sit, he called my intercom several times and decided to call my mobile, he called and told me to come to his office, I went, and he asked me to sit down...i did. He wished me a happy birthday, thanked me for the piece of cake I gave to him and gave me an envelope, I was actually thinking it was an official document that needed my attention, but to my surprise when I opened it I saw a Hundred and fifty thousand naira cash, I was dazed, I asked him if he needed me to help him go to the bank? His answer was NO...that I surprised him with my birthday cake which nobody has ever given to him all the years he’s stayed in Nigeria , and complimented me on my appearance saying I was looking attractive…that he decided to also give to me something that I deserve as a nice, Intelligent , humble, discreet and a special woman. I was like Wow.. what a gift..all I did told him was thank u sir, am grateful. He went further saying he’s been observing me for years now and that he loves me and wants to marry me..He offered me a cheque of N6.5M instantly to sort out things with myself and if at all I am in any debt, , whatever will be my problem/need..he’s in a better position to takia. av practically done nothing but pondered on this issue.. I really don’t now wat to do..just this afternoon he called me via intercom..i went ..and he gave me thirty thousand naira ... I am totally confused..i no wan chop again...make una help advice me on wat to do...My Professorship no near this case at all...i seriously need help..two heads are better than one.

IS HE FOR REAL? OR ITS PAY BACK TIME?

Ill mannered comments are not welcomed

Try and be a good mother to your boys and forget about marriage 

It's never a good idea to negotiate with terrorists.Naija is a nation, Boko Haram cannot dictate
what happens in Nigeria.

Once I was listening to BBC Radio, this was the topic of the day and many people was responding to it worldwide. Please Pals mate what do you think about it?? Although I'm not married yet to give my experience but I can stand it continuously... count me out without it (too hot segxwally).

hi ,am from delta state warri but i based in europe,i will like to share this wit u guys and i need ur opinions pls ,there dis very young pretty girl i met on facebook sometimes in march 2010 she is also from warri i added her and she indeed accept me and we becam friends online and at d time we became friends she was experiencing a heartbreak from her boyfriend courses of d breakup between dem i dont know but i tried to make sure she overcomes watever heartbreak she might be going through den, along d line we started dating and getting to like and feel love for each other from a distance,i calls her like 10x in a day trying to bridge d gap between us and we even got to d stage of wanting to get married to each other.



i introduced her to my family and she did d same too i called her parents and she calls my family too ,we even went as far as exchanging our internet password so we can truely build trust on each other,but sometimes last year i met my ex girlfriend in a party in europe and something led to d other we had sex in a rush becos she came with her recent boyfriend to d party then after some months she calls me telling me she is pregnat for me we argured over it and along d line my fiance in nigeria saw some of d chat i had wit my brother on dis same issue based on d fact dat she can access my inbox on facebook and she asked me at first i was denying but later i saw it dat she was really not taking it easy on me i have to tell her how it happend and dat for now am not sure am responsible for my ex pregnancy becos i met her like 5months ago and she is 3months pregnant now

yet she said am responsible ok fine i told her lets wait untill after d child is born we can go for DNA test we are in europe such things are very easy here to do and if d test proves dat am d father i will accept d baby as my own and not d mother of d baby i told my fiance all dis and i begged her to pls forgive me dat am sorry for wat happened dat am only human and dats why dis mistake happened for like 4days i keep begging her on dis issue but to my supprise dis evening she just told me she cant continue wit me dat she cant get married to a guy dat has a baby wit other woman ,dat if i had d baby b4 we met she will understand but since i got a girl pregnant while we still dating she wants to walk away,pls my dear pals i need ur candid advice on wat to do becos i really love dis girl in nigeria.