If the circumstance at that time, I am a woman with no strings attached, ie. no fiance or a bf, or no plans for a high career, hold a hot shot job, just be an obscure individual, and I don't come from a respectable family, ie. nobody knows me and any of my family members, and the man agrees to get 'legally' married first before any segxwal activity commences, and he is not going to infect me with any fatal diseases, and this couple is 'reliable' and not criminal as in, they won't kill me after giving birth, then, maybe, just maybe, I would consider it.
But then again, I don't think I would do it. I love babies, but, most likely no. Not because I am ugly.

For some women, its the maturity (plus accountable and responsible behaviour) of the men that substantiate her submissiveness and other qualities that are agreeable to man.

looked after? Will Mercy accept his children from his "former" relationship?
When things like this happens, I only wish the best for the kids.I hope the kids mama can manage them and hopefully the father will be there for them whenever they need him. There should not be any compromise.

Don't always blame the woman if a man leave his wife and his own kids. SOme wives have sacrificed and compromised a lot for the "shared future" of their families, while the husband idle away and do the least of things. So,Do you feel its easy to bear children? Be a woman for one year, and feel what its all like.

Would you still lie to a girl you feel is proper to spend her life with you? Or you'd reserve the truth for this one special girl only? Meaning the rest don't deserve the truth.
Just curious.

I was told now Nigerians need visa to go to Singapore? Double check if interested to go there.

nice to be sharing these:-

Brunei -"the abode of peace", its just like its name.If you want to raise families, this is one of the safes place. Clean place, they hardly see black people here except in the oil town of Seria. Clubbing and drinking alcohol is done in the neighboring cities. They speak and understand English, many are British educated. Speaks better English than its neighbouring states. Hotels have good standard culinary offers. This is a law abiding country. Drugs, corruptions are not tolerated here apart from alcohols for Muslims. During Ramadan no drinking and eating in public places. The currency was pegged with the Singapore dollar, 1 dollar to one dollar. Oil producing country with expats working mostly in the oil & gas and, education industries.

China, Beijing & Shanghai- great and big, nice shopping

India- beautiful textiles and culture- many places dirty and smelly though including the souvenirs bought, unfortunately. The men stare, its discomforting. Its not polite to stare, let alone very long emotionless stares. Excuisite food! Totally love the restaurants' food. But, prepare some medicine for irritable bowel. Aggra-where the Taj Mahal is located, is beautiful.  Went to Mysore, Bangalore, Hyderabad, Calcutta, and a place in Tamil Nadu. Sometimes felt like in the story of "One Thousand and One Night".

Malaysia- KL, Melaka, Johor, Selangor, Langkawi, Pulau Pinang, nice multiethnic societies.The government tries hard to make the 3 major races live harmoniously (Malay, Chinese and Indians). Its such a great place to be, big and well maintained civil structures-the roads are good. Can eat well and cheap here. But, some sick people who murders ppl senselessly are beginning to take on the headlines here.

Singapore -Clean nice place-the building have very good housekeeping, people thee are ok but no respect for accurate menu scripting, small place too. Sometimes it appears their civic mindedness are shortlived and frustrations easily looms on those not sincere with customer friendliness. I ever heard one electronic goods shopkeeper shouted to an old european couple "f*^k off" and get out of my shop (something along that line) way back in the early 90s. Surprisingly.

UK- nice but sometimes can find dirty places too. The locals don't like any foreigners actually but they keep it civil. In Ireland, hundreds of polish immigrants had to find refuge in a church to escape from racial attack. York doesn't want any non-locals to own property / land there. But UK generally has good people and they will respect you if you are civil and contribute well to society. Love to holiday and send children to school there. Kids love schooling there because of good teachers who respect students. Would love to spend one spring time in a cottage there with family and make new English friends though.They love antiques stuff too and its fun watching their local tv programs minus those reality talk shows. The last neighbors I had were very very sweet and nice. They are splendid in garbage management! Many nice feelings for England, but its still sweeter to be home where you actually belong. But they should accept, many people from their colonies 'need' to take their riches back. The legacy they left behind where they've touched shores and managed, they should have been ashamed with themselves because they did not leave much harmony behind for the many different tribes of people they have made to mix and made to go against each other. Enjoyed daily clubbing here during the student days in London. New, Fancy clubs are better. Used to love people watching in Camden Town (London)-mixed blacks/ Carribeans/ Creoles, dreadlocks were plenty in this area-and they 'all' look gorgeous / hip / stylish! Shopped for nice 'Queen Anne' cutleries and nice scarves at Shepherds Bush. The cheapest chainstore still sells very good quality clothes- ASDA, Primark. But Tesco is getting fun to shop in. The people there always call you "love" when you talk with them especially the old folks, just realised maybe they're trying to be sweet and nice. But some senior citizens always like to also ask, "are you going to stay here after you finish school?" Lol...they prefer you to go home.
Been to beautiful Scotland, nice people there.
.. Its still a lovely bitter sweet place to be, that's England. I have wondered though, while in that country, as if, they were stuck in their own world, no understanding and much appreciation of other cultures and people. Some theories suggest, that's typical mentality of any "island countries"...

France- its ok, love the crepes-spent only 100 British pounds worth of money on a 3 day trip there. Went to Moulin Rouge, but was broke. Shopped at Gallerie Lafayette, just bought two T-shirts ...lol, brown and yellow. They won't speak English with you, they answer to French.. 2nd trip, brought more money, so more visits, nice place.

Italy-gosh, beautiful people here, love the sphagetti and Venice city. Old buildings.

Greece - another place with beautiful men here. Many scooters with lady riders. Old buildings.

Switzerland, just passing through Laguna Lake, and one city in the southern part. Clean place, but was very sleepy after a coach ride.

The Philippines-went there as a child during the hey day of Pesident Marcos. Enjoyed the trip generally. Manila was a good city but not so nice housekeeping then with regards to the way they displayed their food.Hanging roasted ducks, chickens, porks infront of their foodshops. Not pretty sights. But its hotels were generally good then. The culture was beautiful, they have beautiful dresses on.But I heard they hv good shopping places too nowadays.I don't really fancy going there yet again until they hv settled down with the troubles there.

Indonesia-Jakarta, Bali, Sumatera. Nice place. Good people. Tanah Abang in Jakarta is where the wholesale is going on. Bought nice clutch bags for special occassions. Compared to those sold in high end shops, its still cheaper with the same quality-ofcourse, its a bulk buy, but, I am saying its reliably good buy there. They are proud of their "batik" there. The Indonesians speak like they are in theatre or using poetry, they just speak beautifully. I like Indonesia, and its Jakarta is very fast growing. I don't know how it is now though with the new changes in politics. I am just sorry to read many negative news about how blacks and Nigerians are treated there currently. Just be careful, its not a secret they have been one of the most corrupt countries. Though the government are doing a lot about stamping that down.

Saudi Arabia- Mekah & Medina-holy cities. Respect the rules there. Nice dresses. Women had to watch out, warned of some instances of women snatching by Taxi drivers. And groping by male shopkeepers. But not all are perverts ofcourse.The people who work here comes from many places like Indonesia, Afghanistan and the nearby regions.

Thailand-Bangkok and Chiang Mai. The people are nice and many can be beautiful. Metropolitan city, just like KL and Jakarta. Would love to go there again. The hotels' hospitality are at its best here. Better than KL's, maybe same as in Jakarta.

Nigeria-Lagos & Victoria Island. I want to come back again. The people are nice here, very polite. They say "sorry" when you coughed! I have never felt so looked after. I want to visit other places and meet more people here.

Would love to try go to Australia, Canada, New York, the USA, Hawaii, Fiji Island (when its peaceful), New Zealand, Switzerland again, next. And Lichtenstein, Luxembourg, Germany, Brussels (I'll think about it again), Egypt, Mekah, Madinah, Dubai, Jordan, UAE, Morocco, Spain, the Mediterranean countries.













Hongkong -hard to find halal food

albinos have red eyes, am I wrong? This one's not red.

FLEEING IS BEING IRRESPONSIBLE TO WOMEN.

Posts like this is saddening. God helps your wife if she has knowledge of what's going on. You made a big mistake big time. I hope your wife is a strong woman who will endure pain in her heart and disappointments in you. I pray her pregnancy survives this challenge. Why did you even have to meet up with your ex-gf, so much for a free will and doing what you want to do is it. Don't flee, you are responsible for the welfare of youir wife, family and the new baby in your gf's now. Your ex-gf needs to be looked after too, how does it feel now???

I always 'feel' there will be no place like home, though we can go to have holidays in other countries. But, its a universal sentiment for any states or places in the world, that locals always feel threatened when others become more richer, in their own countries.
I am sorry about what happen to everywhere around the world on blacks. Just keep out of crimes.

why is 50scent disqualified?

Hemm, interesting prizes...is it too late to get voted? LOL...

I hope she gets well very very soon. She need medical care including mental and psychological treatment. She's lucky to escape but some girls involved as victims of flesh trade aren't and have died. Many people are heartless, and they don't know or care that sex is painful if not done 'well'.

[@poster, are you doing a research for your article/ college/ uni papers? ]

I remember being curious about the same thing, and came up with the following possibile scenarios then, its not intended to be offensive, pls read with understanding, and may not only apply to Nigeria alone but also to other big populated nations:

1. the majority of the (very) poor couple, don't have many 'entertainment' options, other than enjoy each other's company (segxwally), this is good then coz it means they focus their time on each other than on others

2. even if they don't have much time to spend on each other, when they do, its just the right time (ovulating time for the women) and PLUS, the couple didn't 'fuss'/ discuss about the outcome like the more richer families do...

3. they don't have much cash to spare to buy family planning aids/ devices (if they ran out of the free ones).

I also adhere to the thought that some poor folks think children are God's gift, so no messing about with it.

in other countries, other ppl from other races n religion took advantage from Islamic bankings to gain some benefits. I understand the sentiments seem to strongly come from distrusts towards former politicians, who may want to squander off many potential investors. I suppose if the leaders in question r Muslims, he'll be jeopardising the Muslims in the country too. If 28 mil of them at least hv bn made to lose their monies for instance, then who ever did not do justice, will answer to God. All this while, the banking system are ripping off ppl. The 1st bank in d world was Lloyds Bank (officially) and the system it uses, is only meant to benefit the owners.
Western countries race towards getting Islamic banking established in their areas because they know ts getting popular (n they need the Muslim money?).
I hope d agency whc takes care of any wrongdoings towards public funds monitors and keep checks on possible misuse and abuse.In developing countries, these agencies are effective and strong.In UK they try to revamp n upgrade it to make it have more calibre.That's what's needed here.Conventional banking rips you off, remember that. How can you loan and repay back more than two times the original amount that you asked for? Forever you become a slave to the system and feed the employees their incomes, bonuses, and organisational (structural) developments. If Islamic banking system also ends up doing that very same things, then something has not been done right.And the leaders of this banking shd revise their adherence twds secular banking.That's what other secular/ conventional banking does. Try read more of what happens globally, there are things to learn from other's successes n mistakes.Some responses here seems very much covered with little understanding about what the issue is all about. Nigeria will survive ethnic division.

This is what I had 'wanted' to say earlier to you....

You won't win anything. If she has no consent, you'll be in BIGGER trouble. The SYAITAN is making you feel proud of damaging her future isn't it? Its tempting to just end this issue with your mariage by dealing with the girl.Talk with relevant parties, even her, and whomever is necessary, to resolve this amicably. That picture can be used for leverage ( ) unfortunately  .

Then again.....

I can feel your frustration. I could have been tempted to do the same likewise.
Maybe you can talk to your pastor? Your inlaws?

AGREE.

AGREE. Most people are not aware of this.

If one knows Islam, it's not a religion which is deceiving humanity. But don't get distracted by the behavior of some 'Muslims' because, some maybe disciplined, some are not. A good Muslim will show you beautiful outlook on life and you will see his life and his family are very well endowed. My daughters went to school in the UK, and did not wear headscarves. Their Muslim peers wore theirs, but their mouth is so easy at swearing fouls. WHo is a better person? Even I try not to say to my daughters they are better, because, between them and the peers who wore scarves, they each has their own plus and minus in their commitments towards the guidance and lifestyle of a good muslim. But one things is very important to keep, 'aqidah'. My point is, there are bad Islam as much as there are bad Christian believers. Both religion teaches good things. And then, some people are bad mannered, some are good, in Islam, Muslims are supposed to be good mannered and kind. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) respected his Jewish neighbour who always threw words of hatred and even dumps garbage at his home front lawn. The Prophet didn't get back at him. Instead, when Muhammad didn't hear his neighbour's tantrums for a few days, he took the time to inquire what happened to him and found out the neighbour had fallen sick. The Prophet did something a good neighbour would have done, and the man was surprised because all he did before this was make a mockery of the Prophet and was rude to him.  Now, you try a modern Muslim, will he do that which The Prophet has done? Maybe not, but its not because Islam didn't let him and tell him to be rude to his neighbour too. But its because some Muslims are not at that standard and level of 'goodness' yet. But in Islam it teaches us to "hablu minannaas" -something about it's expected that humans not only make relationship between him and Allah be good, but also between him and his fellow people-meaning, do not make enemy, and that it is important he keeps a clean and good relation with his fellow humans. So, don't blame Islam, blame the Muslims who fail to be a good one, because he or she are just like you too, full of lackings.

I thought the reason you showed yourself (pic)-if that's you-is coz you want her (if she's here here on naijapals) to know what you think about this whole thing and, somehow also showed to her, if you actually will be giving her the red light, she could understand, coz, that is also the preference and sentiments from a majority od the contributors here.