It is unfortunate t see that you are single. First of all, what was the cause of your separation or divorce? If you cannot iron things out with your previous husband, how do you know that you would be successful with the second one. I am very sure that you don't know what you wand as far as life partner is concerned. You don't want a man that would give you headaches. Sorry, successful marriages come with headaches and and ups and downs. You even made mentioned of old men, widower or divorce e, all this people come with marital headaches. You MUST learn to deal with the ingredients that come with marriage life. I think in my opinion, you are not ready to be a wife for the second time because you don't know what you want.
MY SISTER, I THINK YOU ARE RIGHT. YOU MAKE A BIG POINT! I FEEL YOUR WORDS