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Being attracted to someone can be exciting but you may feel quite anxious, wondering if they feel the same for you. If you ask them out and they refuse you may feel rejected. You may be concerned that if people find out who you"re interested in, they may tease you about it. Some people are so worried about this that they find it difficult to get started.
Does she like me? - Is he interested? - How can I tell?
This is a question that loads of people ask - and there isn"t any simple answer. You could always try asking them out - that"s the only way you"re going to know for sure!
Asking someone out - on a date - getting started
Many people find this the really difficult bit - how do you ask someone out? There"s no simple answer to this one, either, but the main thing to remember is that "if you don"t ask, you"ll never know". What"s the worst that could happen? They say "no." Well, that"s not the end of the world - and anyway, they might say "yes", you won"t know until you ask. Anyway, even if they say "no", they might say "yes" later – now they know you"re interested, they might just need time to think about it.
The practical side of asking someone out doesn"t have a recipe, I"m afraid - it"s different in every situation. However, there are a few useful things to remember:
* Asking someone out is flattering - they should be pleased, even though they might be surprised.
* Try to get the person alone before you ask them out - it"s often harder with other people around.
* Try to get to know the person a bit, first.
* Try to relax!
* Sometimes, you just have to say it - "Will you go out with me?"
* If they say "yes" - brilliant!
* If they say "no" - well, you"ve just got to respect that. Remember, it doesn"t say anything about your value as a person.
* Remember - there"s someone out there for everyone!
Going out - dating - having a relationship
There are lots of different types of relationship, from "friends-with-benefits" to full-on marriage! All relationships are different, but they usually all have one thing in common - when you"re in a relationship with someone it usually means that you both like each other (and fancy each other!) more than anyone else.
“There are lots of different types of relationship, from "friends-with-benefits" to full-on marriage!”
Most relationships are monogamous - which means that for as long as you stay together, you"ll only be physical with each other - you won"t get off with anyone else or have sex with anyone else. The advantage of this is that you"re less likely to catch any segxwally transmitted infections if you stay with just one partner (as long as they don"t have any!).
Some people have lots of relationships. Some people have a few, or one long one. Some people don"t want a close relationship at certain times in their life.
Sex is an important part of many people"s relationships. Not just segxwal intercourse ("going all the way") but kissing and touching each other for pleasure. Just because you"re going out with someone you don"t have to have segxwal intercourse.
Being in a relationship can be really good. It can give you a real high to know that someone wants you and you want them. Many people feel more confident about themselves when they are in a relationship.
For most people being "in a relationship" is an important part of their lives. It can be hard to keep a relationship going. You have to work at it. There may be tensions between partners and pressures from people and circumstances outside. For example, your friends might resent you for not spending so much time with them. You might feel that your reputation depends on who you go out with, how long for and what you do together.
It is easy to become jealous and possessive and wonder if your partner is going to go off with someone else. You might not be able to talk to your partner about it, but it can help to check out your feelings with somebody else you trust.
| Posted: at 3-11-2009 06:53 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie |
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