How Do i Begin To Trust The Man Who Cheated On Me Again?

For about a year now, I’ve been in a long distance relationship with a guy I met through friends. We lived in different states and were fully aware of each other’s intentions early on. We hit it off pretty fast, and before we knew it, we were in a full-blown relationship. We discussed the dynamics of our relationship, because I had never been in a long distance relationship before. We fell in love and wanted to see where love would takes us, so we agreed to be mutually exclusive.

A short while ago, I learned that my guy had relations with a woman who lives closer to him. I was very hurt because I am completely committed to him and our relationship. He told me he cut it off with her because he never intended for things to end up that way and he couldn’t fathom being without me.  He explained that he made a selfish choice and got caught up in it and that he never intended for it to get this far. I have been in a similar situation in the past, so I understood where he was coming from and I’ve decided to forgive him. I know he loves me. I believe people make bad choices and learn from them. I’m not one to believe that once someone is a cheater, they’re always a cheater.

Now, we want to put things back together and rebuild what we once had. I just can’t figure where to start. I love this man and I want to trust him they way I once did before. Where do I start Naijapals?

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Posted: at 9-01-2013 11:13 AM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

 

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Posted: at 9-01-2013 11:38 AM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

u should do thesame na ..body no firewood oooh,,

Posted: at 9-01-2013 12:40 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

If I tell u to cheat on him now...is either u are going to curse me out or not take my advice..so the best thing is..since u have already decided to forgive him ,then carry on with the relationship ...and forget about the past...you are already on his side...so learn to trust him again...distance relationship is very hard to maintain tho..

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Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:02 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

As a romance doctor in naijapals u should help urself out...once a cheat is a cheats!

Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:11 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

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Posted: at 9-01-2013 01:51 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

talk na chico

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Posted: at 9-01-2013 02:17 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

HOW DO I TRUST MY FIANCE DAT phyukED MY SENIOR BRODA??PLS MR POSTER ANSWER ME,SINCE ITS OBVIOUS DAT U DONT HAVE WORK

Posted: at 9-01-2013 02:30 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Lol.....

God... You will not get anything to salvage after you are done, I promise you...LOL

Posted: at 9-01-2013 02:42 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Nothing broken can ever be 100% with is previous state --even when repaired to 110% working state, the time between both will forever be different--
The relationship will never have the truth as it had before. For the truth to be there like before, you certainly need Time truth ain't bought (if not you should have bought some, to regain the truth level you want) but it is Earned. And to be honest with you, you can forgive but you can't forget(it is a scar, like a bullet through your body) the best you can to MOVE ON is to :- not hold grudges against  him, it heals the scar faster

Posted: at 9-01-2013 03:20 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac