Relationships: 5 Things Your Husband Wants You To Know! (Page 4)

I agree, but do not fully agree with 1 and 3(He loves you & wants to be No 1)
Do they (men) love their wives sacrificially  so she gloom's as God planned? Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. Paul begins with the statement, “Husbands, love your wives.” It sounds like such a simple statement, but what does he mean? What does it mean for a hubby to love his wife? does it mean he should just provide for her and go perambulating all beer parlous,hotel rooms, club houses with a teenager?   You talk as if men of this day and age portray the word love as it's said: or do you think that loving your wife meant sacrificing yourself and your desires to make her happy. It’s true that true love involves kindness and sacrifice, but it doesn’t stop there. Christ’s first goal is that He might sanctify her To sanctify means to set apart. When you marry someone you set them apart from the world. They are set apart for special protection, special care, for special attention, for a special purpose. When you get married, that is what you have done. You have taken her out of the world and set her apart because you want to devote special attention to her. What is the goal of this special attention? Christ’s second goal is to present her in glory having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing, Christ’s third goal is that she should be holy and blameless ...Christ loves the church and is committed to removing all the blemishes so He can present her in all her glory and beauty to Himself. This is the purpose of love. To bring about the perfection of the beloved. This is not a new idea. You might recall Ephesians 1:4 which says, “He chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him.” This illustrates how God’s love is directed towards our improvement and making us beautiful. Love is not wanting someone else to be happy. Love demands the perfecting of the beloved; that the mere ‘kindness’ which tolerates anything except suffering in its object is, in that respect, at the opposite pole from Love. So the goal of love is not just kindness motivated by a desire to make your wife happy. The goal is to build her up to bring about God’s purpose in her. How do we know what God’s purpose for her is? 1 Peter 3:7 says “Live with your wives according to knowledge…” In other words know her. Know what she needs. Know what she is good at and what she is not so good at. Know her talents and help her develop them. How do you as a man get to know your wife? By involvement. Do things together, talk about significant things, etc. If Your goal is the perfecting of Your wife, there are going to be times when YOU need to confront HER and deal with a problem. NO BE TO DEY TALK LOVE HERE ANYHOW, IF YOU WANT YOUR WIFE TO BE YOUR NO 1, MAKE HER YOUR NO 1, I LOVE MY WIFE , NO BE FOR MOUTH   NO MAKE ME VEX BRING MY BIG BIBLE COME PREACH FOR U O

Chai babe, I no know say na so you sabi Bible reach. I have to laud you quite considerably for a well-thought out piece of writing. You are implicitly spot-on in everything. We are not in anyway perfect, but we strive towards that. I always have this same conversation with friends (guys) that "Appreciating and cherishing" their wives are integral keys to successful marriages / relationships. Some guys these days beg to differ with my own philosophy of women and marriage. Some are of the school of thought that "ALL" women and men are the same, hence, people should accept their love with a pinch of salt. Well, it is very disheartening owing to the incessant disappointments people go through with regularity. I still believe there are very good and well-mannered men and women out there who will make perfect couples. Love is a very vital tool, but one very momentous tool that keeps a union is "UNDERSTANDING". When you understand your partner's strengths and weaknesses, then it makes everything much easier. My wife or husband likes or doesn't like  this, I don't have to say or do this in order not to offend him or her etc. Decisions aren't unilateral, but with the harmless advice of the wife. Don't get me wrong! The man is still the head of the family and can take and execute decisions on his own, but the reason he seeks his wife's advice is to make her feel she is part of him and not left out completely. Believe me, most times, women get it right. It's high time everyone started living up to what they profess and not hide under the cloak of pretense.

I agree, but do not fully agree with 1 and 3(He loves you & wants to be No 1)
Do they (men) love their wives sacrificially  so she gloom's as God planned? Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. Paul begins with the statement, “Husbands, love your wives.” It sounds like such a simple statement, but what does he mean? What does it mean for a hubby to love his wife? does it mean he should just provide for her and go perambulating all beer parlous,hotel rooms, club houses with a teenager?   You talk as if men of this day and age portray the word love as it's said: or do you think that loving your wife meant sacrificing yourself and your desires to make her happy. It’s true that true love involves kindness and sacrifice, but it doesn’t stop there. Christ’s first goal is that He might sanctify her To sanctify means to set apart. When you marry someone you set them apart from the world. They are set apart for special protection, special care, for special attention, for a special purpose. When you get married, that is what you have done. You have taken her out of the world and set her apart because you want to devote special attention to her. What is the goal of this special attention? Christ’s second goal is to present her in glory having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing, Christ’s third goal is that she should be holy and blameless ...Christ loves the church and is committed to removing all the blemishes so He can present her in all her glory and beauty to Himself. This is the purpose of love. To bring about the perfection of the beloved. This is not a new idea. You might recall Ephesians 1:4 which says, “He chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him.” This illustrates how God’s love is directed towards our improvement and making us beautiful. Love is not wanting someone else to be happy. Love demands the perfecting of the beloved; that the mere ‘kindness’ which tolerates anything except suffering in its object is, in that respect, at the opposite pole from Love. So the goal of love is not just kindness motivated by a desire to make your wife happy. The goal is to build her up to bring about God’s purpose in her. How do we know what God’s purpose for her is? 1 Peter 3:7 says “Live with your wives according to knowledge…” In other words know her. Know what she needs. Know what she is good at and what she is not so good at. Know her talents and help her develop them. How do you as a man get to know your wife? By involvement. Do things together, talk about significant things, etc. If Your goal is the perfecting of Your wife, there are going to be times when YOU need to confront HER and deal with a problem. NO BE TO DEY TALK LOVE HERE ANYHOW, IF YOU WANT YOUR WIFE TO BE YOUR NO 1, MAKE HER YOUR NO 1, I LOVE MY WIFE , NO BE FOR MOUTH   NO MAKE ME VEX BRING MY BIG BIBLE COME PREACH FOR U O

MADAM SOPHIA WEMEN BACKER. DOH