Sexless marriages/relationships.....go figure?

I have an issue on my mind and would like some other perspectives on this, if you all would be so kind to help me out!


Over time I have spoken with many people both men and women who have come out of LONG TERM marriages/relationships and one of the main reasons for the ending of the relationship, was that towards the end or for some a period of years, there was basically NO SEX or it had dwindled down to almost nothing. I am sure we can all agree that this would be a sad state of affairs, and that with no affection/intimacy between a couple it would most definitely affect the rest of the relationship as well, at least it would in my opinion.

So it leads me to these questions......


If you found yourself to be in this type of relationship , would you consider it grounds for leaving?

Secondly if you do not agree that it is a reason to leave, how do you live in a sexless relationship? Do you not feel that some level of intimacy is necessary to keep a couple bonded together???

Posted: at 24-08-2009 07:34 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

seconded

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Posted: at 24-08-2009 09:24 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

Sex is to marriage as what flour is to cake. I believe if u are married there's no need to leave ur marriage becos of sex. even though its one of the main reasons why people cheated or divorce, theres always a way to talk about it and make it work....sex can be a dull at times but the both of u need to come together and find ways to keep the sex spontaneous and interesting.couples who take time to cultivate and maintain healthy and satisfying segxwal relations tend to be more connected with each other.


For every problem, there’s a solution at hand.  Maybe theyre not always the best solutions but it’s not as if we have no options.

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Posted: at 24-08-2009 03:15 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Intimacy is way more than sex. It may culminate in sex and/or may be expressed or furnished by sex but it's a lot more than sex. A sexless marriage is a sign intimacy is lacking which may or may not be because the couple have issues. One or both of them just myt be too busy or distracted to even notice they've not been having sex.

In any case marriage is not for sex but sex is for marriage. If U want to opt out of marriage just becos Ur spouse is denying U it then Ur being immature.

Posted: at 24-08-2009 03:34 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

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Posted: at 24-08-2009 04:25 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

hmmm onche

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Posted: at 24-08-2009 05:14 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

it cant b denied dat sex is part of marriage...
nd yes it could affect d marriage....nd yes something can b worked out..
as long as d affection btwn d couples is still glowing...d sex life can b rekindled again...

Posted: at 24-08-2009 05:22 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

 

Posted: at 24-08-2009 06:37 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

 

Posted: at 24-08-2009 07:07 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

Posted: at 24-08-2009 11:07 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac