At last, the estranged wife of Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, the founder of Chris Embassy has spoken on why she ended her marriage.
Rev Anita Oyakhilome in a new statement said that she had been denied her right as a wife and her hubby has distanced himself from her and that she has no option than to call it quit.
There had been media reports that Anita decided to divorce Pastor Chris based on allegations of ‘adultery’ and ‘unreasonable behaviours’ but a copy of the court papers for the divorce process filed at the Principal Registry of the Family Division (PRFD) of the High Court of Justice in possession of THISDAY, revealed that she applied for “divorce on the ground that the marriage has broken down irretrievably.”
In her statement of case in support of petition at PRFD with number FD14001650, Pastor Anita however, accused her husband of having inappropriate relationship with some of his female staff members which many can liken to adultery.
According to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his iappropriate relationship with some of his female staff members. She has explained that this has given her cause for concern. The husband has minimised her worries and taken no step to alleviate her grievances.”
The statement reads in part: “The wife submits that her marriage to the husband has irretrievably broken down and there is no hope of reconciliation. The wife will submit that it is the husband’s unreasonable behaviours which have led to this.
“The husband and the wife are both Pastors. The husband undertakes his work, in the main, in South Africa and Nigeria. The wife lives in the United Kingdom. The wife will say that they have lived separately for 16 years and over this time have drifted apart. The wife has come to realise that the husband will only visit the UK for annual church programmes that he holds rather than to be with this wife. The wife feels that he has been unavailable as a father to their children during their developing years.
“The wife feels that their marriage suffered under the pressure of their work. They would rarely spend time together due to the husband inavailability. Special occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays and family occasions and anniversaries past them by and their rarely spent any time together as a family as the husband was more devoted to his work than he was to them.
“The wife feels that she has been used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man when the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them. She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for his convenience. On occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know basis.
“The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”
“As a result of the husband’s attitude to their marriage, the wife will say that he is virtually not recognised as a married man in the ministry. His teachings and beliefs on marriage is that the husband is a master and a controller and the wife will say that his concept of biblical; submission is so extreme that it is impossible for her to meet his expectations. She feels humiliated by the way he treats her in the presence of his close female staff members and she feels that she has been taken for granted which has become unbearably stressful for her.
“The wife will say that the relationship with the husband is non-existent to the point that his itinerary which was announced publicly at the beginning of the year had no provision for time with his family. His staff members who travel with him organise both his personal and professional life without any input from her. The wife will say that she is treated with disregard almost like akin to an intruder.
“The wife feels that she has been mentally, physically and emotionally deprived of the experience of a marital relationship. She feels that the husband has persistently judged her and his communication with her has been unduly harsh. The wife knows that he was hard to please and has been extremely critical.
Hmmmm, Rev Anita must have passed through a lot… 16 years of separation is a bit too long. No wonder she suddenly snapped.
Please remember Pastor Chris & Anita in your prayers.
I pray to almighty God to heal this marrage. Why must the wife leave the husband and stay in the uk? as a pastor or the founder of the church, both surpose to be together. I was shock when i had the husband is in Nigeria and she is in London. how do you encourage marrage in the church. i thought both of the were in Nigeria or USA .
Posted: at 7-09-2014 11:32 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie
Instead of divorce why did she not move from UK to Nigeria if really she wanted to save her marrage. for 16 years that too much i wont say she tried she don't surpose to be in the UK why the man is in Nigeria if she was to be in Nigeria if the travel to any where he will come back home or go with him. like other pastor. i shock when i had they have been like that for over 10 years. why not take the children and go to nigeria.
Posted: at 7-09-2014 11:57 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie
I pray to almighty God to heal this marrage. Why must the wife leave the husband and stay in the uk? as a pastor or the founder of the church, both surpose to be together. I was shock when i had the husband is in Nigeria and she is in London. how do you encourage marrage in the church. i thought both of them were in Nigeria or USA .
Posted: at 7-09-2014 11:59 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie
zentolmacoy at 7-09-2014 12:25 PM (9 years ago) (m)
This unholy behaviour by pastor christ, by seperating himself from his wife is bcoming unbearable, as he is doing to himself, so he is ordering his church pastors to distance themself from their patners, this is unGodly behaviour engulfing d church. Now i remember somtimes ago, wen a married pastor of same church was complaing dat his wife was transfered to another church to go and pastor, dat since then his wife has been behaving somehow, that d wife dnt alow his husband to tourch her anymore. CHURCHES, were are we headind to? Must u pastors infring ur unbiblical rules on ur members? Pple be wise, dnt be deceived, dnt call them papa or their wife mumy, they are ur members all of u are thesame, they are nt better than u. They called themselves men of God, are u men of devil? As for me i am a man of God.
Posted: at 7-09-2014 12:25 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie
factfinding at 7-09-2014 12:39 PM (9 years ago) (m)
I thought Family should come first before any other thing? a man who could not take care of his family, how can he able to take care of a whole Church, does God support such a thing?
Posted: at 7-09-2014 12:39 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I FELT SO BAD HEARING OF ALL THESE MESS FROM THE CALLED MEN OF GOD, SOME TIMES I WONDER THE TYPE OF THINGS HAPPENING IN THE HOUSE OF GOD WITH THE SO CALLED BELIEVERS, WHAT DO THEY WANT US THE SO CALLED UNBELIEVERS TO DO SOMETIMES WE EVEN FEAR AND RESPECT GOD BETTER THAN THEM, WELL GOD WILL SEE US THROUGH WITH ALL THESE CHURCHES ALL OVER THE PLACES CLAIMING BORN THREE TIMES. AS FOR ME SHA, THEY CAN NO LONGER MUMU ME ANY MORE.
Posted: at 7-09-2014 01:34 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie
daveobahon at 7-09-2014 01:38 PM (9 years ago) (m)
I thought Family should come first before any other thing? a man who could not take care of his family, how can he able to take care of a whole Church, does God support such a thing? I TIMOTHY 5;8 SAYS IT ALL GOD DOES NOT SUPPOR SUCH THING,U MST TAKE CARE OF UR FAMILY FIRST B4 CHURCH
Posted: at 7-09-2014 01:38 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Realpastor at 7-09-2014 01:59 PM (9 years ago) (m)
whatever but i know that Jesus Teaches us against divorce except for the cause of fornication.... Does it mean that Anita stayed 16 yrs without meeting a man?. please people answer me... These pastors are not following the bible
Posted: at 7-09-2014 01:59 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie
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