Can you marry a non challant guy?

Pals, please help me out, I am dating a guy for good 8years now, he only care about me when we are together, if he is back to where he is staying he will never call me unless I call him the worst thing is that I have gotten used to his family, he is mother do visit me every weekend but now he is asking my hand in marriage, please what do I do

Posted: at 6-11-2009 10:34 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie

i cant really understand the topic.....is it dat his mother has asked u to marry her son or the guy came and asked you for marriage? pls i need u to be more clear....

Posted: at 6-11-2009 10:51 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

8 solid years without future is absolutely joke, be serious gurl friend!

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Posted: at 6-11-2009 11:03 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

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Posted: at 6-11-2009 11:11 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero

well, longterm relationship is often like that but you have to really know what you want in a relationship and marriage.
all this while you were the one calling him, yet you didi not complain to him, how do you expect him to change in marriage?
i bet you he would still continue like that in marriage, what you couldnt change incourtship, how do you intend to change it in marraige without strain?

i think you should sit him down one on one,so you will both know and agree and so that there wont be springing of surprise in ur marriage.

gudd luck in your marraige and future

Posted: at 6-11-2009 11:21 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie

u dey take style find wife humble

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Posted: at 6-11-2009 11:48 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero

nice one................ she just have 2 knw

Posted: at 6-11-2009 11:58 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I really don't c dis as a problem, he cares abt u wen u're 2geda n doesn't call wen u're apart n suddenly he askd ur hands in marraige, he doesn't call u does not mean he doesn't care, he might not b use 2 calln, me as a person, i find it difficult to call, d only time i rememba 2 call is if u flash me which evryone ard me already know or wen i just suddenly rememba dat i need to call somone, he might just be dat kind of person, my dear don't trouble ur heart, but if u still feel heavy abt it, sit him down n pour ur heart out, it might help. Good luck.

Posted: at 6-11-2009 12:49 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

Dats splendid if he asked 4 ur hand in marriage,u dnt need all dis ,just talk 2 him in d way he will understand u........& i think he will reason wt u.

Posted: at 6-11-2009 01:26 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

U need to call his attention to let him know what has been bodering u. Its not an excuse for u not to accept his proposal. And another thing, do not be carried away just because his mom visits u every you every weekend. Ok? Take care!

Posted: at 6-11-2009 03:34 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac