My frnd got married just 2 months ago, ever since then she has never enjoyed d marriage. Y? I asked her. She answered: "I don't love d man (husband) and i was pressurized by my parents to marry him. My hope was to build my love for him, but its not working. Can u belive dat ever since we got married we have never kissed. Am tired. I have no option than 2 disappear." I felt for her. My questions now are; Why shld our parents be making relationship/marital decisions for us? Is it right for them?
Posted: at 12-01-2010 07:22 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sweetnoxy at 12-01-2010 09:41 PM (14 years ago) (f)
i hope the parents can see her sufferings.....now what have they gained? i dont know when parents would learn to allow their children to make their own choices. they made their own choices during their own time, now they want to live the children's lives for them. Some of them do it in the name of preventing the child from making the same mistake they made. wat the heck? it pisses me a lot. i understand that some ladies need to be reminded to get married on time (otherwise they wont), but not to force a man on a woman ( or vice versa). after collecting the bride price, they'll relax in their own house enjoying themselves while the child is left to suffer wit someone (s)he doesn't love. its not fair. pls parents remind us to get married on time but dont push us into fire o!!!!
Posted: at 12-01-2010 09:41 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
my parents cant do a thing like that. i really dont knw wat to say. but she should hve stood up for herself. As long as u r of age to get married, u shouldnt b bothered about wat ur parents said. If i were her, i would hve invited my parents to come observe the marriage environment.
Posted: at 12-01-2010 09:51 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
brightossy at 12-01-2010 10:21 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: sweetnoxy on 12-01-2010 09:41 PM
i hope the parents can see her sufferings.....now what have they gained? i dont know when parents would learn to allow their children to make their own choices. they made their own choices during their own time, now they want to live the children's lives for them. Some of them do it in the name of preventing the child from making the same mistake they made. wat the heck? it pisses me a lot. i understand that some ladies need to be reminded to get married on time (otherwise they wont), but not to force a man on a woman ( or vice versa). after collecting the bride price, they'll relax in their own house enjoying themselves while the child is left to suffer wit someone (s)he doesn't love. its not fair. pls parents remind us to get married on time but dont push us into fire o!!!!
U really undastand d situation. Forced marriage favoured their own time not ours. I lost my first love rcently bcos of this nonsense.
Posted: at 12-01-2010 10:21 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
brightossy at 12-01-2010 10:36 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Beauti4 on 12-01-2010 09:51 PM
my parents cant do a thing like that. i really dont knw wat to say. but she should hve stood up for herself. As long as u r of age to get married, u shouldnt b bothered about wat ur parents said. If i were her, i would hve invited my parents to come observe the marriage environment.
D lady shld not be blamed. If am not mistaking, this shld be d 4th man that came 4 her hand in marriage under ha parents supervision. They grand ha severaly 4 her refusal. She has taken d matter 2 d the parents threatening to comit suicide if d marriage is not dissolved.
Posted: at 12-01-2010 10:36 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
dirtykid at 12-01-2010 10:53 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: brightossy on 12-01-2010 07:22 PM
My frnd got married just 2 months ago, ever since then she has never enjoyed d marriage. Y? I asked her. She answered: "I don't love d man (husband) and i was pressurized by my parents to marry him. My hope was to build my love for him, but its not working. Can u belive dat ever since we got married we have never kissed. Am tired. I have no option than 2 disappear." I felt for her. My questions now are; Why shld our parents be making relationship/marital decisions for us? Is it right for them?
is ur GF still a child of of 3yrs, that her parents is still teaching her how to hold spoon and eat.
How can she allow herself in this generation for parents to decide for her abt her future.. she think Marriage is child's play, something she will go in and come out anytime she want. abeg make she take speed go back to the man house b4 i will come show the man where she dey hide
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 12-01-2010 10:53 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
sweetnoxy at 12-01-2010 11:04 PM (14 years ago) (f)
left to me, she shld just continue making serious threats so dat the marriage wld be ended or she should end it herself. she shld not take her life cos it may land her in hell. likewise she should not stay wit the man since that one is already hell on earth. she shd just find a way & leave. she cld still remarry
Posted: at 12-01-2010 11:04 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
dirtykid at 12-01-2010 11:32 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: sweetnoxy on 12-01-2010 11:04 PM
left to me, she shld just continue making serious threats so dat the marriage wld be ended or she should end it herself. she shld not take her life cos it may land her in hell. likewise she should not stay wit the man since that one is already hell on earth. she shd just find a way & leave. she cld still remarry
why did she go in it at the first time.. na lie ooo, she must enjoy that marriage she accepted. na she really want am. she wan please her parents, make she do am reach the end ooo. she has already taken vow in the church for that.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 12-01-2010 11:32 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
brightossy at 13-01-2010 09:01 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: dirtykid on 12-01-2010 11:32 PM
Quote from: sweetnoxy on 12-01-2010 11:04 PM
left to me, she shld just continue making serious threats so dat the marriage wld be ended or she should end it herself. she shld not take her life cos it may land her in hell. likewise she should not stay wit the man since that one is already hell on earth. she shd just find a way & leave. she cld still remarry
why did she go in it at the first time.. na lie ooo, she must enjoy that marriage she accepted. na she really want am. she wan please her parents, make she do am reach the end ooo. she has already taken vow in the church for that.
na xactly wetin i tel her. She go suffer well well if she run. Na this kind thing dey push sm girls into halotry.
Posted: at 13-01-2010 09:01 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
i hope the parents can see her sufferings.....now what have they gained? i dont know when parents would learn to allow their children to make their own choices. they made their own choices during their own time, now they want to live the children's lives for them. Some of them do it in the name of preventing the child from making the same mistake they made. wat the heck? it pisses me a lot. i understand that some ladies need to be reminded to get married on time (otherwise they wont), but not to force a man on a woman ( or vice versa). after collecting the bride price, they'll relax in their own house enjoying themselves while the child is left to suffer wit someone (s)he doesn't love. its not fair. pls parents remind us to get married on time but dont push us into fire o!!!!
U really undastand d situation. Forced marriage favoured their own time not ours. I lost my first love rcently bcos of this nonsense.
But why do u women succumb 2 being forced in2 marriage knowing u'll regret it and come latter 2 complain. Its simply enough tell them no and refuse...
Confucius says: Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.
Posted: at 16-08-2011 04:54 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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