That women are mysterious and unknowable is something every young man grows up believing. Men, on the other hand, never think of themselves as mysterious or confusing, and we are often at a loss as to why women want to figure us out. But since you asked:
When you say we don't really talk to you or reveal ourselves to you, we wish you knew just how much we have had to suppress about our desires, pains, fears, and vulnerability over the years to conform to the script of masculinity that we are given. Sometimes we don't open up because we are afraid of what we will find. We are also afraid that if you see who we really are, in all our flawed humanity (and not the flaws that annoy you, like being untidy or driving fast), you won't like us. That women are mysterious and unknowable is something every young man grows up believing. Men, on the other hand, never think of themselves as mysterious or confusing, and we are often at a loss as to why women want to figure us out. But since you asked:
When you say we don't really talk to you or reveal ourselves to you, we wish you knew just how much we have had to suppress about our desires, pains, fears, and vulnerability over the years to conform to the script of masculinity that we are given. Sometimes we don't open up because we are afraid of what we will find. We are also afraid that if you see who we really are, in all our flawed humanity (and not the flaws that annoy you, like being untidy or driving fast), you won't like us.
Men do communicate, often very directly, but women sometimes cannot accept how simple what we have to say is. We seldom play games—we aren't that sophisticated. If we don't call you for a couple of days after a date, it is because either we are afraid you will think we are stalkers (and we will call on day three) or we aren't into you. That's all there is. We are as nervous as you are about sex; I don't care what you've heard. Your anatomy is a mystery that nobody bothers explaining to us. Even when we think we have mastered one woman's body, every body is different. We feel inadequate if we can't satisfy you in bed, and since no one has told us what to do with feelings of inadequacy, we project them onto you. Sad but true.
We are very insecure about how we look and what you really think about us, and we are excited when you do small, nice things for us like make coffee or come with us to the barber or just buy us a good book. We've been trained never to show this side to you, but it is there.
We are not subtle creatures. You might think that when you play with your hair in our presence, we know that means you like us. We don't know for sure. Men who do are bad men (sorry, guys!). And anything you've been told about playing hard to get is wrong. We crave cuddling and hand-holding, maybe even more than you do.
We are desperate to please you because we know you are far sexier and more beautiful than you will ever admit to yourself, and we're confused (but extremely happy) as to why you like us.
Here's the thing: You rescue us every day in small, quiet ways, so why not in this way? Let us into your mystery, tell us how you would like to be loved, show us how to see you, really see you.
Is that TRUE GUYS??
Posted: at 8-03-2010 01:44 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
darkocean002 at 8-03-2010 01:59 AM (15 years ago) (m)
I think both genders are mysterious. i've had to Sit and think deep on hw to please a woman or probably keep one without going thru dramas. as much as we dont always want to see the perfect side of each other, the better it gets.. On several occasions i've had experience of a woman trying to be herself but later its been used against her. Basically, if you want to keep your man, just let him av d idea he's ur one and only if tho u jumping beds..
Posted: at 8-03-2010 01:59 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
According to what I read, men what us to read between the line but at the same times, they should also tell us what they want us to know about them. Instead, they are doing it expecting women to read their mind.
Well, like I have always told my friends and other people. Men actions speak clearer than his words. Never you pay too much attention to what your guys said. When a real man said something to you, he'll prove it through his actions. And if he is late he'll make it up to you no matter what.
The only thing men are not telling us that some of them do take advantage of our silliness. If you are the silly ones, he will come in, use you, and dumped you for someone better. Ladies should learn how to understand their men.
For example: if you guys were talking on the phone and he said :I will call you back when I'm done" all of sudden, the conversation still continues, and then finally he said: "have a blessed and wonderful day" HELLO....can u read this, he is simply telling you that he is not goin to call you back again. He may call you the next day. But girls will be dreaming all day long...waitin for his calls. He just said have a blessed day. So we really need to understand them.
And one last thing, men come to you because of the way your place your value. Some to compare your market to another. Some come because they value is worth more than $ 1m even if you are like Cinderella. So if your man is not telling you how what he want from y'all r/ship, then something is wrong somewhere. He just want to buy you cheap, use u and dump you.
Posted: at 17-11-2011 11:18 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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