Should I go ahead and get married now or wait?

Hmmm. A marriage decision needs more than good chemistry to stand on. If it was all good chemistry I'd have been married more times than I can count.

I get scared when a girl/woman uses loving a guy as her reason to want to marry him for some reasons I will keep to myself for now.

You want to get married but U don't want to move. Arent U in school and wont moving mean U'l be going to Ur home with him after sessions end? Most girls I know who want to get married usually find that as a huge motivation... Moving to the guys house and making it a home.

What if Ur just scared of loosing him? Did U know that perfect love casts out fear? So U say it's not perfect but I'm saying the fear element myt be a warning sign that this isn't the love U myt want to make the big decision on yet? It could grow into that but it myt not be it yet.

U both lov each other U say? Then U have no problem as long as U both know that U love each other. Marriage is something U should spend the rest of Ur life in. Why rush in and only to find out that U did so too early. He is devoted to U and U are to him. If I know guys like I think I do, if he's certain he has found "the one," he wont be going no where else to look. Now it's left for U to keeping giving off good vibe an moulding Ur self and him into people U both can love and be sure of being in the right relatonship with. If Ur adding more value to Ur life consistently and he's finding more treasures in U, U have him buy the balls. No where wey him go go.

Why don't U consult with Ur dad. I said dad cos ur mum myt be excited about seeing grand kids and give U only good reasons why U should get married, especially if she likes (approves) of the guy as worthy of her daugther, not necessarily if he's actually so or not. Ur dad should be able to help U apply more logic to Ur decision and that would hlep Ur emotions be sensible.

I'm still wondering why U would love a guy and not want to move in with him, especially since U want to be married to him. U have to be the first girl I've ssen that would say that. U could live on a tree and all a girl wants to do is move 'on' with U when she loves U as much. I've experienced that several times. Well they want to marry U,  move in with U, thenmake U get a better place. No qualms sha!

Anyway, pray bout it too. I'm sure U'l find answers. Just don't be afraid of loosing something so bad U get Urself stuck with something U regret for the rest of Ur life. ok?

Posted: at 14-05-2010 06:17 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

A lot of tyns hs 2 be evaluated b4 1 cn say he/she is ready 4 marriage, dnt be confused & dnt allow ppl 2 influence ur decision cos u jst mit get married only 2 discover dt u jst pleased dem alone.

Posted: at 14-05-2010 06:58 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

@Tuks, that was nice and short.
There's no point rushing things up, both parties re still young.

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Posted: at 14-05-2010 07:55 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

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Posted: at 27-11-2012 04:49 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero