i started a relationship with a lady about a year and half ago. i love her so much to d extent that i told her everything about me. she was a virgin when i met her( at 23) and our first luv affair resulted to pregnancy because of her refusal to use Condom. she aborted it and we concluded that no more sex till we get married. a week later she called me and told me she cannot do without sex again that even if it is once in 2month. i agree with her and told her to watch her safe period to avoid unwanted pregnancy. the last time i met her was 4th day after her menstration. to my suprise,i got an information that she got pregnant again and aborted it and she also said the same thing when i asked her. i'm confused in the sense that i don't know if i'm responsible for it, we have not seen each other for the past 3month. i love her so much and i have do everything to make her happy in life but i don't want pregnancy before marriage. she has not told me the no of month the pregnancy she aborted was. i cannot even say anything about the pregnancy. should i continue with this type of relationship?
Posted: at 22-08-2010 02:29 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
Shey U don't know that the first mark of a man ready to date is his wisdom to know that he is responsible for any major decisions the both of them take? If she says she want's sex it's Ur responsibility to agree or disagree. No be everthing girl want U suppose give her. Dey there make oversized pant dey wear U. One day she will come with pregnancy U are not responsible for and U will still go ahead and take responsibility.
Posted: at 22-08-2010 02:35 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
listen dump the girl she had already aborted two out of how many in her womb? i wonder how many she will give you after marriage.
the first abortion which is clear to us you were the one responsible for it because you both did used condom. but the second one before you both did it,you both made an agreement to use condom..which yu used [maybe or maybe not]. i wonder how you get her pregnant....expects the condom broke ,if not ,tell her to start confessing.
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 22-08-2010 04:44 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
if you are responsible for pregnancy, even if you do, she doesn't respect you because no matter what she must tell you before she went ahead to abort the baby.......... so DITCH HER NICELY
don't over step your boundaries.. thank you!
Posted: at 22-08-2010 09:55 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
misshelly at 22-08-2010 10:12 PM (13 years ago) (f)
dude, i can't say, look for another alternative or not, but my advice is simple from what i am about to say" no gurl, lady, or woman will love u and still want to abort your baby,
I know u might say, u don't want to have babies before marriage, but if she really love u like u love her, she will convince you on the right part to take on your relationship..........if a woman really love you, she will tell you " I WOULD LOVE FOR YOU TO BE THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN" and she will lead you, women have the capacity to doing thing to get what they want, but these kind of women are the women of virtue...........
And if u both don't like using condoms, u both can try other means, or better still, keep yourself for your honeymoon
Posted: at 22-08-2010 10:12 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
delirium at 22-08-2010 10:32 PM (13 years ago) (f)
HI I don't think it's urs coz u said that the last time u saw her was the 4th day after her period. Now it's better for u to be carefull with all that ! U need to talk sewiously about ur relation !!!
Posted: at 22-08-2010 10:32 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie