PARENTS/FAMILY INTERFERING IN RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE ARGUEMENTS???

Date: 07-09-2010 11:32 am (13 years ago) | Author: omorewa
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- at 7-09-2010 11:32 AM (13 years ago)
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DO THEY HELP THE COUPLES TO RESOLVE THE FIGHT OR DO THEY MAKE MATTER WORSE?


BECAUSE SOME FAMILIES ALWAYS BACK UP THEIR CHILD WHICH I THINK IS NOT FAIR SOMETIMES..


Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:32 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
- bittersweet at 7-09-2010 11:38 AM (13 years ago)
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Well,well,well,from what I've been seeing, in most cases they are backing up their child,even if they know
that their offspring is the guilty one!
But,still,there are ppl who can remain objective!

Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:38 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- omorewa at 7-09-2010 11:47 AM (13 years ago)
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especially men's family.. they always support their son even if he inpregnants another woman outside his relationship or marriage Huh?

Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:47 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bittersweet at 7-09-2010 11:55 AM (13 years ago)
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Unfortunately it happens, but, thanks God,I've seen some really cool mothers-in-law,who when their boy
screws it up,that guy sees the trouble big time! Smiley

Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:55 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- divineproject at 7-09-2010 11:59 AM (13 years ago)
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I think that couples should endeavour to resolve issues between themselves, becos most 3rd parties would have an interest.  Yea, it is either he or she is family or a friend and most certainly be inclined to one of the parties involved.  If you must involved a 3rd party, let it be your Pastor or Imam or maybe a marriage counselor................

Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:59 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- omorewa at 7-09-2010 12:15 PM (13 years ago)
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your right DP....

Posted: at 7-09-2010 12:15 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- onchedu at 7-09-2010 01:20 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: omorewa on  7-09-2010 11:32 AM
DO THEY HELP THE COUPLES TO RESOLVE THE FIGHT OR DO THEY MAKE MATTER WORSE?


BECAUSE SOME FAMILIES ALWAYS BACK UP THEIR CHILD WHICH I THINK IS NOT FAIR SOMETIMES..

Best they are left out of conflicts and/or conflict resolutions. It's hard to see wrong in Ur own for too long.
Posted: at 7-09-2010 01:20 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Treasure2 at 7-09-2010 05:18 PM (13 years ago)
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Personal i don't like this interference from both families.  Couples should deal with their problems and let the families be.
Posted: at 7-09-2010 05:18 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Tundea1 at 7-09-2010 06:08 PM (13 years ago)
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I think it's due to our societal norms
Posted: at 7-09-2010 06:08 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- tyabo at 7-09-2010 06:18 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: omorewa on  7-09-2010 11:47 AM
especially men's family.. they always support their son even if he inpregnants another woman outside his relationship or marriage Huh?
i know ur gonna utter d kinda statement..everytin is olwayz on d man's head...na wa ooo..make una dey giv us break na..
Posted: at 7-09-2010 06:18 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ceejay58 at 7-09-2010 11:48 PM (13 years ago)
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guess it depends of the families and what their interest in the marriage are.
Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:48 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- onyin at 7-09-2010 11:55 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ceejay58 on  7-09-2010 11:48 PM
guess it depends of the families and what their interest in the marriage are.
You are right.
Posted: at 7-09-2010 11:55 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- oyindabty at 8-09-2010 05:08 PM (13 years ago)
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i don't really think is wise sha i think some time family/parent should let them settle their issues themselves
Posted: at 8-09-2010 05:08 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dirtykid at 8-09-2010 05:13 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: omorewa on  7-09-2010 11:32 AM
DO THEY HELP THE COUPLES TO RESOLVE THE FIGHT OR DO THEY MAKE MATTER WORSE?


BECAUSE SOME FAMILIES ALWAYS BACK UP THEIR CHILD WHICH I THINK IS NOT FAIR SOMETIMES..

sometimes, some parents ignite the problem flames and make it high in the name of protecting their own, they forget so quick that, the person they're trying to protect is no more that kid they knew couple of years back, that he/she is grown now and need to make his/her own family as well.

I think parents should play fair in hearing or coming into their child's relationships, no matter what it is.

Posted: at 8-09-2010 05:13 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Michro at 9-09-2010 01:00 AM (13 years ago)
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Misunderstanding in marital homes does't require third party for settlement else that marriage will crumble alongside

Posted: at 9-09-2010 01:00 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- omorewa at 9-09-2010 11:51 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: tyabo on  7-09-2010 06:18 PM
Quote from: omorewa on  7-09-2010 11:47 AM
especially men's family.. they always support their son even if he inpregnants another woman outside his relationship or marriage Huh?
i know ur gonna utter d kinda statement..everytin is olwayz on d man's head...na wa ooo..make una dey giv us break na..


no bi men dey cause all these problems... nonsense Roll Eyes
IF WE WOMEN SPEAK OUR MIND IT WILL BECOME NAGGING IN MENS EAR...HISSSSSSSSSS

Posted: at 9-09-2010 11:51 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- moneyinbrakemi at 9-09-2010 11:54 AM (13 years ago)
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In The first place:I thought the married couples were matured enough
to settle their differences rather than washing their dirty linens outside.
PARENTS are not suppose to interfere in relationship cos it sometimes worsens
the situation of things....

I Case My Rest!
Posted: at 9-09-2010 11:54 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Michro at 9-09-2010 11:58 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: omorewa on  9-09-2010 11:51 AM
Quote from: tyabo on  7-09-2010 06:18 PM
Quote from: omorewa on  7-09-2010 11:47 AM
especially men's family.. they always support their son even if he inpregnants another woman outside his relationship or marriage Huh?
i know ur gonna utter d kinda statement..everytin is olwayz on d man's head...na wa ooo..make una dey giv us break na..


no bi men dey cause all these problems... nonsense Roll Eyes
IF WE WOMEN SPEAK OUR MIND IT WILL BECOME NAGGING IN MENS EAR...HISSSSSSSSSS
Shut up!
If una wan talk una mind, una no go talk am in a matured form.

Posted: at 9-09-2010 11:58 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- omorewa at 9-09-2010 12:02 PM (13 years ago)
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yeeepaaa!! make me i shut my mouth??? anyway how mature we fit talk am now lecturer Grin

Posted: at 9-09-2010 12:02 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- laydeelaracraft at 9-09-2010 12:15 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on  7-09-2010 11:59 AM
I think that couples should endeavour to resolve issues between themselves, becos most 3rd parties would have an interest.  Yea, it is either he or she is family or a friend and most certainly be inclined to one of the parties involved.  If you must involved a 3rd party, let it be your Pastor or Imam or maybe a marriage counselor................

 I agree with u DP. cuz even @ the end of the day when the couples forgives themselves, the 3rd party will remember and will continue to act accordingly. A 3rd party with no links to either couples can b more objective.

As far as I can remember, none of my parents family ever got involved in their problems cuz my dad stated that as a rule from the beginning, I plan on having the same agreement with my future hubby
Posted: at 9-09-2010 12:15 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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