UNFORGIVABLE OFFENCES ??? (Page 5)

Well. I think in my book/mind there is really no such thing as an offense. I think there are inappropriate actions and appropriate actions towards me.

There is something called the emotional bank account. Everybody has got an emotional bank account with every other person on the planet.. Before you start communicating with individuals, your emotional bank account with them is at zero. You words and actions make deposits or withdrawals into the emotional bank account you have with the people around you.

Now when you use harsh words you are taking from the emotional bank account. When your actions are inconsiderate you are withdrawing from the emotional bank account.

Imagine throwing insults at a friend. Denying a friend attention when he seeks it. Lieing to a friend. Stealing from a friend. What it means is, you have depleted the emotional account to less than zero. It means that there is nothing in the emotional account. Do not expect them to give you something from the emotional bank account you have with them. You have withdrawn all the goodies in that account.

Did I say the emotional account is at zero initially? Well, for people who have had hard-times yes. For children and adults who are innocent- Solomon calls them simple - the emotional account you have with them is above zero. That means before they even know you, they already have some love for you. Children and innocent adults are like that. I guess that is why 419 is successful.

A lot of people make it a habit to withdraw all the goodies from the emotional bank accounts they have with people around them. They disrespect strangers, lie to their friends, and disrespect family. At the end of the day, all the emotional bank accounts they have with people goes  lower than zero.
That is when you guys start talking about forgiveness and all that.

There are no quick fixes. Quick fixes do not last. Quick fixes are not fixes but disguises of the problem.

Posted: at 12-10-2010 10:47 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Seven Habits of highly effective people[Stephen Covey].
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Think all you need to live life is in the Bible and the Koran? Maybe. However, God has given some humans the purpose of teaching us how relationship and happiness works. One of such humans is Stephen Covey. He has this lovely book called the "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People". What I wrote above is my understanding of a part of that book.

Makes Sense, Right? You right.

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So like when you have a problem with your dad, you may have to like keep depositing into the emotional bank account you have with him till you are have enough goodies. Your love will not give you goodies if you havn't put goodies in your account with him.
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For cold people like me the emotional bank account sure makes sense. The emotional bank account explains Jesus's "do unto orders as you want orders to do unto you." It explains, "Love your neighbor as yourself". It basically says, if you want encouragement, you should encourage. It says if you want love you should love.

It is like this.
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Some of you guys where in college or university of secondary school or high school.[[[[[Whateva, the world can't even agree on the-same system of education or
 classification. eMcheeew]]]]]]

Like I was saying, you all know that guy in school who was friends with everybody right? You all remember how he asked after every other person and never walked passed another without saying hello right? You all remember that when he had a party?
Everyone was there. And that is cause, he cared for everyone. So every one cared for him. He was never lonely cause he was always friendly.

That guy had a good emotional bank account with each of everyone.

you get what you give. You necessarily don't give what you get. Though you give what you get but you shouldn't believe that cause that limits your thinking.[[okay a little craziness there. Ha ha ahhahaah]]

Posted: at 12-10-2010 11:02 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

hmmn!

Posted: at 12-10-2010 11:06 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

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Posted: at 12-10-2010 11:10 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

If a man sleep with my wife knowing very well that my wife is married, Then leave the man for me he must surely DIE...........Unless i dont have the opportunity killig him. You can forgive him if he didnt know that your wife have a husbandOK? And if some one kill a member of my family or relatives then it left for me to ask and know what offence did my relative or family member commit agaist their killer b4 any action OK?

Posted: at 12-10-2010 11:24 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Unforgivable offences?.Hmmmmmm I dont know of any for now.

Posted: at 12-10-2010 02:13 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

lost 

Posted: at 12-10-2010 02:35 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Rape my wife, Sister or any female around me.

Posted: at 12-10-2010 02:45 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

hmmm nothing to be honest.. coz God manages to 4give our sins.. nd we all do soo many things that wud hurt God if he was human.. soo y shud it b soo hard to forive sum1 wen jesus died on the cross for us and wen it clearly states in the bible that we should love our enemies too.. well its either u forgive and free urself from havin a hard heart.. oor u hold grudge agaisnt sum1 nd b the one hurting ..

Posted: at 12-10-2010 04:41 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Ok ,I forgive you.

Posted: at 12-10-2010 04:55 PM (13 years ago) | Hero