Can u marry a guy dat already has a child? (Page 7)

People say that children are a product of the love between two people.  Though it may not always be true, I feel it stands in most cases.  For me, I am not comfortable with the fact that so many girls have had a child for a man that will not remain in the picture.  I don't like the idea of abortion, but there are precautions out there, girls should learn to use them effectively.

Last year I met a really nice girl who told me she was dating a guy (at that point they had been together for 3+ years), she told me that her boyfriend had a child (aged 12) from a previous relationship.  Though she was young she proceeded to take the guy's son as her younger brother, she said they got on really well and she couldn't be happier.  One day she asked the boy to do something and out of nowhere the boy replied, 'don't tell me what to do, you're not my mother!'

She said that what he said hurt her so much, she couldn't understand why he had said it.

The truth is, it is very rare that the mother of any child will be out of the picture.  And so far, as two people have a child together, the woman will always have access to your guy.  She has reason to call him up anytime of the day, because she is the mother of his child.

We are all human beings, we should not try ourselves.  Even if you're being fair on your own part, the child has to be well brought up and understanding to make your efforts worthwhile.  Most children would love to live both their original parents, it can never be easy to accept another.

These days more and more guys are having children with no relationship commitment, thus making life quite difficult for us girls, who would like to meet a guy with no attachments.  Then again, they do say love conquers all.

You may not be a wicked person but some situations can bring out the worst in people.  Everyone should do their best to play safe.  Girls should stop trying to trap guys with pregnancy, and don't believe a guy if he says 'I want you to be the mother of my children', if that is truly what he wants, make sure he carries you to the altar/church first.