‘This Is Why Family Members Of Some Rich People Are Poor’- Sex Therapist, Angela Nwosu

Date: 21-03-2021 8:41 pm (6 months ago) | Author: Mister Jay Wonder
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Sex therapist, Angela Nwosu has given her opinion on why family members of some rich people are poor, IgbereTV reports.

Taking to her Facebook page,
she wrote;

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Nigerians think that once you are rich, all your family members must be rich. They forget that being rich takes a whole lot. You worked your way out of poverty, you had the drive and the ambition, which might not be the same for your family members.

You can give someone 50 million, they won’t still be rich, but give another person 50k, what they will achieve with the money will shock you. A lot of family members are comfortable with hand me downs from any of their sibling that is doing well. They want to use expensive phones, wear expensive clothes, without doing anything for a living. They want the type of life they didn’t work for, that is not sustainable, all because they have a rich sibling.

If you force them to get a life, think of something they can do, so that you will establish them to hustle and work their ways out, they come up with no single business idea, no craft, all they want is to get the money from you, waste it and come back for more, they don’t care how it makes you feel, as long as you have the money, they are entitled to it, because they are family, until you allow them wreck you and pull you down to their level.

Society will judge you for having money and living rich, while you have siblings that are not doing well in life. Very wrong mentality, frustrating one at that. You can only take a horse to the river, but you can’t force the horse to drink water.

Ask such people what exactly they want to do in life, they come up with absolutely nothing. Tell them to tell you what they can do with 5 million naira, they tell you to give them the money first, that they will figure it out later, that goes to show that they have no ambition, no plans at all, they just want to get money from their rich sibling and waste it, believing there’s more where that came from.

I personally don’t believe one should have mandatory responsibility over their siblings. That you are willing to help people you didn’t give birth to, doesn’t mean you are responsible for them, especially adults.

You see someone that has ambition, they have drive and lucrative business ideas, all they need is capital from you, as compared to a sibling that only wants money to waste. You know what is right, but chose to give your sibling, all because of your warped mentality, you think the universe will bless you? For how long do you think you will continue to do such?

When I hear things like, ‘see how rich he is, but his siblings are suffering in the village’ I shake my head with reckless abandon, the mentality is a terrible one. Don’t judge what you don’t know, your obligatory mentality is wrong.

I believe in pushing people that wants to be pushed, family members or not, and ignore those that are only comfortable with hand me downs, feeling entitled to the sweat of their siblings, uncles or aunties.

It’s different, if your siblings actually have business ideas, and you refuse to help them, then that is sheer wickedness.

To read is human, to understand is divine!

#angienation

Udo!


Posted: at 21-03-2021 08:41 PM (6 months ago) | Addicted Hero
- mirolam at 21-03-2021 08:58 PM (6 months ago)
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I agree to an extent but it has its ups and downs. My immediate younger brother committed suicide about 7 weeks ago because we all were tired of his constant demand for money and no accountability for any of them. He committed suicide because he felt neglected and saw himself as a burden while everyone else is doing well. I feel guilty to an extent that I should have listened, shown compassion with his struggles and communicated with him. Probably help him with therapy. Instead, I pushed him away for 2 months and refused to pick his calls. The next news I hear is that he drank 2 bottles of sniper. I’m so miserable and pray God heals my heart. We were so close and best friends even as siblings. So be careful when you make that decisions about your sibling or friend.
Posted: at 21-03-2021 08:58 PM (6 months ago) | Upcoming
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- ijelove at 21-03-2021 09:22 PM (6 months ago)
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Quote from: mirolam on 21-03-2021 09:30 PM
I agree to an extent but it has its ups and downs. My immediate younger brother committed suicide about 7 weeks ago because we all were tired of his constant demand for money and no accountability for any of them. He committed suicide because he felt neglected and saw himself as a burden while everyone else is doing well. I feel guilty to an extent that I should have listened, shown compassion with his struggles and communicated with him. Probably help him with therapy. Instead, I pushed him away for 2 months and refused to pick his calls. The next news I hear is that he drank 2 bottles of sniper. I’m so miserable and pray God heals my heart. We were so close and best friends even as siblings. So be careful when you make that decisions about your sibling or friend.
God bless your wisdom  
Posted: at 21-03-2021 09:22 PM (6 months ago) | Upcoming
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- nanachyke at 22-03-2021 07:28 AM (6 months ago)
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There is every sense in what this lady has written. Though there are many siblings who need just a little boost to enable them to jump to greater heights, so also are millions of them out there who are professional beggars. Unrestricted aids to such people serve as nothing but enabling-fits. One should know when to say enough is enough. The act of rendering helps to siblings is rooted in African culture and one cannot shy away from that but that is also the aspect of African culture often grossly abused among family members.
Posted: at 22-03-2021 07:28 AM (6 months ago) | Newbie
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- blowout at 22-03-2021 10:51 AM (6 months ago)
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Quote from: mirolam on 21-03-2021 08:58 PM
I agree to an extent but it has its ups and downs. My immediate younger brother committed suicide about 7 weeks ago because we all were tired of his constant demand for money and no accountability for any of them. He committed suicide because he felt neglected and saw himself as a burden while everyone else is doing well. I feel guilty to an extent that I should have listened, shown compassion with his struggles and communicated with him. Probably help him with therapy. Instead, I pushed him away for 2 months and refused to pick his calls. The next news I hear is that he drank 2 bottles of sniper. I’m so miserable and pray God heals my heart. We were so close and best friends even as siblings. So be careful when you make that decisions about your sibling or friend.
Sorry for your loss. Although I agree with with the lady said, reading about your experience also shows there can be a different angle to these things.
Posted: at 22-03-2021 10:51 AM (6 months ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Baye77 at 22-03-2021 02:01 PM (6 months ago)
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Quote from: mirolam on 21-03-2021 08:58 PM
I agree to an extent but it has its ups and downs. My immediate younger brother committed suicide about 7 weeks ago because we all were tired of his constant demand for money and no accountability for any of them. He committed suicide because he felt neglected and saw himself as a burden while everyone else is doing well. I feel guilty to an extent that I should have listened, shown compassion with his struggles and communicated with him. Probably help him with therapy. Instead, I pushed him away for 2 months and refused to pick his calls. The next news I hear is that he drank 2 bottles of sniper. I’m so miserable and pray God heals my heart. We were so close and best friends even as siblings. So be careful when you make that decisions about your sibling or friend.
I'm sorry for your loss..this is sad..
Posted: at 22-03-2021 02:01 PM (6 months ago) | Hero
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