So here is the story... yesterday one of my african friends called me literally bawling her eyes out over the heartache she was about to explain to me. my friend told me that for 5years she has been dating this guy and finally he asked her to marry him, after all she was 4 months pregnant by him. and of course she loved him too,so she accepted. Anyways my friend's father studied medicine in the usa in the 80s and after schooling he went back to the congo to practice medicine, but while he was in the usa, he had multiple girlfriends whom he had segxwal relations with, and i guess some of that relationship produced a children, but the woman never told him, especially since after his residency he went back to his country leaving her no contact information. The woman had triplets 1981, two boys and one girl. Since the mother of the children couldnt remember her boyfriend's lastname she gave her children hers. so my friend's fiancee is one of the male children of the triplets. Now my friend's mother married her high school sweet heart,who had returned home after years of study abroad, and in 1985 my friend and her twin brother was born. My friend's father sent her abroad to study and as faith had it she ended up in the same school as her fiancee,where he was a grad student and she an undergrad. anyways from there on my friend says her fiancee's mom and her mom became good friends. So sunday was her engagement party and for the first time her father met the fiancee's mom, at least my friend thought,and thats when she learned that she was carrying her brother's baby.... at this moment she is 7months gone and too late to abort,and also the two couple have been inlove ever since they met eachother in college, and she refuses to let him go,so now she asked me what she should do. Am both their friend,am also torn inside for her and him,and their whole family in general. After she told me the story last night i didnt and still dont know what to say, all i can do is pray God gives them the wisdom to make the right decision.What do you guys think, any advice on what they should do?
Posted: at 29-12-2010 07:32 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
bittersweet at 29-12-2010 07:41 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Live and let live!
Posted: at 29-12-2010 07:41 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
this is wat happens when you decide to get pregnant befor getting to to the right thing.well,its a taboo.if i were in her shoes,i will have the baby but i wont marry him.and pray to God for forgiveness.there are so many men out there.
Posted: at 29-12-2010 07:45 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
@kennee, such acts of sibling relations in such manner is a taboo, and an abomination. the question is rhetorical, needing no answer,but solid acknowledgment of the reason why its bad and the indirect irony since they didnt know they were siblings.What i was looking for is advice,because am confused on what to say to her, its disturbing,you know, so any advice is appreciated.
Posted: at 29-12-2010 08:01 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
@kennee, such acts of sibling relations in such manner is a taboo, and an abomination. the question is rhetorical, needing no answer,but solid acknowledgment of the reason why its bad and the indirect irony since they didnt know they were siblings.What i was looking for is advice,because am confused on what to say to her, its disturbing,you know, so any advice is appreciated.
sorry madam.you just said its a taboo and abomination.so why not tell her the same thing.its not a matter of how they knew or how long they got to know .its a matter of doing the right thing.
Posted: at 29-12-2010 08:12 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
@poster.. it's absolutely an abomination in the first place that,they did mingle together to an extend of expecting a baby.they're have already done a enough damages,so my dear you don't have to be confused here ok.just tell your friend to try as much as possible to kill that feelings she's having for her brother so that GOD can forgive them for the taboo they have already committed. I know it ain't easy at all but,with time everything we come back to normal.time they said "heals all wounds".for the sake of her life/future,that of her unborn baby & the brother..she must do what she has to do..i rest my opinion.goodluck.
p.s..the father has to be blame for this BIG MESS.
The difference between GENIUS and STUPIDITY is that, genius has it limits..
Posted: at 29-12-2010 08:37 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
wow..this is a serious and complicated case....i don't really have much to say's about this topic.i am not going to blame the two in question's about this whole mess.i blame the mother of the guy and the father of your friend..@ least the mother should have showed the dude who is daddy is or the daddy should have ask about his child..i don't really know...let dem pray over it.my suggestion's is for the girl to put to birth and forget about the relationship between dem both..they should cut it off..wow.what a mess?so so outrageous.
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 29-12-2010 10:08 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
juleshotluv at 29-12-2010 10:14 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Let her go ahead and give birth to the child but dont marry her brother. if she gives birth to the child and she doesnt want to keep, she can give it out.
Posted: at 29-12-2010 10:14 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
@kennee, such acts of sibling relations in such manner is a taboo, and an abomination. the question is rhetorical, needing no answer,but solid acknowledgment of the reason why its bad and the indirect irony since they didnt know they were siblings.What i was looking for is advice,because am confused on what to say to her, its disturbing,you know, so any advice is appreciated.
sorry madam.you just said its a taboo and abomination.so why not tell her the same thing.its not a matter of how they knew or how long they got to know .its a matter of doing the right thing.
Yep! It's a Matter of Doing What is Right
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Posted: at 29-12-2010 11:52 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Pointzero at 30-12-2010 01:59 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: juleshotluv on 29-12-2010 10:14 PM
Let her go ahead and give birth to the child but dont marry her brother. if she gives birth to the child and she doesnt want to keep, she can give it out.
to who..............if i may ask
NEMO DAT QUOD NON HABET
Posted: at 30-12-2010 01:59 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
juleshotluv at 30-12-2010 02:24 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Pointzero on 30-12-2010 01:59 AM
Quote from: juleshotluv on 29-12-2010 10:14 PM
Let her go ahead and give birth to the child but dont marry her brother. if she gives birth to the child and she doesnt want to keep, she can give it out.
to who..............if i may ask
Anyone whom might want to adopt the child.
Posted: at 30-12-2010 02:24 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Elmumeen at 31-12-2010 07:04 AM (14 years ago) (m)
........hhhhmmmm it already happened.Ask your friend to keep the baby but call off the relationship no matter how deeply in love they are....both'll surely find better partners there after...ok! ...Check this out : ''Parents!!!beware of the way you keep your children apart and the unfamiliarity amongs them''
Posted: at 31-12-2010 07:04 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
this situation is quite unfortunate and I feel for the couple. We all know what they have to do, the poster knows it so does the couple. Having said that, it wont be automatic, human emotions deeper, they have been together for seven years now and will have a child together. They will try and rationalise things n find justification for what they av done just so that the past seven years is not a sham. But deep down they know what they have to do but might need a push in the right direction
poster- they r going to need your support n that of everyone else especially your friend; she is at a delicate stage, I hope she doesnt go crazy. I cant imagine being her....b there for her n try to keep her away from her brother/ fiancee.
Posted: at 14-11-2011 04:34 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I dont know what there plan is for the baby. Personally, I would recommend putting him/ her up for abortion. This is not a story that kids want to hear about when they grow, it might ruin them. Also, they dont need a reminder of this for the rest of their life. To start afresh they ought to start with a clean slate....
Posted: at 14-11-2011 04:36 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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