Sex Education for Children-at what age? (Page 11)

Date: 07-03-2011 3:55 pm (13 years ago) | Author: Pholake
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- sophiebaby at 11-03-2011 10:22 AM (13 years ago)
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child educ

Posted: at 11-03-2011 10:22 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sobeit at 11-03-2011 10:57 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: pholake on 11-03-2011 10:14 AM
Quote from: sobeit on 11-03-2011 12:25 AM
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-03-2011 03:59 PM
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7 huh? neeh i don't think so..its too primitive for a child of 7years to be thought Sex Education

Not in all cases SBI.....some kids are just soooo 'wise'.......I know a boy of 4 who reported to his dad that he watched a movie with his mum where 'one girl and one boy were "loving" themselves in the bathroom'.........now, what do u call that?

hmmm in this case i think the woman is an irresponsible wife,no matter how small and dumb a child might be,it's absolutely wrong for parents to speak naughty words in front of their children even if he/she is below the age of one,not to talk of watching porn movie  Shocked. hmm such parents are not worthy to call one.and I call the woman action child abuse, and should be deprive the right to the custody of her child....

haven't made the above statements,i personal think teaching a child of 7 years below Sex education is not the brilliant way to prevent your child from exposing from the dark side of the society..it could backfired believe me,it could have some negative effect to his/her knowledge,cuz you are trying to force the child to understand things his/her brain aren't ripe to accumulate...

The best way in my own view is to keep your eyes on your children,try to know and understand when they develop some signs of maturity in their own level,which i believe start from 9-12 as for girls,while boys should be 11 above..then you can go ahead and teach them some soft Sex education..for example funny stuff like;don't let a man touch you,if he does! you will get pregnant..kids are scared of thought like this,and such thought transform in the right perspective as the child grow further.
 

I quite appreciate this....but I still believe 7yrs is not too young....considering the rate of rape  and other segxwal molestation of under-aged girls, parents should start telling the kids (esp. the girls) the soft stuffs......the education we're talking about at this age does not have to be vivid; just subtle..."a boy/man's not suppose to touch u in so and so places"......"u're not supposed to be in a lone place with a boy"....etc...these are harmless instructions.......Let me give u a first hand experience, one day, I was watching a comedy (the council or something-a panel of 4 people with an audience discuss issues of great importance in a comedy-like manner), then they were discussing the menace of unbridled sex between young boys/girls....a speaker said something like "these small small boys/girls go stand for corner dey do tinririwenrere (something close to that-to code the word) but guess what my daughter (of about 6 then) said? "Instead of him to say they were having sex, he said they were doing tinririwenrere...." and she hissed. I was shocked! That day, I sat her down to tell her a few things she must know........

yeah! that's my point,it shouldn't be vivid..but wait oooo,are u kidding me?! she said that at that Age?anyway some kids are wiser than their mate,but shouldn't be a reason for parents to go deep with the teaching..do you think teaching kids at such tender age will prevent those animal from molesting and molesting them?nope!..the best way is to constantly watch and protect your children from being expose to the negative side of society like i said earlier,cuz teaching them Sex education alone and hopping they will abide by it, isn't a guarantee especially girls cuz they're more vulnerable.....the bottom line,i won't start by 7 (personal view).
Posted: at 11-03-2011 10:57 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pholake at 11-03-2011 11:00 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 11-03-2011 10:22 AM
child educ

Exactly!
Posted: at 11-03-2011 11:00 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pholake at 11-03-2011 11:05 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sobeit on 11-03-2011 10:57 AM
Quote from: pholake on 11-03-2011 10:14 AM
Quote from: sobeit on 11-03-2011 12:25 AM
Quote from: pholake on  7-03-2011 04:24 PM
Quote from: sobeit on  7-03-2011 04:21 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-03-2011 03:59 PM
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7 huh? neeh i don't think so..its too primitive for a child of 7years to be thought Sex Education

Not in all cases SBI.....some kids are just soooo 'wise'.......I know a boy of 4 who reported to his dad that he watched a movie with his mum where 'one girl and one boy were "loving" themselves in the bathroom'.........now, what do u call that?

hmmm in this case i think the woman is an irresponsible wife,no matter how small and dumb a child might be,it's absolutely wrong for parents to speak naughty words in front of their children even if he/she is below the age of one,not to talk of watching porn movie  Shocked. hmm such parents are not worthy to call one.and I call the woman action child abuse, and should be deprive the right to the custody of her child....

haven't made the above statements,i personal think teaching a child of 7 years below Sex education is not the brilliant way to prevent your child from exposing from the dark side of the society..it could backfired believe me,it could have some negative effect to his/her knowledge,cuz you are trying to force the child to understand things his/her brain aren't ripe to accumulate...

The best way in my own view is to keep your eyes on your children,try to know and understand when they develop some signs of maturity in their own level,which i believe start from 9-12 as for girls,while boys should be 11 above..then you can go ahead and teach them some soft Sex education..for example funny stuff like;don't let a man touch you,if he does! you will get pregnant..kids are scared of thought like this,and such thought transform in the right perspective as the child grow further.
 

I quite appreciate this....but I still believe 7yrs is not too young....considering the rate of rape  and other segxwal molestation of under-aged girls, parents should start telling the kids (esp. the girls) the soft stuffs......the education we're talking about at this age does not have to be vivid; just subtle..."a boy/man's not suppose to touch u in so and so places"......"u're not supposed to be in a lone place with a boy"....etc...these are harmless instructions.......Let me give u a first hand experience, one day, I was watching a comedy (the council or something-a panel of 4 people with an audience discuss issues of great importance in a comedy-like manner), then they were discussing the menace of unbridled sex between young boys/girls....a speaker said something like "these small small boys/girls go stand for corner dey do tinririwenrere (something close to that-to code the word) but guess what my daughter (of about 6 then) said? "Instead of him to say they were having sex, he said they were doing tinririwenrere...." and she hissed. I was shocked! That day, I sat her down to tell her a few things she must know........

yeah! that's my point,it shouldn't be vivid..but wait oooo,are u kidding me?! she said that at that Age?anyway some kids are wiser than their mate,but shouldn't be a reason for parents to go deep with the teaching..do you think teaching kids at such tender age will prevent those animal from molesting and molesting them?nope!..the best way is to constantly watch and protect your children from being expose to the negative side of society like i said earlier,cuz teaching them Sex education alone and hopping they will abide by it, isn't a guarantee especially girls cuz they're more vulnerable.....the bottom line,i won't start by 7 (personal view).

Yeah she said....what baffled me more is the fact that she's the reserved one but very intelligent.........
And u're right, the education won't stop the beastial child-rapers but it would help the girl from being a victim.......and like u said, the education's not too vivid and not too deep.
U said u would not start @ 7? What happens if u have a girl and she asks her mum (like mine did) that "mummy, what is "always sanitary pad used for?"....or a more daring question such as "what is a condom and what is it used for?"
Posted: at 11-03-2011 11:05 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sobeit at 11-03-2011 11:50 AM (13 years ago)
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hmmm in this case,i'll first of all try to get to the root of what prompt such question,

something might have happen or somebody has injected such thought in her mind cuz its not ordinary..

kids don't develop thought automatically,they react from things we do and said.

that's why i said we should watch over our kids and kind of friends they do associate with both in school and at home.

as for the question,she won't get a clear explanation from me,rather get a tough stance and observation henceforth. @pholake


Posted: at 11-03-2011 11:50 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pholake at 11-03-2011 11:55 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sobeit on 11-03-2011 11:50 AM
hmmm in this case,i'll first of all try to get to the root of what prompt such question,

something might have happen or somebody has injected such thought in her mind cuz its not ordinary..

kids don't develop thought automatically,they react from things we do and said.

that's why i said we should watch over our kids and kind of friends they do associate with both in school and at home.

as for the question,she won't get a clear explanation from me,rather get a tough stance and observation henceforth. @pholake




those questions may be ordinary SBI...there are adverts about these stuff everywhere...............we can't stop them totally from watching TV, can we? ......
Posted: at 11-03-2011 11:55 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sobeit at 11-03-2011 12:24 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: pholake on 11-03-2011 11:55 AM
Quote from: sobeit on 11-03-2011 11:50 AM
hmmm in this case,i'll first of all try to get to the root of what prompt such question,

something might have happen or somebody has injected such thought in her mind cuz its not ordinary..

kids don't develop thought automatically,they react from things we do and said.

that's why i said we should watch over our kids and kind of friends they do associate with both in school and at home.

as for the question,she won't get a clear explanation from me,rather get a tough stance and observation henceforth. @pholake




those questions may be ordinary SBI...there are adverts about these stuff everywhere...............we can't stop them totally from watching TV, can we? ......

how could it be ordinary when they watch it on TV or by adverts?  i'm definitely not against kids watching tv,but there are stations and channels made and suitable for kids,which i believe you know that..Thank God that present TVs get parental lock,which enable parents to lock some stations strictly made for adults,so no excuse...we just have to do our best on our kids and leave the rest for God to take control.
Posted: at 11-03-2011 12:24 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pholake at 11-03-2011 12:55 PM (13 years ago)
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Yeah....do our best and leave the rest.........
Posted: at 11-03-2011 12:55 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ajanni at 11-03-2011 09:08 PM (13 years ago)
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alright
Posted: at 11-03-2011 09:08 PM (13 years ago) | Grande Master
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- kebella at 11-03-2011 09:33 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-03-2011 04:06 PM
# it’s best to start talking with children about segxwality in early childhood — but it’s never too late.
# Try to be open and available when a child wants to talk.
# Start conversations with "teachable moments".
# Don’t let fear get in the way of talking with your children.

7years is ok

well said  Cool Cool Cool

Posted: at 11-03-2011 09:33 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- El-magnifico at 11-03-2011 11:27 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-03-2011 04:16 PM
Quote from: pholake on  7-03-2011 03:55 PM
Sex education is one topic that has generated so much controversy. In some quarters, sex-education means moral-bankruptcy while some believe that sex education is a panacea to the present day moral decadence. Children nowadays develop so rapidly and their brains are not left out......At a tender age they ask incredible questions which parents at times find it difficult to answer truthfully .........Pals, do u think parents should give their children sex-education? If yes, how should they go about it and at what age do you think it's ideal to start this-especially with the girl-child?


It's best to start as soon as children begin getting segxwal messages. And they start getting them as soon as they're born. Children learn how to think and feel about their bodies and their segxwal behavior from things we do and say — from the way we hold them, talk to them, dress them, teach them the words for their body parts, give them feedback on their behavior, and behave in their presence.

But don't worry if you haven't started yet. It's never too late. Just don't try to "catch up" all at once. The most important thing is to be open and available whenever a child wants to talk.

@ Sophie .....You be biology teacher ? You try gan, no be small, but dont you think 7 years is too early for a child ? what if he/she gets the message in a wrong dirrection ?
Posted: at 11-03-2011 11:27 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ajanni at 12-03-2011 04:37 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: kebella on 11-03-2011 09:33 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-03-2011 04:06 PM
# it’s best to start talking with children about segxwality in early childhood — but it’s never too late.
# Try to be open and available when a child wants to talk.
# Start conversations with "teachable moments".
# Don’t let fear get in the way of talking with your children.

7years is ok

well said  Cool Cool Cool
is that at you started ?
Posted: at 12-03-2011 04:37 AM (13 years ago) | Grande Master
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- pholake at 13-03-2011 12:06 AM (13 years ago)
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@ El-magnifico: considering the rapid growth of present day kids, 7yrs isn't too early and responsibility falls on the parents to ensure their children get the message correctly and make use of it appropriately.
Posted: at 13-03-2011 12:06 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kenolis at 14-03-2011 01:33 AM (13 years ago)
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sex Shocked Shocked Shocked
Posted: at 14-03-2011 01:33 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- pholake at 14-03-2011 08:34 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: kenolis on 14-03-2011 01:33 AM
sex Shocked Shocked Shocked

Why did u throw away the "education" part of the topic?
Posted: at 14-03-2011 08:34 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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