Why Do Men Spend So Much Time Chasing Women They Don’t Plan To Wife Up?

Published 8 years ago by: PreetyInstinct
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at 12-04-2011 10:12PM (8 years ago)

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If you take a look at the men who congregate at any social outing, you’ll notice they have a tendency to huddle in semi-circle looking at women.  They attempt to be discrete at first, but as the liquor pours on, they forget about their efforts to cover up their blatant staring.  And if you look closely, those men are slightly covering their mouths with their drinks so they can talk to each other about what they see and share scouting reports.  Seems a bit much right?  It actually is.  The things these men are trying to decipher are:

1) Where are the good looking shorties?

2) Anybody know a specific shorty?

3) What are my chances at taking that shorty home?

Notice that none of these men have an interest in a relationship with any of the women. But they will spend their entire night going through those three questions.  It will be the catalyst for his entire night; what he does, what he buys and how long he stays.  Now, when you consider this vantage point, also consider that most men spend the majority of their time at work. After that, the priorities are usually family and friends.  Thinking about a mate is low on his list of priorities and doesn’t get a lot of his time.  So why is he wasting his time on some jumpoff?

Perhaps, the better question is, how do jumpoffs garner so much attention from men?  Especially, when there are better options available.  The answer is simple, because it’s the nature of men.

Men Are Visual

All men will tell you that just because a woman is good looking doesn’t mean she is right for you.  What they won’t tell you is that if a man doesn’t find you attractive, he’ll likely never approach you.  So, I’m not sure what that first statement means.  As women, consider what you’ve seen. Men spend a lot of time on the Internet gushing over video vixens.  They know absolutely nothing about those women or their mental capacity to carry a conversation, however, they are smitten.  So, when a man sees a scantily clad woman out on the town, they’d rather stare at her for hours than look at any woman who’s dressed appropriately.

“Men will rather take the trout in the river than the marlin in the ocean.”

This is an analogy that originated from a popular movie in 2010, but the concept is simple.  You can catch a lot of small fishes or you can spend a long time catching the big fish.  When a man thinks in the short term about picking a mate, he thinks about what he’s willing to bring to the table and what she’s going to bring to the table.  Most men out on the town aren’t looking for their wife. If he finds her … then, yes.  But they aren’t searching for that.  They are looking for a short-term option of satisfaction, and by short-term option I don’t just mean a one-night stand.  When a man looks at a jumpoff, he realizes that he’s not going to have to put much effort into that situation.  When he looks at wifey material, he fully understands that in order to court and win this woman over, he’s going to have to be about his business.  And that’s going to lead him to putting in work.  The exact opposite of what he’d like to do.


“Ain’t no shame in her game.”

Easy women have no self-respect.  None.  And that puts them in a nothing-to-lose position.  And you know what they say about fighting someone who has nothing to lose: don’t.  For a man looking to hit a homerun on the first toss, a jumpoff doesn’t mind being that homerun.  And that makes them successful at finding men.  You won’t ever see a woman with any self-respect leaving the house with the cheeks of her butt hanging below her skirt, or wearing tights instead of leggings.  Jumpoffs?  They let it ride …

"When a man takes up a wife, he sets aside those childish games." HOW TRUE? Undecided

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PreetyInstinct at 12-04-2011 10:13PM (8 years ago)
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Ok my bad used the nasty font again! Lips Sealed

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dirtykid at 12-04-2011 10:18PM (8 years ago)
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Of course that is Men's game and thats how is been played before we was born, it will continue until there will be remedy to that. Yeah.. i agree with you, once a man takes up a wify, The game tally reduced automatically, is not a guarantee that he's not still thinking inside him, His thinking level will simply change/activated to other channels  Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy

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Joethedude at 12-04-2011 10:22PM (8 years ago)
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 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Well, Man is a hunter by nature. What is wrong with going to a party and doing a bit of "window shopping"? Sometimes, what you think is a casual fling goes on to become the relationship of a lifetime.
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HOPEA23 at 13-04-2011 12:01AM (8 years ago)
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 Cool

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oohio2007 at 13-04-2011 12:39AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: PreetyInstinct on 12-04-2011 10:12PM
If you take a look at the men who congregate at any social outing, you’ll notice they have a tendency to huddle in semi-circle looking at women.  They attempt to be discrete at first, but as the liquor pours on, they forget about their efforts to cover up their blatant staring.  And if you look closely, those men are slightly covering their mouths with their drinks so they can talk to each other about what they see and share scouting reports.  Seems a bit much right?  It actually is.  The things these men are trying to decipher are:

1) Where are the good looking shorties?

2) Anybody know a specific shorty?

3) What are my chances at taking that shorty home?

Notice that none of these men have an interest in a relationship with any of the women. But they will spend their entire night going through those three questions.  It will be the catalyst for his entire night; what he does, what he buys and how long he stays.  Now, when you consider this vantage point, also consider that most men spend the majority of their time at work. After that, the priorities are usually family and friends.  Thinking about a mate is low on his list of priorities and doesn’t get a lot of his time.  So why is he wasting his time on some jumpoff?

Perhaps, the better question is, how do jumpoffs garner so much attention from men?  Especially, when there are better options available.  The answer is simple, because it’s the nature of men.

Men Are Visual

All men will tell you that just because a woman is good looking doesn’t mean she is right for you.  What they won’t tell you is that if a man doesn’t find you attractive, he’ll likely never approach you.  So, I’m not sure what that first statement means.  As women, consider what you’ve seen. Men spend a lot of time on the Internet gushing over video vixens.  They know absolutely nothing about those women or their mental capacity to carry a conversation, however, they are smitten.  So, when a man sees a scantily clad woman out on the town, they’d rather stare at her for hours than look at any woman who’s dressed appropriately.

“Men will rather take the trout in the river than the marlin in the ocean.”

This is an analogy that originated from a popular movie in 2010, but the concept is simple.  You can catch a lot of small fishes or you can spend a long time catching the big fish.  When a man thinks in the short term about picking a mate, he thinks about what he’s willing to bring to the table and what she’s going to bring to the table.  Most men out on the town aren’t looking for their wife. If he finds her … then, yes.  But they aren’t searching for that.  They are looking for a short-term option of satisfaction, and by short-term option I don’t just mean a one-night stand.  When a man looks at a jumpoff, he realizes that he’s not going to have to put much effort into that situation.  When he looks at wifey material, he fully understands that in order to court and win this woman over, he’s going to have to be about his business.  And that’s going to lead him to putting in work.  The exact opposite of what he’d like to do.


“Ain’t no shame in her game.”

Easy women have no self-respect.  None.  And that puts them in a nothing-to-lose position.  And you know what they say about fighting someone who has nothing to lose: don’t.  For a man looking to hit a homerun on the first toss, a jumpoff doesn’t mind being that homerun.  And that makes them successful at finding men.  You won’t ever see a woman with any self-respect leaving the house with the cheeks of her butt hanging below her skirt, or wearing tights instead of leggings.  Jumpoffs?  They let it ride …

"When a man takes up a wife, he sets aside those childish games." HOW TRUE? Undecided

Your views
Cheesy Smiley
NICE EXTRACT.
 @ Preetyinstinct.Before i air my view,i would really appreciate it if you answer this question truthfully.Which would you prefer? For men to find you physically attractive or not?

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Ajento at 13-04-2011 02:31AM (8 years ago)
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The tougher they prove to be, the more the drive to conquer them, I guess.
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PreetyInstinct at 13-04-2011 03:20AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: oohio2007 on 13-04-2011 12:39AM
Quote from: PreetyInstinct on 12-04-2011 10:12PM
If you take a look at the men who congregate at any social outing, you’ll notice they have a tendency to huddle in semi-circle looking at women.  They attempt to be discrete at first, but as the liquor pours on, they forget about their efforts to cover up their blatant staring.  And if you look closely, those men are slightly covering their mouths with their drinks so they can talk to each other about what they see and share scouting reports.  Seems a bit much right?  It actually is.  The things these men are trying to decipher are:

1) Where are the good looking shorties?

2) Anybody know a specific shorty?

3) What are my chances at taking that shorty home?

Notice that none of these men have an interest in a relationship with any of the women. But they will spend their entire night going through those three questions.  It will be the catalyst for his entire night; what he does, what he buys and how long he stays.  Now, when you consider this vantage point, also consider that most men spend the majority of their time at work. After that, the priorities are usually family and friends.  Thinking about a mate is low on his list of priorities and doesn’t get a lot of his time.  So why is he wasting his time on some jumpoff?

Perhaps, the better question is, how do jumpoffs garner so much attention from men?  Especially, when there are better options available.  The answer is simple, because it’s the nature of men.

Men Are Visual

All men will tell you that just because a woman is good looking doesn’t mean she is right for you.  What they won’t tell you is that if a man doesn’t find you attractive, he’ll likely never approach you.  So, I’m not sure what that first statement means.  As women, consider what you’ve seen. Men spend a lot of time on the Internet gushing over video vixens.  They know absolutely nothing about those women or their mental capacity to carry a conversation, however, they are smitten.  So, when a man sees a scantily clad woman out on the town, they’d rather stare at her for hours than look at any woman who’s dressed appropriately.

“Men will rather take the trout in the river than the marlin in the ocean.”

This is an analogy that originated from a popular movie in 2010, but the concept is simple.  You can catch a lot of small fishes or you can spend a long time catching the big fish.  When a man thinks in the short term about picking a mate, he thinks about what he’s willing to bring to the table and what she’s going to bring to the table.  Most men out on the town aren’t looking for their wife. If he finds her … then, yes.  But they aren’t searching for that.  They are looking for a short-term option of satisfaction, and by short-term option I don’t just mean a one-night stand.  When a man looks at a jumpoff, he realizes that he’s not going to have to put much effort into that situation.  When he looks at wifey material, he fully understands that in order to court and win this woman over, he’s going to have to be about his business.  And that’s going to lead him to putting in work.  The exact opposite of what he’d like to do.


“Ain’t no shame in her game.”

Easy women have no self-respect.  None.  And that puts them in a nothing-to-lose position.  And you know what they say about fighting someone who has nothing to lose: don’t.  For a man looking to hit a homerun on the first toss, a jumpoff doesn’t mind being that homerun.  And that makes them successful at finding men.  You won’t ever see a woman with any self-respect leaving the house with the cheeks of her butt hanging below her skirt, or wearing tights instead of leggings.  Jumpoffs?  They let it ride …

"When a man takes up a wife, he sets aside those childish games." HOW TRUE? Undecided

Your views
Cheesy Smiley
NICE EXTRACT.
 @ Preetyinstinct.Before i air my view,i would really appreciate it if you answer this question truthfully.Which would you prefer? For men to find you physically attractive or not?

Don't get it!how does ur question relate to the post?

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PreetyInstinct at 13-04-2011 03:22AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: Joethedude on 12-04-2011 10:22PM
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Well, Man is a hunter by nature. What is wrong with going to a party and doing a bit of "window shopping"? Sometimes, what you think is a casual fling goes on to become the relationship of a lifetime.


Fair point, but must u always do that?

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oohio2007 at 13-04-2011 05:47AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: PreetyInstinct on 13-04-2011 03:20AM
Quote from: oohio2007 on 13-04-2011 12:39AM
Quote from: PreetyInstinct on 12-04-2011 10:12PM
If you take a look at the men who congregate at any social outing, you’ll notice they have a tendency to huddle in semi-circle looking at women.  They attempt to be discrete at first, but as the liquor pours on, they forget about their efforts to cover up their blatant staring.  And if you look closely, those men are slightly covering their mouths with their drinks so they can talk to each other about what they see and share scouting reports.  Seems a bit much right?  It actually is.  The things these men are trying to decipher are:

1) Where are the good looking shorties?

2) Anybody know a specific shorty?

3) What are my chances at taking that shorty home?

Notice that none of these men have an interest in a relationship with any of the women. But they will spend their entire night going through those three questions.  It will be the catalyst for his entire night; what he does, what he buys and how long he stays.  Now, when you consider this vantage point, also consider that most men spend the majority of their time at work. After that, the priorities are usually family and friends.  Thinking about a mate is low on his list of priorities and doesn’t get a lot of his time.  So why is he wasting his time on some jumpoff?

Perhaps, the better question is, how do jumpoffs garner so much attention from men?  Especially, when there are better options available.  The answer is simple, because it’s the nature of men.

Men Are Visual

All men will tell you that just because a woman is good looking doesn’t mean she is right for you.  What they won’t tell you is that if a man doesn’t find you attractive, he’ll likely never approach you.  So, I’m not sure what that first statement means.  As women, consider what you’ve seen. Men spend a lot of time on the Internet gushing over video vixens.  They know absolutely nothing about those women or their mental capacity to carry a conversation, however, they are smitten.  So, when a man sees a scantily clad woman out on the town, they’d rather stare at her for hours than look at any woman who’s dressed appropriately.

“Men will rather take the trout in the river than the marlin in the ocean.”

This is an analogy that originated from a popular movie in 2010, but the concept is simple.  You can catch a lot of small fishes or you can spend a long time catching the big fish.  When a man thinks in the short term about picking a mate, he thinks about what he’s willing to bring to the table and what she’s going to bring to the table.  Most men out on the town aren’t looking for their wife. If he finds her … then, yes.  But they aren’t searching for that.  They are looking for a short-term option of satisfaction, and by short-term option I don’t just mean a one-night stand.  When a man looks at a jumpoff, he realizes that he’s not going to have to put much effort into that situation.  When he looks at wifey material, he fully understands that in order to court and win this woman over, he’s going to have to be about his business.  And that’s going to lead him to putting in work.  The exact opposite of what he’d like to do.


“Ain’t no shame in her game.”

Easy women have no self-respect.  None.  And that puts them in a nothing-to-lose position.  And you know what they say about fighting someone who has nothing to lose: don’t.  For a man looking to hit a homerun on the first toss, a jumpoff doesn’t mind being that homerun.  And that makes them successful at finding men.  You won’t ever see a woman with any self-respect leaving the house with the cheeks of her butt hanging below her skirt, or wearing tights instead of leggings.  Jumpoffs?  They let it ride …

"When a man takes up a wife, he sets aside those childish games." HOW TRUE? Undecided

Your views
Cheesy Smiley
NICE EXTRACT.
 @ Preetyinstinct.Before i air my view,i would really appreciate it if you answer this question truthfully.Which would you prefer? For men to find you physically attractive or not?

Don't get it!how does ur question relate to the post?
Thats a TYPICAL Nigerian for you.Answering a question with a question.Your answer to the question is   relevant to my response to your post.Don't be scared.

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frayobkk at 13-04-2011 05:52AM (8 years ago)
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this is our lifewe use that to get busy some times

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PreetyInstinct at 13-04-2011 06:21AM (8 years ago)
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@ohiooo2077 get straight to the point? Huh? Undecided

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PreetyInstinct at 13-04-2011 06:23AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: frayobkk on 13-04-2011 05:52AM
this is our lifewe use that to get busy some times
oh right!

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oohio2007 at 13-04-2011 06:40AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: PreetyInstinct on 13-04-2011 06:21AM
@ohiooo2077 get straight to the point? Huh? Undecided
O.K I sense a communication break down here.I never intended to get you upset.Since you are not finding it interesting,you can choose not to respond to the question.It's O.K by me Cool

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PreetyInstinct at 13-04-2011 07:07AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: oohio2007 on 13-04-2011 06:40AM
Quote from: PreetyInstinct on 13-04-2011 06:21AM
@ohiooo2077 get straight to the point? Huh? Undecided
O.K I sense a communication break down here.I never intended to get you upset.Since you are not finding it interesting,you can choose not to respond to the question.It's O.K by me Cool

UUmm i'm not upset, but ok!

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truenaija2 at 13-04-2011 09:43AM (8 years ago)
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 Cool BRB Cheesy
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tando at 13-04-2011 09:44AM (8 years ago)
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also gals do tht. its a two way street.
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harold634 at 13-04-2011 10:02AM (8 years ago)
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It is a natural phenomenon quest that is planted in some men even b4 they were born. Though, it can be subdue or wipe out when some men attain some certain age of their carriers. The adrenalin in some men pushes them to exhibit their insatiable search to quench their unquenchable urge that drives them to excell in the area of chasing women.
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Adikpe at 13-04-2011 10:55AM (8 years ago)
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By nature, man is a fun-loving creature!
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williams100 at 13-04-2011 11:23AM (8 years ago)
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its pretty obvious that there is a virus linked with the system(brain) of the so called dominant specie called males that has now become a plague which i very much doubt will be reversible.according to dirtykid he talked about a remedy to it.but that remedy coming into existence is unlikely.they have now advance to the level of doing whatever they feel like doing without considering the dessimated effect it will have on others as well as themselves.according to them its a free life and free world,indeed.the same can also be said for our female counter-part as there are ladies out there that engage in such obnoxious act do i get to say theirs even surpasses that of the men at this new age of ours.i guess i will have to leave it to the world of statistics to verify,confirm and determine that.exactly how accurate will they be during their statistic index......?all the same with all things been equal both sexes are to be blame for whatever happens to them.there is a missing link we are yet to find out about the true source of this disease eating up both gender.
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