Unfaithfulness This occurs when a spouse seeks extra-marital affairs outside of the wedlock. It could come from either of the spouse but from whoever it is noticed, the other should not see it as the end of the tunnel. It is indeed a test of what marriage is known for, “for better, for worse”.
Inability to tolerate spouse’s weakness Tolerating a spouse’s weakness means seeing that weakness as something that could be jointly overcome. The rationale behind it is whatever affects one affects the other. But when couples cannot tolerate each other’s weaknesses, and bear with one another, it escalates conflict.
Not affirming your spouse’s strength When couples are unable to affirm each other’s success, display of talent both at home and outside, disagreement may set in.
Allowing a third party in your marriage This is a very common phenomenon. Most couples confuse third party for a necessity in marriage especially mother in-law, father in-law, sister in-law and so on. It is not bad in itself for them to be part of the family but some couples go to the extent of engaging them in taking decisive part in their marriage. When couples do so, conflicts may set in.
Keeping secrets from your spouse Secret in itself is not encouraged in marriage. It is an opposition to mutual and self-giving attribute of marriage. Most often, you see couples frowning at the attitudes of the other person for failure to know certain things which he or she should know such as bank accounts, friends, society or association a couple belong.
Inability to express feelings and emotions in marriage This is also lack of communication. When it is not there, couples are unable to express their joys, sorrows, feelings and emotions verbally and non-verbally. In other words, couples are not free to show true love and affection to each other, which is a pointer to conflict.
Not respecting your spouse Respect is reciprocal. So, when a spouse is not respecting the other, he or she other may tolerate it for some time but when patience runs out, the result is conflict.
Nagging attitude Being a nagging spouse means that he or she is troublesome, problematic and someone that always causes trouble in marriage. It is an attitude that can trigger conflict and even violence.
Not trusting your spouse Lack of trust brings about unnecessary suspicion by couples in marriages. Experiences show that not all suspicions are true and so many marriages have been ruined by lack of trust.
Discussing marital issues with outsiders Some spouses frown at their partners’ attitude of discussing their marital issues with others especially when they get to know about it. It causes conflict.
Spouse’s support of a child’s misbehaviour Children are fruits of marriage and also gifts from God. There is this tendency for some couples having soft spot for a particular child. So, when such a child puts up a bad behaviour, correcting this could cause conflict especially when one of the couples sees nothing bad in it.
Lack of patience Marriage they say is not a bed of roses. When challenges come up such as childlessness or things not being rosy, patience could be sacrificed on the altar of aggressiveness. The after effect is conflict.
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Posted: at 2-10-2011 12:34 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
ourhearts at 2-10-2011 08:24 AM (13 years ago) (m)
lack of segxwal satisfaction. Sex is important in any marriage and if not actively enjoyed by couples can break a marriage.
Indecency. Some men and women are very careless about their looks. Some women careless about their looks when they having children. Just imagine your wife joining you in bed after changing your child's pampers without washing her hands. When you complain; she tells you the child is also yours. Some people don't take their bath before joining their partners in bed. These simple mistakes causes deep irritation and thereby break marriages.
Lying. The only truth you hear from some couple is good morning every other thing are lies. Lies causes fears and thereby break marriages.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 08:24 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
Yes all these are true, this one happenes most expecially in a relationship, a lady will stand nd tell his partner that he has no right over her call logs nd msges unless the partner gets married to her. Is she encouraging the marriage or to discourage her partner from getting married to her? Ladies , mind what u say.
Posted: at 2-10-2011 09:46 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
Yes all these are true, this one happenes most especially in a relationship, a lady will stand nd tell his partner that he has no right over her call logs nd msges unless the partner gets married to her. Is she encouraging the marriage or to discourage her partner from getting married to her? Ladies , mind what u say.
my dear its a two sided thing,a woman needs to respect her man even if he is not married to her cos every boyfriend is a potential husband,there is no big deal if a guy wants to see his girl's call log or messages but he must be permitted to do so and not out of suspicion ,on the other hand the guy should not be too nosy over her affairs,he should at least give her some space as long as wat she is doing is right and will not affect their relationship negatively
Posted: at 2-10-2011 11:35 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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