Losing sleep ... marriages are meant to be forever (Page 2)

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i am not sure i can rush to marriage
We met around 4 years ago, we fell in love, and planned to marry, but slowly and surely I feel myself sometimes cringing at the thought of marriage with my girlfriend. I am not a horrible person, or at least I try not to be one (Or perhaps I am but don't want to admit it, but the anonymity of Net allows me to be frank and bare all without pretense), but I find more and more trapped/claustrophobic whatever you call it.

-Her dad STOPPED working after losses in business
so obviously they are not well off and I suspect we might have to support them if we get married Currently she gives them all her salary keeping just 5K for her personal use, and that money runs their household, sort of (Her grand father's pension also supplies part of the expenses)

Her brother has decided to stop studying after Class12th. WTF? And he is not that much of a law abiding citizen anyways. Involved in a couple of petty thefts already. Although to his credit, He hasn't got caught yet

They (her parents and mine) have been dead against our relationship cos of the caste issue.

Two to three years down the line she plans to stop working as well ...

Am I being selfish in thinking of breaking up? I just feel too uncomfortable just rushing into a life long commitment supporting her family...

Perhaps this story wasnt well articulated but to a certain degree I feel this guy. Matter of fact, if I was a guy, I will b scared too. Marriage is a big deal. A very big deal. It is a union between two families not just two ppl.
I am not from a very well off family and I currently support them. Myn is temporary as I will have more support from my siblings wen they r through studying. Which is why any plan to get married will have to wait until after my family is sorted. At least then I know that assisting will only cost a small % of my income. I will also feel better knowing I am bringing something to the table, a sort of partnership not one where I am fully dependant on my hubby.

If this girl is struggling to keep £5k a month, she will probably be unable to cope with having her own family. I know men r supposed to be breadwinners but not all guys can afford to be the sole breadwinner of the family. So unless dude is sure he can afford it, he is right to be concerned about marriage with her atm