@poster...Well I don't about "greater blame". Every party (Husband, wife and maid) had a part in such a situation.
Husband: He's the man of the house and he should make sure his house is in other. He shouldnt stoop so low as to having an affair with his maid. He shouldn't take advantage of the a maid (even with her consent, it is called Psychological rape).
Wife: A wife should be up and doing, always attractive to her husband and never failing in her duties. As a woman, she should know the home better, sensitive enough to smell any crooked ways b4 it blows out to an affair. I must add, no wife should see a maid as a rival, (and step down) that's a complex issue.
Maid:The less-experienced one in the "love-triangle" lol. If she refused to the husband's advances, the worst he can do is send her out of the home and men are not known for that. She gets the blame for granting access to the man. No man (sane or insane) will see a ripe young lady in his house and not make a pass or at least a second look. When the babe no be him daughter and she dey chop him food. e easy?
na true talk y guy