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Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / SEX IS NOT SOMETHING DONE OUTSIDE MARRIAGE |
on: 14-04-2008 10:18 AM
| | Emotions they say is like a wildfire, never satisfied, ready to consume everything on its way. Decisions create events. Decide for the good of yourself and God. If you are in a relationship and your spouse wants to have it (all the time), it is better you call it off before harm is done. Sex is not what you do to cool off outside marriage. It is a sacred relationship to be enjoyed in the sanctity of a marriage context.
THE THREE THINGS ABOUT SEX
1. Sex is progressive in nature
You don’t always decide to have sex outside marriage but most people end up having sex because they do not understand the law of progression. The law says you always move towards greater physical intimacy with your partner unless you consciously decide against it. What satisfied you the last time you met will not satisfy you the next time you meet. So there had to be a conscious agreement as to what not to do in the context of any relationship which neccessarily needs the backup of God’s word.
2. Sex is not love
Whoever wants you to prove your love by consenting to sex outside marriage is a compound fool. There is no love in that context, only gratification of an hormonal rush that will bring unprecedented heartaches. That sex equals love is an eternal aberration.
3. Sex is not the most important thing.
Food is more important than sex. You cannot survive for a year without eating, but I do know of people who survived for years without sex! They've never had sex until they got married. Sex appears urgent, but what is urgent is not necessarily important. Sex can wait. You can wait. God wants you to wait.
U gat to be sincere with yourself. Never be caught up with self-deceit. Be straightforward so that your destiny can be straight. One degree away from truth is also falsehood. When fire is brewing under you, don’t act as if you’re in ‘A.C’. You can only correct what you confront. Seek help. Don’t hide. The extent of your vulnerability is the degree to which you are secretive about your weaknesses. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: wat do u think about sex b4 marriage |
on: 27-03-2008 08:27 PM
| | @myra, lucabraccio,etc I feel pity reading ur post. i agree that we cant judge people or choice how people should live their life but as a matter of fact "u gat to do the right thing at the right time" SEX IS NOT SOMETHING DONE OUTSIDE MARRIAGE.
Emotions they say is like a wildfire, never satisfied, ready to consume everything on its way. Decisions create events. Decide for the good of yourself and God. If you are in a relationship and your spouse wants to have it (all the time), it is better you call it off before harm is done. Sex is not what you do to cool off outside marriage. It is a sacred relationship to be enjoyed in the sanctity of a marriage context.
THE THREE THINGS ABOUT SEX
1. Sex is progressive in nature
You don’t always decide to have sex outside marriage but most people end up having sex because they do not understand the law of progression. The law says you always move towards greater physical intimacy with your partner unless you consciously decide against it. What satisfied you the last time you met will not satisfy you the next time you meet. So there had to be a conscious agreement as to what not to do in the context of any relationship which neccessarily needs the backup of God’s word.
2. Sex is not love
Whoever wants you to prove your love by consenting to sex outside marriage is a compound fool. There is no love in that context, only gratification of an hormonal rush that will bring unprecedented heartaches. That sex equals love is an eternal aberration.
3. Sex is not the most important thing.
Food is more important than sex. You cannot survive for a year without eating, but I do know of people who survived for years without sex! They've never had sex until they got married. Sex appears urgent, but what is urgent is not necessarily important. Sex can wait. You can wait. God wants you to wait.
U gat to be sincere with yourself. Never be caught up with self-deceit. Be straightforward so that your destiny can be straight. One degree away from truth is also falsehood. When fire is brewing under you, don’t act as if you’re in ‘A.C’. You can only correct what you confront. Seek help. Don’t hide. The extent of your vulnerability is the degree to which you are secretive about your weaknesses. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: wat do u think about sex b4 marriage |
on: 27-03-2008 08:14 PM
| i am so sorry but i can't differentiate what you wrong from what i did...could u separate them or u could keep it that way...difficult to read.
i meant "wrote"... just to butress a point, u still can't justify that because you have slept with a woman and she was fabulous in bed, nothing else can go wrong in a marriage that might eventually end it. SEX is not all to a marriage, which is my main point exactly. when a marriage goes bad, it does not necessarily have to do with sex issues. it could be incompatibility emotionally and spiritually. alot of work goes into marriages and it is not all about sex sex sex. other things happen and have sex if u wish, does not matter to me or anyone else but do it because u want to not because u want to have a good marriage or a good husband. even pple that end up being fertile could end up loosing all those children in a day, it has happened before. what of those who are so ignorant and say their wives must have male kids, does that have to do with sex as well? i don't think so. Its so good to know that people like u still live in the earth. i really appreciate wat uve said so far Men are naturally hunters! That’s the way God made them. The sex drive of men is much more powerful than that of women, naturally. Unfortunately, not many men have the ability or the desire to control their sex drive. If a guy is so much in love and he says the only way for you to show your love is by sleeping with you, he’s a liar. He is not in love, he is in Lust! If you are stupid enough to fall for his seduction, you will regret it. Tell him to wait until you get married. If he can’t wait, let him run off somewhere. Believe me, you haven’t lost anything. He’s just a Billy Goat in heat! Wanna thank u all for ur comments on this topic of sex. i can only deduce that most of u guys think having sex during a relationship is a reward or a price to pay to your girl/boyfriend which is not so. for God sake if im going out with someone and the person thinks for him to be sure of mi love for him or that he wants to have something that even if i dont marry him, he wont be sad........dats pure rubbish, i rather burn the eprson,he is not worth mi love or sacrifice. True love is being trustworty to the person you fall for, share your problems together, plan for your future together and always stand by each other every moment of ur lives. Love is very great and always cause problem among uurselves. Sex is not worth given out in a relationship or courtship but only when married. Any man that require for sex is surely going to be a betrayal then why lose ur virginity or ur self esteem/personality just like dat because u dont want him to go or wateva. Be ur self and u will be love by ur future person than the pretenders that exists right now. My people of nigeria lets be ourselves and not to copy the whites nature. thanks to everyone that read this blog....do have a nice time | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: wat do u think about sex b4 marriage |
on: 27-03-2008 08:07 PM
| i am so sorry but i can't differentiate what you wrong from what i did...could u separate them or u could keep it that way...difficult to read.
i meant "wrote"... just to butress a point, u still can't justify that because you have slept with a woman and she was fabulous in bed, nothing else can go wrong in a marriage that might eventually end it. SEX is not all to a marriage, which is my main point exactly. when a marriage goes bad, it does not necessarily have to do with sex issues. it could be incompatibility emotionally and spiritually. alot of work goes into marriages and it is not all about sex sex sex. other things happen and have sex if u wish, does not matter to me or anyone else but do it because u want to not because u want to have a good marriage or a good husband. even pple that end up being fertile could end up loosing all those children in a day, it has happened before. what of those who are so ignorant and say their wives must have male kids, does that have to do with sex as well? i don't think so. i agree sex is not everything about marriage,if it was we wouldnt be having this conversation and prostitutes would be getting married everyday of the week both male and female,all im saying is that people are going into the whole having sex scenario not only because of sex but because of soo many stuffs that happen nowadays that wasnt heard of before..a marriage being compatible is like a checklist with diffrent requirements so what u r doing basically is giving that part a check on the list and then the behaviour then life goals and the rest,for these who want their wives to have male children can be determined as well cause like i said we r in the modern world and we know about the x and y chromosones e.t.c so you dont necessarily need to have sex to know how u can have male children..as u can see things are a lot less straightfoward than it used to be in the old days so ppl are using methods that wasnt common then...remember having sex before marriage is a modern thing because even tho it wat a male driven society before the man didnt touch his wife till their wedding night,they went in together and lie on a white sheet,they had sex and the womans blood from the broken hymen stained the white sheet which he ll bring out the next day and give to the wives family as a sign that their daughter was a virgin and then pay some extra dowry so contrary to your opinion that women are regarded as objects,african men have always regarded the african woman as something to be cherished. I feel pity reading ur post. i agree that we cant judge people or choice how people should live their life but as a matter of fact "u gat to do the right thing at the right time" SEX IS NOT SOMETHING DONE OUTSIDE MARRIAGE. Emotions they say is like a wildfire, never satisfied, ready to consume everything on its way. Decisions create events. Decide for the good of yourself and God. If you are in a relationship and your spouse wants to have it (all the time), it is better you call it off before harm is done. Sex is not what you do to cool off outside marriage. It is a sacred relationship to be enjoyed in the sanctity of a marriage context. THE THREE THINGS ABOUT SEX 1. Sex is progressive in nature You don’t always decide to have sex outside marriage but most people end up having sex because they do not understand the law of progression. The law says you always move towards greater physical intimacy with your partner unless you consciously decide against it. What satisfied you the last time you met will not satisfy you the next time you meet. So there had to be a conscious agreement as to what not to do in the context of any relationship which neccessarily needs the backup of God’s word. 2. Sex is not love Whoever wants you to prove your love by consenting to sex outside marriage is a compound fool. There is no love in that context, only gratification of an hormonal rush that will bring unprecedented heartaches. That sex equals love is an eternal aberration. 3. Sex is not the most important thing. Food is more important than sex. You cannot survive for a year without eating, but I do know of people who survived for years without sex! They\\\\\\\'ve never had sex until they got married. Sex appears urgent, but what is urgent is not necessarily important. Sex can wait. You can wait. God wants you to wait. U gat to be sincere with yourself. Never be caught up with self-deceit. Be straightforward so that your destiny can be straight. One degree away from truth is also falsehood. When fire is brewing under you, don’t act as if you’re in ‘A.C’. You can only correct what you confront. Seek help. Don’t hide. The extent of your vulnerability is the degree to which you are secretive about your weaknesses. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Why Men Cheat........ |
on: 25-09-2007 05:31 PM
| r u serious about that thing were u say its his nature! to chaet, so if my boyfriend cheats he can argue that it was not his fault and thats the way he was wired?
hello herre, im saying ds becos it's true and most guys do dat and its just a shame to guys who cant zip up | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Why Men Cheat........ |
on: 25-09-2007 03:13 PM
| | This topics is really an interesting one which i will want us all to talk about.
My own comment is that men and women alike, cheating is done to fulfil ones lust. We basically know that lust is the desire to fulfil ones soul and love is the desire to fulfil the other person's soul. God's intention for a husband and wife is that they both should become one flesh. Hence, any cheating is termed as sin and adultery in the eyes of God and is a serious issue. In our physical life, it gives rise to guilt and depression which is fuelled by further cheating and promiscuous attitudes and then becomes an addiction. Satan uses this technique to get us dead and in his arms. Praise be to the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ who not only died for us but also rose from the dead and has victory over the devil and death. There is no sin that is too dirty for him to cleanse. He is all merciful and coming to him can rid you of your sins and addiction before it's too late. You can ask him to come into your life and reveal himself to you right now.
Thanx for dropping your comments. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Why Men Cheat........ |
on: 25-09-2007 03:10 PM
| | Of course, we all know that while men and women are both capable of cheating, it's often the guys who have the biggest problem keeping their belts firmly buckled. And we all know that no matter who it's with, why it's done, or where the after-hours canoodling takes place, cheating is-most of the time-the ultimate relationship death sentence. But instead of dwelling on what happens after the cheating takes place, one of the ways to perhaps prevent infidelity is by knowing a little bit about why men stray. I'm not offering them as excuses, merely explanations as to what happens in that brain (and other body parts) of his-in hopes that you might be able to prevent it. Here, the top reasons why men cheat:
To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.
To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the segxwal frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.
To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"Smiley, or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.
To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out. | | | | |
