Every1 so far missed the point in the issue dat says the man beats and rape the wife. How is dat possibly part of a woman's marital obligation? Since when did marriage b'com enslavement, so dat a woman is not allowed to say no to her husband's segxwal demands?. When will Nigeria stop enslaving women and actually see them as human beings?

Divorce is fast growin in Nigeria these days. Everytime I go on Nigerian website I read about dem.
If cheatin is not a reason for divorce, then can u tell me wot is? Bcos my bible explicitly states that divorce should only be done on the ground of adultery. So wot r u saying?

Bcos of pressure from family, society and friends.

Successful family and career

When r the likes of u gonna stop presurrizin ladies into marryin the wrong person jus bcos u fink a woman gets to an age where she can't get married anymore??
@ poster,
U'd better pray to God for strenght to get ride o f dat time waster!! U'v wasted 8yrs of ur life wit him only to get crap in return, avn't u had enuf?? Like som1 said, there's lov out there so go and find urs. Unless u r willin to live in heartbreak 4 the rest of ur life.

I fink the fact dat she was keepin curfew made her a descent girl to you and dat inturn made u feel safe. But it seems now she's loosin dat descency and u r threateaned by it.
Understand dat the fact that she wants to keep l8 nite does not mean she's loosin her descency, it jus means she's growin. And trust me u shud allow her do dat and not treat her like a child so she does not resent u.

I don do fat thnku

Love takes time to grow, u cudn't possibly love some1 witout knowing them. And two days is not enuf to know anyone, so no its not rite cos u'll jus b lieing.

To go and c him ur docs need to be complete, so if u av dat then go and c him. If u don't and he can't com down then jus be patient, pray and hold on, until u sought everything out.

Does ur friend have any substantial evidence to prove dat his ex girlfriend actually did wot she's accused of? Or he is jus relying on wot his ex girlfriend's friend told him?
Men!! Open ur eyes!! When a woman is desparate 4 a man she'll sey or do anything to get him. So ur friend shud check his facts properly cos he cud b makin the biggest mistake of his life.

Pappi

@ Vixen, r u trynno tell us u don't av any family member or friends in Nigeria and that u'v not visited since u left? Cos, av got to sey dat u act like u know nofing about naija.

Av got 2 on ma chest and 1 on ma bck and I show dem off when I feel like. And trust it makes the brothers drop their tongue.

Whenever u start to fink about him, jus start prayin against dat feelin. Do dat continously, and u'll find dat wit the help of God, u'll get him off ur system.

He's simply seyin dat women reproduce anything they recieve.

I empathize wit u. But, I believe people only treat u the way u allow dem to. The fact dat u av a baby by a man does not mean u too must end up together. Ur happiness shud be ur priority, not jus 4 u but 4 ur child. U need to be emotionally strong in order to look after ur child; plus, u don't wan dem to get the wrong conception about relationships, do u?

From ur description of urself, u really can do better. So pls fink of ur child and get out of dat hell hole. Cos, trust me no matter how low u stoop, he really is not gonna change. If anything will get him to change is if u toughen up and make him c dat u don't need him.

Wot a shame? How is our country to change when we can't even take time to read up some of the biggest problems our country has.

Everythime i read stories like this, it saddens me. Why o Why?

I went to a conference and someone wanted to speak about Nigeria, the first and only thing the person said about Nigeria was that 'it had no infrastructure, too much corruption and bribery'. I was infuriated. but with stories like this, someone tell me exactly how I cud av defended my country. However much I tried to, I knew deep down dat the person was right.

I actually read it, and I think everyfing she wrote on there makes sense. Words of wisdom and us ladies appreciate it. Keep them coming.

Dat was bck in the day.
Now ladies look after demselves no matter the stress. Cos after all we r first and formost individuals, b4 a wife and a mother.
Plus, if don't look after ourselves it gives the men the excuse to go after the next best thing.

Guys, make una simply answer the question na! Which one una dey beat around?

Anyways, as 4 me sha, I'll sey the best time to cohabit is 6months to ur wedding date; so dat u can learn how to leave wit one another and actually c if u can leave wit each other.