Number 1.. Stop the tribalism
Number 2 ..Respect other people's culture
Number3.. The decision to send a list and accept bride price is the parents' decision. If bride price is not collected does not mean the girl/ boy is cheap; simply means they are boycotting the old culture which uses it as a means of an insurance policy in case anything goes wrong as well as a means to signify they trust the man or girl to take care of their daughter/son. If you don't collect it, still means you are trusting the guy/girl to fulfill their roles as a groom/bride
Number4..Your decision to be homely, educated or what not is down to the individual...Where beauty could be majorly genetic, don't so called 'not pretty' people get married? a lot of people who are married had no education but are still married so chilax
number 5..I cannot keep going..The point is GET A FRICKING GRIP OVER YOURSELVES THOSE TAKING IT SO PERSONAL; when you then finally divorce what does it come to?? NOTHING!! ITS ALL MATERIALISTIC ITEMS, DOES NOT GUARANTEE YOU ANY HAPPINESS; PRAY TO GOD TO GIVE A GOOD WIFE/HUSBAND WHATEVER TRIBE YOU WANT IF THAT IS CRUCIAL...BEING FROM ON TRIBE DOES NOT MEAN THE MAN WILL BE A SAINT OR NOT ....STOP LIVING IN THE PAST, I KNOW A LOT OF YOU DONT EVEN PRACTICE EVERY ONE OF YOUR TRIBAL'S CUSTOMS SO WHY THE FUSS?? ITS YOUR HAPPINESS NOT THEIRS