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1  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: i cant luv again... it makes me cry each tym i remember ma ex.. on: 2-08-2012 04:55 PM
The Key to Getting Past Your Breakup

We’ve all been there. You just  broke up with a boyfriend, husband, or long-term partner. Whether you thought he was The One, or the one for the year or month, it never feels good.
Breakups are hard because they represent the loss of a shared commitment. Even breakups that make logical sense are still emotionally painful. Moving on can be hard, but there are essential steps to getting past your breakup that can ensure it takes less time to get from breakdown to breakthrough!

Here is the Dating with Dignity “Break Over” 4-Step Program to get past your breakup today!

Step 1: Give yourself  permission to grieve the loss of your relationship. Even if it was the “right choice,” it still sucks: Whether it’s in your journal or talking with your sister, expressing how you’re feeling will help you feel less alone. However, this doesn’t mean that you should dwell on these negative feelings forever. You also need to remember that the end goal of your grief process should be moving forward. Check in with yourself while you’re feeling low, and ensure that you’re taking care of yourself (sleeping, eating, and exercising), maintaining friendships, and living your life while you’re healing. If you feel paralyzed by your feelings or that you’ll never get out of the depression you’re feeling, you may want to seek professional help. This is totally okay, and remember that YOU are your priority.

Step 2: Don’t go through your breakup alone: Support from friends and family is a big key to getting past your breakup. Spend time with people who value you. Even though you may want to be alone, separating yourself from friends is not the way to go. Also, know that most people have gone through a painful breakup, so they can remind you that you will heal and help you get there. Surrounding yourself with love and positivity is an excellent way to heal from a painful breakup.
Finally, make sure your ex isn’t part of this “Break Over” support system. Often it can be alluring to put him in the “friend” category prematurely because he “knows you better than anyone else.”  Avoid the temptation and create as much distance as possible.

Step 3: Learn important lessons through your breakup. Every “ex” is the next right step toward a better relationship: Although it might not seem like it now, moving through breakups can be among the best ways to grow as a person. You can choose to come out of this experience as a stronger woman who now knows infinitely more than before the breakup. It’s important to fully understand the part you played in a breakup so you can ensure you don’t make the same mistakes again. Even if he was the biggest jerk EVER and it seems like the bad ending was entirely his fault, you will best serve yourself by looking at your role in the relationship. Did you choose someone who wasn’t good for you? Did you allow him to take advantage of your generosity? Did you ignore the signs that he really wasn’t ready for a long-term commitment? Are you repeating the same mistakes over and over again in your relationships? Are you confused about what you really want from a relationship? Now is the time to look back at these things and clearly define what your relationship goals truly are, take steps to change what’s not working for you, and shift your energetics so you can attract someone new (and better) to love.

Step 4:  Take care of yourself and stop playing the victim: The breakup didn’t happen TO YOU. Choose to see yourself as something other than a victim and begin to see the pain as an opportunity to learn, grow and get closer to finding your best match.
Once you embrace this mindset, the fun can begin. Make every day a time to nurture yourself. Savor your coffee in the morning, take a relaxing yoga class, enjoy being outside. Don’t lose your healthy routine; make sure to keep eating healthily and regularly exercising. Take this time to maybe find a new hobby or explore new interests. Also, while a breakup signifies an end, it also indicates a  new beginning. Try to take a little time out; don’t make any big decisions such as getting a new job or moving to a new city. And remember: you are not alone, and you can make this time as fulfilling as the time you were in that relationship. There is a reason it ended, and you’re going to be just fine.

Just remember, although it seems like you might never get over a painful breakup, you can and you will. The Dating with Dignity “Break Over” 4-Step Program is a  great place to start taking care of yourself, and getting over your painful breakup can start today.
2  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: Bomb Found, Defused In Kaduna on: 30-05-2012 08:06 AM
Quote from: verah on 29-05-2012 09:11 PM
Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes    oh y didnt they allow d bomb to xplode............
3  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Thousands witness Kano’s first mass wedding on: 16-05-2012 12:50 PM
After their husband don die from Boko haram sucide attack, i sorry for all dis stupid and illustrate aboki's dem way feel say 72 virgins await them
4  Forum / Politics / Re: POWER BY FORCE? "Blood Will Flow In 2015 Unless..." - Buhari on: 16-05-2012 07:45 AM
Now we know the true face of Boko haram Leader. make una tell Jonah make he act now otherwise Military go take over
5  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: What Is Wrong With These Picture [Thursday Edition] 3.05.2012 on: 4-05-2012 03:21 PM
so una no dey see dat Girl Bosom  way dey show, d 1 were near that man way wear black. see how her booby black
6  Forum / The Buzz Central / Re: Evangelist Eucharia Anunobi Fights Pastor Inside Church Over Sermon Topic on: 1-05-2012 08:05 AM
Before u point an accusing finger at person ensure that u are free from the offence
7  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: E NO EASY! Nigerians are one of the saddest people in the world - UN on: 6-04-2012 12:16 PM
THe hapiset pipo on earth lives in nigeria
8  Forum / The Buzz Central / Re: Karen Auctions BBA Clothes on: 6-04-2012 12:15 PM
Igbo gene, she wan begin sell Okrika clothes in the name of Auction
9  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: Another Boko Haram Bomb Factory Uncovered In Kogi on: 2-04-2012 09:29 AM
E b like say i dey see ground nut oil for that pic, so all this imbeciles wan do wetin go make ground nut oil dey out of stock. Poverty is a disease, boko haram are idiotic fools
10  Forum / The Buzz Central / Re: CRAZE VIDEO!! Tuface Simulating Things With Tonto Dikeh On Stage [Video] on: 27-03-2012 10:43 AM
how person go call himself dike (dick) kon name him pikin tonto (honeypot)?
11  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: WTF: Man Impregnates Mother and Step-Sister on: 27-03-2012 10:32 AM
make una use the story act film
12  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: WONDERS! NSCDC parades 87 fake corps members on: 22-03-2012 10:37 AM
No be dem start am, after all if u comot bra u go discover say na fake booby babes dey advertise, their eyes na fake with eye shadow, height na fake with high heels, hips na fake with paded jeans, we hope say the level u knw what i mean, dem no go pirate am very soon. What a nation.
Good people great nation
13  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: Perv Alert! Oba Tells Female NYSC Member To Show Her Private Part In Court on: 22-03-2012 10:37 AM
No be penis d so called idiotic oba get na dredger, he don bore hole for anoda part of the body, Abi d mad man wan colect anoda shot for court make e show dem how he take do am.
14  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: Man claims to have map of heaven on: 20-03-2012 11:57 AM
Na madness of the highest order be dis
15  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: GLUTTON!!! Female SEC Director General Spends N850,000 On Food In A Day!! on: 15-03-2012 02:00 PM
What a man can do a woman can do better,
Patricia Etteh is her Mentor
16  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: LMAO!! Nigerian Police Station That Operates From Under A Tree Shed [Photos] on: 2-03-2012 09:17 AM
At least there will be no need for fan or ac, everytin na fresh air
17  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: DATING A SUGAR MUMMY, IS IT A CRIME? on: 29-02-2012 09:43 AM
Make una knw say sugar dey cause dat oyibo sickness diabetics
18  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: WICKED! Husband Throws Wife Out For Failing To Conceive on: 28-02-2012 05:26 PM
una knw weda d man no dey fertile self? most of the time na women we dey blame.
19  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: Bomb Blast At COCIN Headquarters in Jos, Plateau State on: 27-02-2012 11:06 AM
 Smiley na wah for all dis pipo oh, Angry make jonah kukumah divide d country into 2, North go dey 1 side, east west and south go dey 1 side, make i see how dem go take dey bomb Grin. And if we no buy tomatoes and cow frm dem make we see how dem go take survive Tongue :PGofment make una begin do sometin oh, Angry we don tire for paper report. If south begin react una go take am serious. My pipo say wen d hunter becomes d hunted kasala don burst Angry
20  Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Re: Three Headed Snake Found Live In India on: 27-02-2012 09:52 AM
i am not suprise dat DSC delta steel company is even worst, dis same india are d ones who bought it
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