I would have said its easy to move on but when you are truly in love with someone, bad or good, its not that easy to move on. On that note, no amount of advice we give you on here will likely be put into action by you in nearest future.

I can tell you live in US by your name. So, its not a strange thing to OWE a lot of money! Everyone must owe is first name for everyone in America, but some of us owe wisely. If your loverboy dont pay those bills, he already has a way out! Surprised?! Please, he doesnt have to pay them to be freed of debt! All he has to do (as far as i know for some debts) is to wait for 6yrs and all those debts will be canceled!!!! And your guy will be debt free. Or he filed for bankruptcy and all will be well!!!!

The only problem is, can he ever changed to be responsible in future? That i dont know.

One thing i know is that whoever spending lavishly like that always believe in better tomorrow, so if you really wanna put your head in there, you need EXTRA patience and older people guidance. Go and look into his family to see that its not a family habit. If its not a family problem for spending lavishly, i can think he will change if he has a good adviser with a IRON HAND, not someone like you who will be begging him to grow up.

He probably lost his bearing when he first came to US (if he wasnt born here). As they say, where you live when you come US determine how your future in America will be.

Above all, he who has head dont have cap: the one wey get cap no get head!

26 to 27, for me, if im 27, she is too old and i will probably run away from her! Sorry to say that oh.

Posted: at 7-01-2011 04:55 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

INTERNET LOVE DISADVANTAGE AND DISASTAL

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:00 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

[That guy bites more than he can chew! Think well if you want to be in that mess!Moreover, read your post carefully: "lie about anything","this boy is taking me for granted"...He lacks responsibility, maturity, lives the moment probably, but we should think at tomorrow too!Chances for him to change are almost zero, so don't count on that!May God show you the right way!]

That guy bites more than he can chew!
Think well if you want to be in that mess!
Moreover, read your post carefully: "lie about anything","this boy is taking me for granted"...
He lacks responsibility, maturity, lives the moment probably, but we should think at tomorrow too!
Chances for him to change are almost zero, so don't count on that!
May God show you the right way!

move on abeg na new year b dis

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:07 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

this man is definitely not ready for what you want my dear..he is not responsible, i dont think you should force on him. And also, dont try to make other force you to get married just because you are 27 years old. pray and seek God for a husband...please, dont rush into marriage, its not easy. good luck!

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:16 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Ur guy is living a false life. and u guys are not compatible. Think very well becuse marriage is a life contract and i don't pray dat u start on a wrong note. Best of luck.

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:18 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

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Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:19 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

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Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

INTERNET LOVE DISADVANTAGE AND DISASTAL

Disastal ?

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:35 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Hahahahahahahaha

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:37 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

he is 27yrs old

i thought as much.dont waste your time with him,cos he might end up not marrying you.trust me,he will run after one sweet 16.he's  got a long way to go in life.

Posted: at 7-01-2011 05:39 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

but dont you think this dude is trying to know who you really are,or the kind of ru person?

Posted: at 7-01-2011 06:06 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

how are you sure this dude is not setting things for to beliv, just to know if you are the type that can hold on to a man even when there is a problem,

Posted: at 7-01-2011 06:12 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

how are you sure this dude is not setting things for to beliv, just to know if you are the type that can hold on to a man even when there is a problem,

no i dont think so...this dude seems irresponsible in all manners....simple as A B C

Posted: at 7-01-2011 06:13 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

how are you sure this dude is not setting things for to beliv, just to know if you are the type that can hold on to a man even when there is a problem,

that's too much.even after her talking to him,he still keeps telling lies and doing all that.he's still a boy.no full grown up woman wants to babysit

Posted: at 7-01-2011 06:15 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

you dont love him at first,is because you love his flamboyant  life...after geting into flamboyant, parties what ever...you find notin in there now you need adv,for me try and love him    dont say because your mother won't let you sleep without bothering you about marriage...help him out,you can do it

Posted: at 7-01-2011 06:58 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

to be honest with u dear,the world CHANGE DOESN'T EXIST IN MY DICTIONARY.

Posted: at 7-01-2011 07:24 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Some tyms we do under estimate the power of a woman and the influence she has on men,........if he listens and understand you.........take out ur tym, sit him down........talk to him with passion.....remind him of his future, may be, he has 4gotten, n watch out..............its nt compulsory you get married to him.........but also kno dat he is some ones husband; just waiting for that change which only a strong force of a woman can do....You can make him to be that person you  want if only  you know the language he...understands.........wish you favor

Posted: at 7-01-2011 07:42 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

wht i av to tell u pls try to put him in d way of d lord confuse him to ur pastor,or church service some day nd alway put him in prayer too,d lord wil av his way,

Posted: at 7-01-2011 07:54 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

I met this former schoolmate of mine on facebook and we started chatting and now we are dating. He lives flamboyant, parties and he is more understanding and fun person than most of the guys i've dated before.so we hit it off quickly. i visited my boyfriend in his city only to find out that the boy actually has all th nice clothes, nice car, a house and all that but he is heavily in debt.Now that was scary for me. i like him because he understands me a lot better than most guys i date, and i never have to pretend with him.but abeg, i am an ordinary college student i don't want to start my life on someone's huge debt.the boy can't pay his own bills.i try to tell him to cut down on his unnecessary spending like on parties,drinks and sponsoring friends and family members when he knows that kobo no dey for am pocket.unfortunately,this boy tells me that oh i will work and make money then spend it. ahh,what a fool! i am not getting any younger.i am 26yrs old and my mother won't let me sleep without bothering me about marriage but my boyfriend can't afford to take care of himself well talking about starting a family.if there's any bigger liar in this world than him, i will vote him for a priest. he will lie about anything.I care about him but I can't take up his responsibilities with my own. This boy has never bought a pin for me not even on my birthday so on his birthday i bought a shirt i was going to post to him but instead i gave it away to someone.because i think this boy is taking me for granted.he is not a lazy person,he works every single day but he can't keep the money he makes.What do i do? I want to be engaged by the end of this year if i am still with or move on because i don't want to waste my time. please advice me...i am open to any opinion.Thanks to everyone of you here!

hmmm my dear, be very careful b4 you regret it big time in future..i think you  have received some couples of great advices  from some pals...so better leave him now or  be ready to cry me a river later..you guys aren't compatible. be warn!

Posted: at 7-01-2011 08:05 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

babe run oooo cos i no fit shout ooo

Posted: at 7-01-2011 08:09 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

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