I Wished I Never Did It......

 

Posted: at 6-07-2012 01:37 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

perifera

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 02:20 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Why did you move out if the relationship was really important to you and why can't he have another after you said it was over?
My dear stop crying over spilled milk and work on developing virtues that will attracted loving and responsible males to you (not likes of your ex-boyfriend's friend). I am happy you've realized that there is nothing like revenge f**ck, you will only cheapen yourself. wishing you all the best in your future relationship.

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:17 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

HOW TO HANDLE BREAKUP

@ Poster/worried woman:  When you’re faced with the breakup of a romantic relationship, your emotions and thoughts may be so confused that it’s hard to keep track of whether you are relieved or heartbroken. In the wake of a breakup or divorce, you can reasonably expect to feel grief, anger, bitterness, or even excitement about a new future.

Surviving a Divorce or Breakup: The Importance of Objective Advice
Divorce is very different from the breakup of a romantic relationship between unmarried people. For one thing, divorce may take a lot longer — either because of the laws of your state or because you and your partner may have agonized through separations and attempts at reunification.
“In a dating relationship, I’d say don’t put off the breakup if you know it’s coming,” says psychologist and author Les Parrot, PhD, professor of clinical psychology at Seattle Pacific University in Seattle and founder of RealRelationships.com. “I’d give the opposite suggestion to someone that is in a marriage relationship. There’s so much that people can do these days to turn around a really tough relationship.”
 
Either way, Parrot stresses the importance of seeking the advice of someone who is objective. Choose a therapist or a faith leader you trust to give you honest feedback about your emotions and how you are handling the situation — friends and family are inclined to support you no matter what you do, which may not be what you need, says Parrot. An objective person can also help you see when you are becoming unproductively stuck in emotions like anger, bitterness, sadness, or the desire for revenge.

Katrina Smith turned to a counselor when she was facing the end of her five-year marriage. Even though she believed it to be the best decision, she still faced chaotic emotions in the year leading up to the breakup, worrying about how to break it to her husband. “At one point in time I felt like I was losing my mind,” recalls the 35-year-old Huntsville, Ala., resident. “My counselor said I might not be sad that he was going but there is a loss of a dream and an expectation, and it’s okay to mourn that.”
She also walked by the river every morning, working through the emotions and anxiety she faced over ending the marriage. “I’m the first divorce in my family — there was a lot of anxiety about how my parents would react,” she recalls, but adds that much of her stress eased once she made the decision to leave the marriage. “After the divorce was filed and we were separated, I was pretty much just relieved and happy. I felt reborn.”

After the Breakup: Moving On

Whether you are the heartbreaker or the heartbroken, once the breakup is final and the divorce papers are signed, you have to move on. “The No. 1 thing is you have to face reality. Some people will try to delude themselves into thinking somehow that person is going to come to their senses. You have to grieve that loss,” says Parrot. This means:
•   Not blaming yourself
•   Ensuring you have the social support you need
•   Taking time to process the change in your life

Although the last thing you may feel like doing is walking in the shoes of your ex, Parrot argues that developing some empathy for him can help ease your own negative emotions. “Empathy gives you a whole new set of eyes. You have more grace, more sensitivity, more compassion for that person. That’s always in short supply in the midst of a dramatic breakup,” he says. This may be especially helpful if you have been through a divorce, but still have shared interests, such as children, property, or a business.
Of course, this doesn’t mean calling, texting, or e-mailing an ex regularly: you still have to move on with your new, post-breakup life.
Common Responses to Breakup: Anger and Rebound
“There’s going to be all kinds of anger. It can get out of control,” warns Parrot. Your level of anger will depend a lot on what led to the breakup as well as your own coping skills and personality traits, but it’s important to be aware of your anger and find ways to manage it. And whether you are sad, angry, or relieved about a divorce, Parrot advises, “Beware of rebounding — a lot of people want to jump back into another relationship, and that usually turns into a disaster.”
The breakup of a relationship is an emotionally challenging time — seek an outside opinion or guidance if you feel you are losing your way.

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:21 PM (11 years ago) | Hero

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:30 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:34 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:44 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

 

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:51 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 04:40 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I wish too that both of una never did that tongue tongue thing... 

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Posted: at 6-07-2012 04:56 PM (11 years ago) | Hero