I Wished I Never Did It......

Date: 06-07-2012 1:34 pm (8 years ago) | Author: Omogbolahan Babs
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- at 6-07-2012 01:34 PM (8 years ago)
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I Wish I Had Never Tried It-

It wasn't upto 2 weeks since the misunderstanding between us which resulted in my moving out from his place, did this pretty lady moved in with him.



Like really? How could he be so awful to me? They were even holding hands in public and even kissing. We were meant to marry hopefully before the end of the year. I wanted to die. Gosh.., a combination of humiliation and depression. Obviously our relationship had meant nothing to him–when to me, it was one of the most important things in life. How could I have been such an idiot for letting him mess with my emotions that way. I wasn’t sad anymore, I was livid. And I needed to find some way to get even with him.

If he thought he could just go off and be with another girl so quickly after our relationship was over, that sure meant that I could do the same with another man. But not just any man, I wanted to make sure that it was the one person that would hurt him the most-one of his best friends.

I knew which one to pick immediately; he had always been someone that my ex-boyfriend was jealous of. Without consulting my friends, I texted him the next day, asking if he wanted to hang out, but I’m sure he knew that I meant something more. When he came over, I was ready. There had always been some sexual tension between us but now, with my boyfriend out of the picture, nothing was stopping us . . . or me from having REVENGE SEX.

We kissed and it was really great, but it just didn’t feel right. His hands moved up my shirt and I liked how it felt but hated that it was him at the same time. I went down on him and wanted to make it fantastic for him, wanted him to finish, but only so the news would get back to my ex boyfriend. By the time we had sex, I don’t even know what I was thinking. I only knew that Revenge Sex wasn’t what I pictured it would be.

It was such a convoluted experience of things I thought I wanted and the emotions that only made me realize how bad of an idea it had all been. I felt dirty and wrong. Believe me, the sex was good while it was happening (when isn’t it?), but the way it made me feel after was so not what I expected. Revenge sex is NOT all it’s cracked up to be in the movies.

I wanted to go back in time and forget the whole thing. I wished that I could have found ANY other way to get over this relationship. Anything besides having Revenge Sex. I just wish I had known that it would have felt so wrong. If I had, I would never have done it in the first place.
But before you will jump to judging me; just put yourself in my shoes and think for a moment what you will do? I know that what i did was wrong and stated above that i wish i knew a better way to handle the breakup and uptil now, i don't know. I will appreciate if people could kindly tell me instead of judge me.

Stella


Posted: at 6-07-2012 01:34 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
- mizcollins1 at 6-07-2012 01:37 PM (8 years ago)
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 Huh? Huh?
Posted: at 6-07-2012 01:37 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- HOPEA23 at 6-07-2012 02:06 PM (8 years ago)
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una sabi kiss oo..see tongue kissing

Posted: at 6-07-2012 02:06 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 6-07-2012 02:20 PM (8 years ago)
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perifera

Posted: at 6-07-2012 02:20 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- nkemdil at 6-07-2012 02:22 PM (8 years ago)
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Forgive urself and move on. Luk for ur friends n hang out wit dem,esp look for someone U̶̲̥̅ can open up to,but be very sure d person won't use į̸̸̨† against U̶̲̥̅. I can b a friend if its ok by you. 08094571355.
Posted: at 6-07-2012 02:22 PM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- Eddysafe at 6-07-2012 03:17 PM (8 years ago)
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Why did you move out if the relationship was really important to you and why can't he have another after you said it was over?
My dear stop crying over spilled milk and work on developing virtues that will attracted loving and responsible males to you (not likes of your ex-boyfriend's friend). I am happy you've realized that there is nothing like revenge f**ck, you will only cheapen yourself. wishing you all the best in your future relationship.
Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:17 PM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- kebella at 6-07-2012 03:21 PM (8 years ago)
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is that a kiss or tongue bitting Undecided

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:21 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Idbabe at 6-07-2012 03:21 PM (8 years ago)
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HOW TO HANDLE BREAKUP

@ Poster/worried woman:  When you’re faced with the breakup of a romantic relationship, your emotions and thoughts may be so confused that it’s hard to keep track of whether you are relieved or heartbroken. In the wake of a breakup or divorce, you can reasonably expect to feel grief, anger, bitterness, or even excitement about a new future.

Surviving a Divorce or Breakup: The Importance of Objective Advice
Divorce is very different from the breakup of a romantic relationship between unmarried people. For one thing, divorce may take a lot longer — either because of the laws of your state or because you and your partner may have agonized through separations and attempts at reunification.
“In a dating relationship, I’d say don’t put off the breakup if you know it’s coming,” says psychologist and author Les Parrot, PhD, professor of clinical psychology at Seattle Pacific University in Seattle and founder of RealRelationships.com. “I’d give the opposite suggestion to someone that is in a marriage relationship. There’s so much that people can do these days to turn around a really tough relationship.”
 
Either way, Parrot stresses the importance of seeking the advice of someone who is objective. Choose a therapist or a faith leader you trust to give you honest feedback about your emotions and how you are handling the situation — friends and family are inclined to support you no matter what you do, which may not be what you need, says Parrot. An objective person can also help you see when you are becoming unproductively stuck in emotions like anger, bitterness, sadness, or the desire for revenge.

Katrina Smith turned to a counselor when she was facing the end of her five-year marriage. Even though she believed it to be the best decision, she still faced chaotic emotions in the year leading up to the breakup, worrying about how to break it to her husband. “At one point in time I felt like I was losing my mind,” recalls the 35-year-old Huntsville, Ala., resident. “My counselor said I might not be sad that he was going but there is a loss of a dream and an expectation, and it’s okay to mourn that.”
She also walked by the river every morning, working through the emotions and anxiety she faced over ending the marriage. “I’m the first divorce in my family — there was a lot of anxiety about how my parents would react,” she recalls, but adds that much of her stress eased once she made the decision to leave the marriage. “After the divorce was filed and we were separated, I was pretty much just relieved and happy. I felt reborn.”

After the Breakup: Moving On

Whether you are the heartbreaker or the heartbroken, once the breakup is final and the divorce papers are signed, you have to move on. “The No. 1 thing is you have to face reality. Some people will try to delude themselves into thinking somehow that person is going to come to their senses. You have to grieve that loss,” says Parrot. This means:
•   Not blaming yourself
•   Ensuring you have the social support you need
•   Taking time to process the change in your life

Although the last thing you may feel like doing is walking in the shoes of your ex, Parrot argues that developing some empathy for him can help ease your own negative emotions. “Empathy gives you a whole new set of eyes. You have more grace, more sensitivity, more compassion for that person. That’s always in short supply in the midst of a dramatic breakup,” he says. This may be especially helpful if you have been through a divorce, but still have shared interests, such as children, property, or a business.
Of course, this doesn’t mean calling, texting, or e-mailing an ex regularly: you still have to move on with your new, post-breakup life.
Common Responses to Breakup: Anger and Rebound
“There’s going to be all kinds of anger. It can get out of control,” warns Parrot. Your level of anger will depend a lot on what led to the breakup as well as your own coping skills and personality traits, but it’s important to be aware of your anger and find ways to manage it. And whether you are sad, angry, or relieved about a divorce, Parrot advises, “Beware of rebounding — a lot of people want to jump back into another relationship, and that usually turns into a disaster.”
The breakup of a relationship is an emotionally challenging time — seek an outside opinion or guidance if you feel you are losing your way.
Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:21 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- Treasure2 at 6-07-2012 03:28 PM (8 years ago)
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Is there no better way to take revenge on him than having it with his friend and why REVENGE SEX? You score your self so cheap before this men.  The day women will think before they act, will be the day they will become super in everything.
Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:28 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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- kebella at 6-07-2012 03:30 PM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: Idbabe on  6-07-2012 03:21 PM
HOW TO HANDLE BREAKUP

@ Poster/worried woman:  When you’re faced with the breakup of a romantic relationship, your emotions and thoughts may be so confused that it’s hard to keep track of whether you are relieved or heartbroken. In the wake of a breakup or divorce, you can reasonably expect to feel grief, anger, bitterness, or even excitement about a new future.

Surviving a Divorce or Breakup: The Importance of Objective Advice
Divorce is very different from the breakup of a romantic relationship between unmarried people. For one thing, divorce may take a lot longer — either because of the laws of your state or because you and your partner may have agonized through separations and attempts at reunification.
“In a dating relationship, I’d say don’t put off the breakup if you know it’s coming,” says psychologist and author Les Parrot, PhD, professor of clinical psychology at Seattle Pacific University in Seattle and founder of RealRelationships.com. “I’d give the opposite suggestion to someone that is in a marriage relationship. There’s so much that people can do these days to turn around a really tough relationship.”
 
Either way, Parrot stresses the importance of seeking the advice of someone who is objective. Choose a therapist or a faith leader you trust to give you honest feedback about your emotions and how you are handling the situation — friends and family are inclined to support you no matter what you do, which may not be what you need, says Parrot. An objective person can also help you see when you are becoming unproductively stuck in emotions like anger, bitterness, sadness, or the desire for revenge.

Katrina Smith turned to a counselor when she was facing the end of her five-year marriage. Even though she believed it to be the best decision, she still faced chaotic emotions in the year leading up to the breakup, worrying about how to break it to her husband. “At one point in time I felt like I was losing my mind,” recalls the 35-year-old Huntsville, Ala., resident. “My counselor said I might not be sad that he was going but there is a loss of a dream and an expectation, and it’s okay to mourn that.”
She also walked by the river every morning, working through the emotions and anxiety she faced over ending the marriage. “I’m the first divorce in my family — there was a lot of anxiety about how my parents would react,” she recalls, but adds that much of her stress eased once she made the decision to leave the marriage. “After the divorce was filed and we were separated, I was pretty much just relieved and happy. I felt reborn.”

After the Breakup: Moving On

Whether you are the heartbreaker or the heartbroken, once the breakup is final and the divorce papers are signed, you have to move on. “The No. 1 thing is you have to face reality. Some people will try to delude themselves into thinking somehow that person is going to come to their senses. You have to grieve that loss,” says Parrot. This means:
•   Not blaming yourself
•   Ensuring you have the social support you need
•   Taking time to process the change in your life

Although the last thing you may feel like doing is walking in the shoes of your ex, Parrot argues that developing some empathy for him can help ease your own negative emotions. “Empathy gives you a whole new set of eyes. You have more grace, more sensitivity, more compassion for that person. That’s always in short supply in the midst of a dramatic breakup,” he says. This may be especially helpful if you have been through a divorce, but still have shared interests, such as children, property, or a business.
Of course, this doesn’t mean calling, texting, or e-mailing an ex regularly: you still have to move on with your new, post-breakup life.
Common Responses to Breakup: Anger and Rebound
“There’s going to be all kinds of anger. It can get out of control,” warns Parrot. Your level of anger will depend a lot on what led to the breakup as well as your own coping skills and personality traits, but it’s important to be aware of your anger and find ways to manage it. And whether you are sad, angry, or relieved about a divorce, Parrot advises, “Beware of rebounding — a lot of people want to jump back into another relationship, and that usually turns into a disaster.”
The breakup of a relationship is an emotionally challenging time — seek an outside opinion or guidance if you feel you are losing your way.

haa!! google dey try o! Tongue

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:30 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 6-07-2012 03:33 PM (8 years ago)
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MAke una allow me to post my comment naaaaaaaaaaa.. haba  Angry

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:33 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- kebella at 6-07-2012 03:34 PM (8 years ago)
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abeg comot 4 hia Sad

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:34 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- omoehifavour at 6-07-2012 03:43 PM (8 years ago)
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Sophiebaby wat ur comment
Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:43 PM (8 years ago) | Newbie
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- omoehifavour at 6-07-2012 03:44 PM (8 years ago)
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Sophiebaby wat ur comment about 
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- sophiebaby at 6-07-2012 03:50 PM (8 years ago)
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Not untill i see urs will i type in a word.. oya whats urs?

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:50 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 6-07-2012 03:51 PM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: kebella on  6-07-2012 03:34 PM
abeg comot 4 hia Sad

 Grin

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:51 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- kebella at 6-07-2012 03:51 PM (8 years ago)
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 Angry

Posted: at 6-07-2012 03:51 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- richi192 at 6-07-2012 04:40 PM (8 years ago)
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abeg all una comment just dey mak me dey laf i say una too much Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 6-07-2012 04:40 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- malvin2525 at 6-07-2012 04:41 PM (8 years ago)
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 Undecided
Posted: at 6-07-2012 04:41 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dirtykid at 6-07-2012 04:56 PM (8 years ago)
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I wish too that both of una never did that tongue tongue thing...  Huh? Huh?

Posted: at 6-07-2012 04:56 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
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